Feels like I am back to square one :(

[mariababy]

I felt in the past couple of weeks I had already moved on from my breakup. (It happened 3 months ago) But, last night I found out that he is now in a relationship with someone he started dating six weeks after we broke up. (Which is a month after I started NC with him - still in NC with him and no intentions of breaking it).

 

We were together for only 6-7 months, so I highly doubt it is a rebound plus he was the one who broke up with me. It took him 9 months to get over his first gf of 2 weeks and I was his second gf and according to him his "real first gf".

 

I feel extremely sad that I meant nothing to him because he quickly replaced me. I know I am worth more than what he thinks of me, but yet I feel so so horrible because I can't get that thought out of my head.

[ALL OR NOTHING]

I felt in the past couple of weeks I had already moved on from my breakup. (It happened 3 months ago) But, last night I found out that he is now in a relationship with someone he started dating six weeks after we broke up. (Which is a month after I started NC with him - still in NC with him and no intentions of breaking it).

 

We were together for only 6-7 months, so I highly doubt it is a rebound plus he was the one who broke up with me. It took him 9 months to get over his first gf of 2 weeks and I was his second gf and according to him his "real first gf".

 

I feel extremely sad that I meant nothing to him because he quickly replaced me. I know I am worth more than what he thinks of me, but yet I feel so so horrible because I can't get that thought out of my head.

 

Don't feel sad , life's to short , in a few months you won't even care about it anymore and a few months after that Youl find someone better , just keep smiling!

[Methodical]

You hung your heart on his words about being his first real gf and that it supposedly took him 9 months to get over a girl he dated 2 weeks. Yet, he jumped back into the dating pool a few weeks after having dated you for 6 - 7 months. That's niggling at your heartstrings.

 

You admit you deserve better, and that's a step in the right direction. Guys (and girls) will tell you what they think you want to hear to get what they want. I don't think you meant "nothing" to him; otherwise, he would have broken up with you sooner. But, you were def. more invested in the relationship than he was.

[sorano]

Its going to take a bit longer than 3 months. The first few months, it will be tough. Then you will feel like you are getting over him or her. Out of nowhere, you relapse and it starts all over again. Lots of people who I talk to, even myself, will relapse around like the 4th month.

 

The good news is, it will start to get better and better, day by day, hr by hr. Trust me.

[SixxChick]

I meant nothing to him because he quickly replaced me.(

 

Yep. This was the tough realization. In my case, he used me as his own personal ATM (stupid me). Once I shut it down, he was out of there. Well, good luck to his replacement, right? It could eventually happen to her too.

 

Hang in there.

[ALL OR NOTHING]

I felt in the past couple of weeks I had already moved on from my breakup. (It happened 3 months ago) But, last night I found out that he is now in a relationship with someone he started dating six weeks after we broke up. (Which is a month after I started NC with him - still in NC with him and no intentions of breaking it).

 

We were together for only 6-7 months, so I highly doubt it is a rebound plus he was the one who broke up with me. It took him 9 months to get over his first gf of 2 weeks and I was his second gf and according to him his "real first gf".

 

I feel extremely sad that I meant nothing to him because he quickly replaced me. I know I am worth more than what he thinks of me, but yet I feel so so horrible because I can't get that thought out of my head.

 

It doesn't matter if you think he's happy , it's very likely he's not at all , let's be honest if a handsome man came into your life and flirted with you would you say no? You can't blame him for recovering his own way yeh it's harsh but life unfortunately is and ppl deal with things differently , the fact that your still broken after 3 months means that you loved him with your whole heart , this is a great quality for any potential new bf and you should be proud of the fact you actually care about the ppl you love.

 

It's now time to stand up and grow , there are moments in life when we have a choice to either let something destroy us or decide that this will make us! Don't fight the pain , except it , the pain is you! Feel it and embrace it and channel it into your dreams , it's a great time to reach for something you never thought you could and if you do before you know it Youl look back an feel blessed that this happened sat there with your new man new job and the new you. You are your soulmate so start falling in love right now with someone who won't ever leave you and will never give up on you!

[smudge21]

You're being forced to accept the reality of who this person truly is, rather than that image of him you fell for and put on that pedestal. It will hurt, but it will also help you move on and let go completely as you'll realise that the person you loved doesn't actually exist. It's often the case we hold onto love for the fantasy, the person we wish they were. Only by seeing the truth, finding out how cold they are, that we finally accept the truth and can start to begin knocking down that pedestal they're on. Stick with it, it does get better but it also takes time. Every bit of news will be a set back so try to avoid that stuff.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

last night I found out that he is now in a relationship with someone he started dating six weeks after we broke up.

 

How did you find out? If your friends told you, it might be a good idea to ask them not to tell you this sort of information about your ex.

 

If you found out through social media it might help to block him so you aren't tempted to look. No good will come from knowing what your ex is up to while you are trying to heal.

[mariababy]

You're being forced to accept the reality of who this person truly is, rather than that image of him you fell for and put on that pedestal. It will hurt, but it will also help you move on and let go completely as you'll realise that the person you loved doesn't actually exist. It's often the case we hold onto love for the fantasy, the person we wish they were. Only by seeing the truth, finding out how cold they are, that we finally accept the truth and can start to begin knocking down that pedestal they're on. Stick with it, it does get better but it also takes time. Every bit of news will be a set back so try to avoid that stuff.

 

I couldn't agree more. When we first dated, he told me that he needed someone to be with and sometimes he don't know if he really loves someone or if it is just attachment that he needed because he was lonely. I guess, I was just someone he needed to fill his void and not someone he really loved.

[mariababy]

How did you find out? If your friends told you, it might be a good idea to ask them not to tell you this sort of information about your ex.

 

If you found out through social media it might help to block him so you aren't tempted to look. No good will come from knowing what your ex is up to while you are trying to heal.

 

I have blocked him on social media the day we broke up (Both of us hardly used facebook, but I figured I would do it anyway). I accidentally found out through a mutual acquaintence who trying to tell us how much of a "douche" he was and how I dodged a bullet.