Heartbroken

[Whoknew30]

I actually know many couples who have suffered infidelity that the therapists recommended that the cheater apologize to the older children....you see...the infidelity hurts the entire family....especially if the children are old enough to understand what has happened.

 

As a matter of fact...my best friends husband cheated on her. They tried reconciliation for a year....the therapists recommended that he apologize to not only her adult children...but to both sets of parents.

 

These are young kids that shouldn't be in the middle of their parents relationship. Once again kids is not what should hold a couple, especially bc marriage wasn't important enough to discuss & now since there is no real commitment, the kids are being used bc there isn't anything else to say minus, he cheated on his girlfriend. She said her self it's 2016...well these are 2016 problems, being a baby's mama with no real commitment & thinking just having kids is what commitment is but wanting the respect of being a wife...she's not his wife...now she's dealing with the reality she partly helped create. Have no standard & there won't be one. I'm being honest, I've seen it sooo many times.

 

 

Also even through infidelity I would never allow the kids to get sucked in...it only hurts the kids when the parents can't get it together in front of the kids. There is NEVER a reason kids should get sucked into their parents relationship. Parents will all ways be the parents no matter what happens in their relationship...especially in this situation bc they're not married. I've yet to see one person not be able to get over their parents divorce, the only time kids have problems is when a parent leaves them for good & or they're dealing with one or both parents being a non stop emotional mess in front of them.

[Whoknew30]

I actually know many couples who have suffered infidelity that the therapists recommended that the cheater apologize to the older children....you see...the infidelity hurts the entire family....especially if the children are old enough to understand what has happened.

 

As a matter of fact...my best friends husband cheated on her. They tried reconciliation for a year....the therapists recommended that he apologize to not only her adult children...but to both sets of parents.

 

These are young kids that shouldn't be in the middle of their parents relationship. Once again kids is not what should hold a couple, especially bc marriage wasn't important enough to discuss & now since there is no real commitment, the kids are being used bc there isn't anything else to say minus, he cheated on his girlfriend. She said her self it's 2016...well these are 2016 problems, being a baby's mama with no real commitment & thinking just having kids is what commitment is but wanting the respect of being a wife...she's not his wife...now she's dealing with the reality she partly helped create. Have no standard & there won't be one. I'm being honest, I've seen it sooo many times.

 

 

Also even through infidelity I would never allow the kids to get sucked in...it only hurts the kids when the parents can't get it together in front of the kids. There is NEVER a reason kids should get sucked into their parents relationship. Parents will all ways be the parents no matter what happens in their relationship...especially in this situation bc they're not married. I've yet to see one person not be able to get over their parents divorce, the only time kids have problems is when a parent leaves them for good & or they're dealing with one or both parents being a non stop emotional mess in front of them.