Emaize3 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 (edited) Hi, I was recently in the break up section since January when break up #2, we will call E- crushed me after 1 1/2 years together. We were so happy and I wanted to marry him. I'm 47 and have been divorced from my kids dad since 2006 and really want a partner. I'm still sad over E but we had a lot of differences, he says and I'm starting to now see it. So, break up #1, we will call J. He was my bf before I met E. We were together for 5 years and lived together for 8 months. He had a hard time living with my kids. Now he realized that all he wants more than anything is me!! He's taking me ring shopping and on trips. He wants to sell his house and we will buy a house in my part of town. He says he's fine with the kids. He will accept and support them. He just wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Wow! How I only wish he said that before. But, he's saying it now. I know it's all true. He misses me and can't wait to see me. The problem here is that with our history and me falling for someone else after him, I'm not in love with him. He's also 11 years older than me which I am concerned about since we're not 20 anymore. I'm seeing him and taking trips with him and hoping for the best. I have love addiction, so maybe it's best that I'm not super crazy for him just yet. We had our share of problems, but he makes me laugh and he's very giving and we have a lot of fun! He's ready to make a life with me. Please note, that E is done with me no matter how I feel about him. And I don't want to work on me anymore. I want a life partner too. It's definitely time and I don't have to energy to meet someone new. I just don't want to regret anything here either. We will not rush anything. No marriage plans just yet, probably looking at a year at the least. So, we're taking things slow. He knows how I feel and is being patient. I am in therapy since the last breakup, but dying to know what my LS friends think. Edited May 10, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fands Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 The problem here is that...I'm not in love with him. Well, that sure screwed up the happy ending. Otherwise, it was a cool story, but I'm really looking forward to the next chapter, when you introduce some new characters. Obviously you're still the lead, but those other guys don't have the chemistry to make this script pop. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emaize3 Posted May 11, 2016 Author Share Posted May 11, 2016 Anybody have any advice for me? Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Anybody have any advice for me? Reflect on this: "Falling in love seems much, but is little. The slow discipline of love seems little, but is much." Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Sato pretty much nailed it with his quote. I'd like to add that if you feel like you have a love addiction maybe it would be better to not Se or talk to anyone for a specific amount of time. . 6 months 1 year etc until you have better control over all this stuff. Right now your post feels like you're bouncing around directionless. You aren't helpless to your own emotions. Find your center. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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