ReluctantRomeo Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by lovehurts05 Well I am beginning to realize that it is his loss, not mine. And I sure hope he will realize this one day! Yup. Think what a bastard he's being to this new girl - wedding day and he's thinking of you. I wouldn't want to be with someone who treats people like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts05 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 RelunctantRomero you are right, I know he is putting up a front with this new woman who she probably thinks is the perfect man! Wait until she sees the real side of him. I am thinking this marriage won't last more than a year or 2 given the fact on how long they have known each other before they got married (which is a month), and also right before he gets deployed, who knows what is going to happen when he gets back! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts05 Posted July 12, 2005 Author Share Posted July 12, 2005 I have been receiving phone calls from my ex lately, he left me a message (cause I did not answer his call) saying that he got married, but wanted to say a last goodbye before he gets deployed this weekend, and starting saying that I will always be his best friend in his heart and he would have NOT made through some times without me. I did not call him back because I have already said my good bye to him a few weeks ago, and at the time I told him not to call me anymore. When he left me this message, he said he was not going to call me anymore, but yet he called me the day after at work, but I hung up on him . I have got to the point to where I don't want to hear from him, and just want him to leave me alone, and let me move on! What does anyone think of this? Link to post Share on other sites
miss-gonewest Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Love, I think you are really strong and I really admire you and all you have been through. None of this situation has been easy or fair on you and I think you have shown strength and maturity. I don't doubt that you will hear from him again - he sounds terribly confused and I maybe think he may still be a little in love with you deep down. Can I ask how old he is? And do you know anything about his new woman (I feel bad saying wife!)? Is she also in the military? From her point of view it all sounds terribly strange - I wouldn't be comfortable marrying a man whom I'd known for only a month, especially when he was due to be deployed; I don't really see that as a true and sincere partnership or marriage. I think that you are doing the right thing by not talking to him... in fact its really unfair of him to be calling you and laying this on you; its also unfair to his wife. Keep strong, and try and put this chapter behind you... there are far better things ahead for you. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 my heart went in my stomach reading that. youre dealing better then me, for you. i really didn't think your ex was going to get married. i don't know. just an (APPARENTLY WRONG) gut feeling. i wonder if he didn't really know this woman more than 1 month, and maybe you just don't know that. maybe he was corresponding with her on the Internet over a longer period of time than anyone knows or something and then finally physically met her. my ex was sneaky like that. anyway you are handling it good. my ex still has his fiancé in asia but i also heard how i was there through tough times for him and helped him through life. yeah yeah yeah. that's nice to know. but it hurt still and NOTHING can take that away. i don't mean to sound so bitter but i do wish he'd get a taste of this. life interrupting his life, dreams, plans, hope love heart. i really wish i were with him of course but..i am angry too. i didn't want him as a transition. omg i am sorry i shouldn't write/post anymore. i am no help. i am still such a mess. still love him so bad..still want him..still cant accept it. i am so pathetic some days i just don't want to wake up. i pray God lifts me from this. but i am too down to even lift myself. you are an inspiration though as far as your strength goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts05 Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 Miss-GoneWest, I think he is confused also, I am thinking he just wants some kind of security before he gets deployed, and I think him getting married was the thing to do. As for his new "wife" all I know about her is that he met her when he went for some training in May, but told me at the time she was just a "friend'. She is also in the military but not same branch as he, she is not from the same state we live in, she lives in another state, so as far as I know this is a long distance relationship until he gets back from deployment, than I think they are going to get a house together (from what I heard from a friend of mine). He is 30 yrs old by the way. All this just sounds all confusing to me, I PERSONALLY think he is going through some kind of emotional phase because he is leaving soon. I have began to move on. I am staying strong, and try not to think of the past, I am trying my best to move foward. If this marriage lasts for him then I am happy, but I really don't think it will last very long (Maybe). Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by lovehurts05 He is 30 yrs old by the way. Way too old to be behaving like an irresponsible teenager. I have began to move on. I am staying strong, and try not to think of the past, I am trying my best to move foward. If this marriage lasts for him then I am happy, but I really don't think it will last very long (Maybe). Good attitude. Since we reap what we sow, I'm predicting a rather better romantic future for you than for him Link to post Share on other sites
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