Love2015 Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 Hi everyone! I have finally hired the lawyer and filed divorce based on adultery (he cheated less than a year married and is living with her after discovery) He stopped communication and we still have to work on property stuff but he is not working on it...it's 50/50 but he doesn't participate in what he wants to do abt it. I was ok to get amicable divorce yet as he stopped communicating, filed based in truth He has not contested it and tomorrow my lawyer has invited me to sign papers to go ahead Within the month divorce will be granted. However, I am not happy. I had to end the marriage as he ended it with his actions and disrespect after that ... yet, I feel I want to talk to him once as to make sure. It's just not fair the boat him put me in and I got not even closure except just filing and getting over it. Any advice? Talk? Sign without talking? Forget about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 I feel I want to talk to him once as to make sure. It's just not fair the boat him put me in and I got not even closure except just filing and getting over it. Any advice? Talk? Sign without talking? Forget about it. What would his words convince you of that his actions haven't already proved? Sign and consider yourself lucky you were only married a year to this liar and cheat. Get even - and find closure - by living a happy and fulfilling life. It really is the best revenge... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love2015 Posted May 12, 2016 Author Share Posted May 12, 2016 I have a question. My soon to be ex husband is not participating in the anything...no divorce process...no property sale...etc..he still has the keys of the house. I am in Canada. By law not suppose to change locks. Should I still go ahead anld do so? Should I inform him? I was thinking of yes effectively changing the locks and emailing him saying I did so and if he wanted the spare key he could have it. My question is why would he not be cordial enough to give back the key when he is not living there but with another woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned_2011 Posted May 12, 2016 Share Posted May 12, 2016 He's probably avoiding you because he's ashamed about the cheating and the divorce, which is obvs his fault. I'd change the locks, I'm sure he won't care. Shoot him an e-mail and let him know. Since he hasnt returned the keys, and is already living with somebody else, it is common sense to change the locks. I know it's still "his" house officially until after the D, but he doesn't sound like he's going to give you much drama about it, and you'll feel better......you don't want him to show up unannounced, do you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
afoolto no end Posted May 13, 2016 Share Posted May 13, 2016 I would say change the locks, tell him by email that process has taken place, he can't communicate with you again, I am sure the OW is very frightened of continued contact with you, she is now in the same position you were in when he was having his affair with her...... Most affairs don't last, the reason that allowed him to have his affair will be the same reason they won't be able to trust each other, they both know they will. Your better off without a cheater in your life, don't worry about him being in contact, just keep him informed so he knows ...... wish him well with his affair and live your life better than his........ Link to post Share on other sites
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