Men: Do You Feel MORE Attracted To Young Women As You Age?

[TheBathWater]

Hey guys, I'm not sure how many of you can relate to this, but I'm in my early thirties right now and feel like over the last year or two I have developed a new preference for women who are in their early to mid twenties, I have no idea why. When I was in my early twenties, I used to pursue women who were nearly 10 years older than me, and then for a while I was dating women roughly my own age. This made sense to me because I always had the maturity of someone older, so I think I dated older until I 'caught up' to that number. But now suddenly I'm going backwards. What gives? Does this happen to a lot of other guys? I really don't think it's a mid-life crisis or anything like that (yet).

 

I think younger women are just so fun and feminine, and less demanding overall. It's certainly not long-term material in most cases but I can't help myself!

Edited May 9, 2016 by TunaInTheBrine

[carhill]

I think the last time I looked at twenties was when I was around 30. I did date a 29yo when I was 39 but that wasn't purposeful, rather she turned out to be that age after getting to know her. Since my friends have grand-kids that age, I tend to, now, look at the young ladies as grandchildren, not women to date/mate with.

[Shining One]

I briefly went through a younger woman phase when they started finding me attractive. Yes, they were (generally) nicer to look at, but I found I had no patience for the neediness/drama and the sex wasn't very good. While I don't generally factor age into my decision making process, I find that my preferences go in this order: Older -> My Age -> Younger.

[phineas]

i'm 44.

This time around on POF just about every woman my own age has ignored me on the site.

Women in their late 30's seem responsive and i'm getting women in their early 30's messaging me.

 

I've also recently had a 31yr old I met through mutual friends come onto me along with a 35yr old.

 

I have no idea what is going on. LOL!

[truth_seeker]

I love the idea of showing up to the next big family reunion with a young hot wife... lol.

[SammySammy]

No, I don't.

 

Although the last woman I was with is twelve years younger than me, I find myself attracted to a wider array of women.

[scooby-philly]

Every woman is different just as most "generalizations" about men wouldn't fit me - so keep in mind you need to also look at where/how you meet women and what type of image/personality you project to the world.

 

I'm 34 - will be 35 next month. I didn't really date till late twenties - long story. Started going out and dating seriously - target when I was 30 was 26-34. Met someone at 31 who has 1 1/2 years older. After that, was 33 and met someone who was 29. At 33-34 met someone who was 39. Now, I'm looking at younger only for "dating" - 28-34. However, I'm finding that younger women (22-30) now find me much more attractive now than they would have when I was in that age range myself. I had a FWB that was 22 for several months last year. It was fun - but to the point of several posters - while I had fun I eventually want a relationship that will last and she wasn't mature and while I don't expect life to be perfect - I'm also not going to date someone long-term who's 22 without even an associate's degree and has a kid already. I mean, she's nice and we parted very, very amicably - but I'm not looking to be a father figure. Honeslty, I would have no problem dating let's say a woman who was 26 and in medical school or 28-32 and a medical resident - but I'm not playing the waiting game forever.

 

But, it all depends on a person's life, their choices, and their perspective and preferences.

 

I don't think sex with younger women, per se, is worse. But, they are more inexperienced on average and, despite the plethora of porn out there - plenty of women are still conditioned to not ever learn how to listen to their own bodies and don't think about how to please their partners. I.e. "religious" or moral, or whatever else. I mean I had an ex who wouldn't even let me see her stuff let alone pleasure her. So it's hit or miss

 

However, I would argue that you made a fallacy in your statement that they're less demanding - I've met younger women that are demanding and older women that aren't. Seriously - it all depends upon personality. I think if you do online dating you can judge or via email determine at least if they're way to one extreme - but if not - even meeting up in person ther'es a list of things where I don't go past first dates - so again - you may be just finding older women who you aren't screening out early enough.

[Superman2024]

I'm 31 and also tend to be more attracted to and date women in their early to mid-twenties. I can't totally explain why but it seems to be a natural tendency for me. I recently went out with a gorgeous 30 year old woman too though, so I don't limit myself to just the younger ones either.

[Buddhist]

This thread is like asking a dog if it likes bacon.....

 

Well I'm not a man but I'll take a wild stab at things shall I? You're over 30 and are suddenly beginning to realise that your body is not immortal. It's subtle at first but there is that creeping sense that you can't quite do all the things you used to thoughtlessly do.

 

So the race is on, to get back that feeling of immortality. Oh look there's some young people over there, having fun like I used to. I might go join them and forget about this ageing business.

 

No, you're not having a mid-life crisis yet. That entails much more difficult life questions. What you're having is the typical knee-jerk reaction everyone has when their body no longer miraculously instantly recovers from our usual abuse of it. It's still clutching at straws though.

[Blanco]

Physically, sure. Deeper than that? No way. I'm not even that old (early 30s) and I already find it really difficult to listen to most young twentysomethings talk.

 

But that's OK. They're allowed to be a bit inane. It's one of the reasons why I think it's weird when someone around my age or older dates a college-aged girl. Let them live those young and dumb years without casting your shadow of 9-to-5 jobs, mortgages, and other general dull "grown up" stuff.

[smudge21]

I think my attraction has never been based on age (I do generally want someone who I can talk to rather than have to text with), but I will say that as I've got older, I seem to have gained the attraction from younger girls. For example, in my late thirties had two early twenty year olds chase me... WTF! So maybe it's a two way streak - that younger girls look for older men and in turn, older men notice and return the favour. I don't know really. It's been a mystery to me (a fairly happy one though). However, like a previous poster said, I don't seem to have that much success with women my own age. Go figure.

[Grumpybutfun]

I just heard my 21 year old daughter and her friends in the kitchen talking about some creepy thirty year old Old dude trying to hit them up at Starbucks. They were seriously making some noise about it. I would rather walk over hot coals than deal with that age group as anything other than someone's dad.

No attraction at all, but I'm not single and pretty smitten with my wife.

G

Edited May 10, 2016 by Grumpybutfun

[Jabron1]

Hey guys, I'm not sure how many of you can relate to this, but I'm in my early thirties right now and feel like over the last year or two I have developed a new preference for women who are in their early to mid twenties, I have no idea why. When I was in my early twenties, I used to pursue women who were nearly 10 years older than me, and then for a while I was dating women roughly my own age. This made sense to me because I always had the maturity of someone older, so I think I dated older until I 'caught up' to that number. But now suddenly I'm going backwards. What gives? Does this happen to a lot of other guys? I really don't think it's a mid-life crisis or anything like that (yet).

 

I think younger women are just so fun and feminine, and less demanding overall. It's certainly not long-term material in most cases but I can't help myself!

 

Men and women hit their sexual prime at different ages. I believe a woman's sexual prime is 23, and a man's is 34. That explains your experience (and the experience of a lot of guys in general).

 

So, a man getting into his 30s (that knows what he's doing) should have more/better options than he probably ever will.

 

As for an actual preference, I'm at odds with you. When I was in my teens and early twenties, I seemed to go out with women that were a bit younger. From my mid-twenties to now (29), I've been more into variety.

 

I do agree that younger women can be a lot less demanding. But, I find their heavy reliance on pop-culture to be grating. The last girl I went out with was twenty years old, and she tried to convince me that Taylor Swift was a seriously respected musician - apparently because of her 'country music credentials' . And trying to convince me to do things like 'Snapchat' which I'm not interested in either. I'll leave that crap to the orbiters.

Edited May 10, 2016 by Jabron1

[Otter2569]

Personally I have always been attracted to mature women and even as I get older I like women closer to my age. In general I have no desire for some chic in her 20's (but I also wouldn't turn down the opportunity). For me there is something about a hot, mature woman that just gets me going.. just my preference.

[Zippy2000]

Definitely true. The last girl I asked out was 23 and the a girl who I spoke to on OLD was 26.

 

Im 41. As we grow older. Men can date down. Look at all the famous people who have younger wives.

[Jabron1]

Definitely true. The last girl I asked out was 23 and the a girl who I spoke to on OLD was 26.

 

Im 41. As we grow older. Men can date down. Look at all the famous people who have younger wives.

 

The interesting thing is that the average age of marriage for men is 33 (just as their coming up to their sexual peak). Whilst the average age of marriage for women is 30 (past their sexual peak).

 

If guys understood their value, and adapted to the current dating scene, more men would be waiting until 40 to get married.

 

Many men never fully experience their peak sexual years, but rather choose that moment to cash in their chips and leave the dating scene.

Edited May 10, 2016 by Jabron1

[Emilia]

Definitely true. The last girl I asked out was 23 and the a girl who I spoke to on OLD was 26.

 

Im 41. As we grow older. Men can date down. Look at all the famous people who have younger wives.

That's because they are rich and famous. If you put yourself in that category, you are deluded. Otherwise it would be the norm I presume 'asked out' and 'spoke to' means you aren't dating them, that should tell you something....

 

The reason why most people in marriages are close in age gap is that those that can relate to the opposite sex in a healthy way tend to chose a partner and that usually means relating via shared life experiences. Rather than objectify them based on superficial qualities.

[Phoenician]

not anymore ,I m 44 , my girl is 17 years old ; any lady below 25 is a kid for me by now ...

[salparadise]

This thread is like asking a dog if it likes bacon.....

 

 

Ha, that's the truth. And especially when the bacon is more than willing to rub your belly and scratch behind your ears.

 

Throughout recent history, three million years or so, men who prefer twenty-somethings have been considerably more successful in terms of their existential genetic proliferation endeavors. So those genes multiply rapidly while those determining a preference for older are quickly extinguished. We're hard wired. I do think we have some capacity to override genetic predispositions with rationality and intention, but not to eliminate it.

 

Personally, I think late forty to early fifty somethings are smokin' hot if they've taken care of themselves (and have good genes). Of course that still means I'm attracted to women born a decade later than myself. Luckily, they don't see that as a problem... there are a lot of attractive women who are age agnostic, and many even prefer older men.

 

Some twenty-year-olds still elicit a certain visceral response of course, but I recall what a pleasure it is to be with an intelligent, emotionally mature woman and my interest quickly switches to their mothers.

[Jabron1]

That's because they are rich and famous. If you put yourself in that category, you are deluded. Otherwise it would be the norm I presume 'asked out' and 'spoke to' means you aren't dating them, that should tell you something....

 

You don't need to be a 'celebrity'

 

You do need to have value. Most men in their 30s have their sh*t together, and the ability to attract far more than they did in their 20s.

 

The reason why most people in marriages are close in age gap is that those that can relate to the opposite sex in a healthy way tend to chose a partner and that usually means relating via shared life experiences. Rather than objectify them based on superficial qualities.

 

Actually, it's because a lot of women no longer want to be married young. But, rather choose to settle at a later age now - preferably to a man in his sexual peak.

[Shanex]

I do find women (girls) in their early to mid 20s very attractive. Im barely a decade older so I wouldnt come across as the creep.

 

Likewise Jabron Ive had variety.. In my 20s I dated or been in RS with women from just 20 to 40. Of course its not all only about physical attractiveness.

 

I can relate to the OP point being the same age. I still find many women in their 40s very attractive too. And tbh more appealing personality speaking.

[Shanex]

@Jabron: Emilia is right. A 6/7 millionnaire or billionaire celebrity will have women (or men if being a lady) flock to him. This fact is older than the Parthenon.

 

Set up a fake 9/10 average joe account on any dating sites he will barely get 2/3 messages a Day.

[Jabron1]

@Jabron: Emilia is right. A 6/7 millionnaire or billionaire celebrity will have women (or men if being a lady) flock to him. This fact is older than the Parthenon.

 

I'm not Clint Eastwood. I attract women 10 years younger.

 

My dad isn't Sean Connery. He was 32 when he married my mum who was 24.

 

My uncle isn't Roger Moore. He is on his second marriage to a woman 10 years younger.

 

My granddad wasn't Marlon Brando. His last girlfriend before he died was about 15-20 years younger.

 

It's about value. And a man's value rises as he gets older.

Edited May 10, 2016 by Jabron1

[Shanex]

Post liked for actors references Mr Durden

 

Do you look your age? Im told I look younger clean shaved and on a good day. This also matters.

[Aniela]

I'm not Clint Eastwood. I attract women 10 years younger.

 

My dad isn't Sean Connery. He was 32 when he married my mum who was 24.

 

My uncle isn't Roger Moore. He is on his second marriage to a woman 10 years younger.

 

My granddad wasn't Marlon Brando. His last girlfriend before he died was about 15-20 years younger.

 

It's about value. And a man's value rises as he gets older.

 

It sounds more shallow, than anything.

 

My dad's second marriage was to a woman ten years younger. They divorced, and he remarried my mother, who is two years older than him. He told me he thought she was just as "hot" in her forties.