mixeypixey Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Yeah so i just came out of something quite painful and stressful (affair w married person). Im kinda lazy but at the same time some opportunities are open to me, and some are so attractive id be super dumb not to at least try. So i finally got the number of a super hot girl at the office. Weve been giving each other the eye for a few weeks, and i finally found the nerve and situation was just right to get her digits. Anyways been texting just a little tiny bit for a week. I havent had the chance to talk to her again at the office, i feel so awkward just trying to hit on her around others i kinda just feel, like this is work not a bar. Anyways after my previous experience something happened to me, and ive been fking up a lot and dont want to fk this one up. So should i continue just texting? Or ask her out? Or talk to her at the office. Ive been fkin up a lot, that im just so scared of doung the wrong thing. Her response has been good so far but shes a model, pageant winner etc so she is playing quite hard to get, which is so crazy annoying. I kinda need advice. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Never, ever, EVER, EV-ER date in the workplace. Ever. Period, end of story. Never. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ChocolateRain Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 beat her with the same tactics lol play a bit hard to get too ... as a woman i can say it drives us ( some of us ) crazy ... but of course it depends on the individual Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Mixeypixey, The best advice I can give you is - stop it right now. And, don't $h!£ where you eat. Got it ? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Sounds like she may have digited you just to yank your chain ....are you the office Cassanova by any chance? She'll smell your fear from a mile away btw, so with some SNL advice ("be attractive/don't be unattractive") - be confident/don't be afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mixeypixey Posted May 11, 2016 Author Share Posted May 11, 2016 Well yeah i actually just wanted to take a break for a while, cuz my previous thing just wore me out. But the place where i work is littered w beautiful women (occupational hazard). Im not wanting to marry this girl or anything, shes just too hot to pass up, and she does seem interested so it wld be a waste. Anyways i gather just go up to her in the office. i shall do that thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Ask her and a couple of office buddies to happy hour after work, plus her. If you haven't asked her out, how would you know she's "playing hard to get"? If she's a model, unless you're rich and at least semi-good looking, she IS hard to get and isn't playing anything. She's probably very busy if she is single. But she gave you her number and I presume you have at least made it clear it wasn't for work purposes that you got it at the time, but that you were interested in her? In which case, see if she wants to go to happy hour with you and a couple others and then if so, see how that goes and then ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Think long and hard about whether you want an office romance. What happens if it doesn't work? What's your exit strategy? Can you really handle seeing her every day? What if she's a nut job that tries to sabotage your career after you break up? As bad as every break up is, breaking up & having to be professional to the person every day is a special kind of hell. Once you have decided you want to risk that, then organize a group event after work & invite her along. There . . . in a bar . . . you can ask her out. Very simple. Link to post Share on other sites
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