Girlfriend starting drama for no reason

[Timshel]

Here's what you guys are missing. I didn't just randomly call my ex. She's actually my friend. I talk to her often. She's just a really cool person to talk to. She's down to earth. You guys are making it seem like I just called her for this. I talk to her a lot. Well........used to since she won't talk to me anymore. Either way I feel like that post didn't do anything but start drama. And make me feel like she's insecure. I don't see anyone who's secure in their relationship even addressing someone that doesn't care about you. I DID tell her it was no feelings there. She said "I don't like her" that's all she ever says. She's probably not going to stop attacking her whether I contact her or not. She said it doesn't sit well for her that two people who had so much drama and have been through so much together are comfortable talking to eachother in a friendly way. Basically she feels that with all of the drama my ex and I had when we were together, the fact that we still talk now must mean that we care about eachother.... I don't see it that way personally. People get over things right??

 

Sure, Gordon247, people (as in your gf) get over things. I will defer to the poster who asked 'what should be a one off' for your gf....has turned into a thread on a forum in defense of the relationship between you and your ex girl 'friend'?

 

If you favor your ex over her, then leave her. Ridiculous for you to think that two balls bouncing won't smack you.

 

Let your gf go. If my bf announced his embarrassment for my actions, no matter if inappropriate in favor of another woman....we would be finished on the spot.

 

You have invited insecurity on your gf's part with your own...that you haven't let go of the past. If you are angry, channel it in the appropriate direction.

[d0nnivain]

I don't care if it was about an ex or not....your GF is vindictive...BIG RED FLAG. I would just dump her TBH.

 

If she handles every problem this poorly, sure but if this was the 1st mistake let's see if both the OP & his GF can learn from this.

 

I say this because early on in my marriage a woman who I was extremely jealous of made a comment on my husband's FB page. He replied and then I posted something incredibly snarky and immature. I regretted it hours after I posted it. When I went back to delete it, DH had already removed it & he was furious with me for posting it. We had a big fight about that woman, boundaries, insecurity & fidelity.

 

While it certainly wasn't my finest moment, I don't think it or this is worth ending an otherwise good relationship.

 

Again if she pulls this nonsense again, then it would be time to re-evaluate the viability of the relationship.