ThePatientOne Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 Hi, I just recently got into an LDR with a guy whom I have known for 2 years. I am 21 and he is 20. We both know each other pretty well and we also know how we both feel about each other. We had constant communication and there's been lots that we been through before we decided to get into a serious commitment. During the first year we both liked each other and that time I was still with my ex. My current SO (who I will call "John") knew about it but I said to just continue talking and flirting since I felt neglected by my ex. A few months later, I broke things off with my ex so I was single again. "John" and I still talked the same way but then another guy who I met in a game liked me and started saying all these sweet things to me. Back then I was very easily swayed with sweet words and whenever a guy had an interest in me, I would like them back which. Also the fact that I broke up with my ex, made me feel a little lonely and miss all the sweet times. Anyway, "John" had no idea about because I did not tell him anything but he eventually found out who the guy was, which led to a huge argument. He got hurt, felt betrayed and felt like he was the wingman. I had no intention to make him to feel like that at all. Even until now, I still feel that guilt. So after the argument, we did not talk for 6 months since that was the amount of time that guy and I were together. There has been several times I wanted to msg "John" asking how he was but I just didn't have the guts to because I did not want him to think I wanted him for company's sake again. Surprisingly though after those 6 months, "John" msged me on Skype how I was and all that then we started talking again every day. I told him about what happened with that guy and how everything is going in my life and then I asked him about his. A good 5 months or so have past and I realized how much of a connection "John" and I had which was when we agreed to have a serious commitment. Sometimes he has doubts about me finding another guy because he tends to base things off from the past. I told him to just focus on the present and move on from it but since he is the type of person to keep a grudge, then it's difficult for him. So basically now, things between us are going well however the only thing is that he's not giving his all as yet. I'm giving mine bit by bit but not all. He cares for me and I care for him. We are both honest to each other, open about our feelings, trust each other and give space. Would love to hear your opinions about this! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 An important question before I give my two cents: have you met in person? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThePatientOne Posted May 9, 2016 Author Share Posted May 9, 2016 An important question before I give my two cents: have you met in person? No, not yet. We have already talked about meeting up tho Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 No, not yet. We have already talked about meeting up tho Don't get emotionally invested unless and until you meet in person. Online connections sometimes don't translate well in real life. To ease insecurity, you need to meet relatively soon. You can only carry on a long-distance friendship for so long before one of you loses interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts