Zayz Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 First time making a post like this. Anyway, I have known this girl for 9 years in my school and have had a crush on her for 4 years. I am in Grade 10 and are one of those people that are very uncomfortable when talking to girls 1-to-1. She had a crush on me too 3 years ago but I didn't take action and she moved on. We used to be good friends too but we faded away from each other. Also, this year she is in none of my classes so I don't know how to aproach her. Firstly, how can I become friends with her again?. Secondly, how can I move the friendship to a greater level? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beatles4 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Probably best you move on pal? Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 This probably isn't going to be what you want to read. Your chances with her are very low unless you can determine what made her like you to begin with. I had a crush for around 5 years but I could never really make a move and waited until the last day of school where I wrote a letter telling her how much I liked her. Got me nowhere. Unfortunately it seems when it comes to dating you only really get one chance with people, trying to go back and recreate that chance is almost impossible. I really can relate to not being able to approach people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ChocolateRain Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Do it the old fashioned way ... write on a small piece of paper '' i miss you '' look at her and without words walk away ... if she likes you she will give signals . Take a chance otherwise you will forever ask yourself '' what if '' ...good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Horse Posted May 13, 2016 Share Posted May 13, 2016 Honestly, it's not even worth it to crush on a girl for many months or years without ever taking the initiative and attempting to pursue friendship or dating. Let's put it this way, if you like a girl, you probably want to be in a relationship with her right? I mean why else woudn't you have a crush on a girl? And you can't get a girlfriend if you never attempt to ask her out or show interest. If you talk to the girl you like and eventually ask for her number, you will either have success or you will fail and get rejected. But if you never try, then you will never reap the benefits of having a girlfriend. The reason why it's never good to obsess over a girl for so long without ever doing anything is because you're wasting precious time when you could simply find out rather quickly if she likes you or not then move on if she doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
LostOne1 Posted May 13, 2016 Share Posted May 13, 2016 First time making a post like this. Anyway, I have known this girl for 9 years in my school and have had a crush on her for 4 years. I am in Grade 10 and are one of those people that are very uncomfortable when talking to girls 1-to-1. She had a crush on me too 3 years ago but I didn't take action and she moved on. We used to be good friends too but we faded away from each other. Also, this year she is in none of my classes so I don't know how to aproach her. Firstly, how can I become friends with her again?. Secondly, how can I move the friendship to a greater level? I used to be like you... I would sit there and just think about the future related to a girl I hadn't even talked to yet..... It always ended the same way.... I never won. In the end you HAVE to talk to her or communicate in some way. There is no other option to succeed as I have found out. I'd say take a chance and go for it. Maybe you win.. maybe you don't. But you can't and will never know till you try. As Michael Jordan once said.. "I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But, I can't accept not trying". Just go up to her and TALK. Say anything.... Hi hey how are you etc... And smile... Then just tell her you want to take her out next week. It's that simple. She either says no, she's busy etc.. Or she says sure and you grab her number. Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted May 13, 2016 Share Posted May 13, 2016 The fantasy of someone... they can never live up to. Even if you pursue this girl and ask her out and start dating... it won't be as good as you would like because you've made this mental construct of who you think she is that will get in the way of you seeing her for her. You're best bet is to give someone else a chance. Maybe her seeing you happy with another chick will kick in some jealousy factor and your time with the other chick will function as both a practice round at dating and a way to curb your emotions for the one your pining over. Just my opinion. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 13, 2016 Share Posted May 13, 2016 Well, it's normal to be awkward around the opposite sex at your age, but you have to get out of your comfort zone to mature. Next time there is a school dance and it's announced, do not wait -- right away once it's announced, go up and ask her to the dance or text if you have her number. All she can say is "no" or "maybe" or "I think I'm going with someone else." But then at least you know if there's any chance, and that's what you need to face to move on if necessary. Maybe she'll say yes. If she does, dance close and kiss her at her door at the end of the night unless she says "This is too weird." Link to post Share on other sites
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