Wife texting ex husband

[sandylee1]

Why would it be different if you were texting your Ex?

 

Is it because you don't have kids with her or that the kids are older?

 

My H was texting his ex and ONE text was too much for me. I told him if it didn't stop.. I'd reconnect with all the Exes I could and see how he liked it and I was damn serious about it. That didn't please him at all and it soon stopped, but they didn't have kids together.

 

I think if you were able to see the messages you'd feel a bit more reassured ..... but some Exes remain on very good friendly terms.

It's one of the issues being married to a man or woman who has an Ex that they have kids with. There will always be a need for them to be in contact.

 

Does her Ex have a partner at all? Not that it makes a difference.

[cdaq]

Tell her it's too much and ask her how she would feel if you were texting your ex gf or ex wife with the same amount of texts she's sending him. Tell her how it makes you feel when she does this.

 

May I how you two got together? Did you meet her when she was already divorced or did you two have an affair and then she divorced, married you? This may have something to do with why she's still attached to her exH.

 

We got together through a mutual friend. We were both divorced at the time. We met about 3 years ago, been married for a little over 1 now.

[cdaq]

Why would it be different if you were texting your Ex?

 

Is it because you don't have kids with her or that the kids are older?

 

 

Yeah, thats it. My kids are all older and hers are younger. Like I said though, it's not like I have a problem with the communication, I dont, its the frequency.

[kamani]

How many kids does she have and how old are they? Some people prefer SMS over call as it is cheaper and some are so addicted to it.

[wbm665]

Depends on what is going on. Do you have much of a relationship with her kids to know if something is up that needs discussed? It isn't odd for my ex and I to exchange 20 text messages a day (that is me sending 10 and him responding to them). We have a child with ADHD and autism and have easily gone over 250 when we are discussing him or a problem we may have had that day at school, etc. Or arranging their summer camp schedules/vacations, etc. I just checked my phone -- we had 94 text messages between us on Tuesday, but our daughter was sent home that day with lice. Made for a higher level of contact going through what needed done/cleaned/where kids were going/supplies, etc.

 

 

Now, anyone I am with can look at the exchanges. couldn't care less. The man was physically and emotionally abusive to me and there is less than 1 in a billion chance we are getting back together but our friends think we are the poster children for how to co-parent. And you know what -- even with a special needs kid have never EVER had an issue with them dealing with the divorce.

[Just a Guy]

Hi cdaq, sorry to see you face such a dilemma. I had a fee questions which, if you don't mind, can you please answer. Firstly, what was the reason for your wife and her ex divorcing? Was it infidelity or some other reason? If it was infidelity who was the WS and who the BS? Secondly, what is the state of your relationship with your wife? Are you two very close or has it settled into a comfortable ' Take each other for granted' state where the two of you are more like room mates?

I guess both of you would be in your mid forties or early fifties so your relationship would be much note mature and quiet than that of a young, first time married couple.

Whatever it is the one thing that is paramount is that there has to be complete trust and faith between the two of you. If that is lacking then you know where your relationship is headed. The sooner you resolve this issue the more the chance of your relationship lasting a lifetime. Warm wishes.