Guys, how often do you think of the one that got away ?

[avenal]

Have you had a "one that got away"? Either it didn't get off the ground (never met in person, didn't have the balls to express true feelings) or one that ended abruptly or over a misunderstanding that you weren't able to correct? Do men get over that easily, as there was no (or little) sex involved? Let's say you even thought about marriage, she was your soulmate, etc.

[ashteller]

All the time when I am single.

 

Every woman I ever had a great romantic relationship with, which was all 5 of mine, especially my last one who I had to let go because I was not there for her emotionally or mentally. I am sad by it, but at the time I felt it was the best way I could show my love for her by asking to end it since I could not give at that time and I was only receiving. I would have proposed to her I believe.

 

There is also the one time that 1 of the two hottest girls at my gym was hitting on me and I felt out of her league when she wanted to get to know me more and work out with me. I stopped going to the gym for 6 months. Thought I was out of her league because I see other guys always flirting and hitting on her and I could see her disinterest in them an her rejecting them. I ask her a question about an abdominal exercise and since then it blossomed and I felt intimidated cause at that point I was about 200lbs and just lost about 120lbs used to being a fat boy. Also was only going to that gym for 8 months. Any ways I regret that one and that could have been a fun relationship.

 

For me sex is third place. First is mental connection, then emotional, then third is physical.

Edited May 13, 2016 by ashteller

[alphamale]

Have you had a "one that got away"? Either it didn't get off the ground (never met in person, didn't have the balls to express true feelings) or one that ended abruptly or over a misunderstanding that you weren't able to correct? Do men get over that easily, as there was no (or little) sex involved? Let's say you even thought about marriage, she was your soulmate, etc.

 

back in the late 80s and early 90s there were three girls that "got away". Mainly because of my lack of experience with women and immaturity.

 

I think about them from time to time. I could have married one of them and had kids very easily. But, alas, that was not to be.

[BlueIris]

Yes, there is one. It was 1977 and I was 17. His name was Kevin. We sat next to each other in math. He was very popular and very cute. Dang, he was cute. Sigh. Anyway, he was the classic popular guy. He was a starter in the big 3 boys sports, tall, blond, this quick sparkly smile, pretty good at math, and always nice to me, nice to everyone really.

 

My BF and I had broken up and Kevin had broken up with his very cute freshman GF, Joy. We talked a lot of course since we sat next to each other. I was a swimmer who looked like crap every day. My hair was swimmer flat and my eyes were red every day. Well… one day, Kevin asked me to prom. I was shocked and I said no because... He was too good for me? I didn’t think I deserved him? Maybe everyone would ridicule him if he took me to prom? He should have been with Joy? It didn’t make sense, me dating Kevin. I don’t know exactly, just that I wasn’t good enough or he was too golden and perfect, but I said no.

 

Yep. He’s my one who got away. Because I was scared and stupid. Oh well.

Edited May 13, 2016 by BlueIris

[SammySammy]

I don't consider any of my exes the one that got away, my soulmate or anything like that. However, if I'm honest, I think about them all from time to time. Some more than others. They were important parts of my life, why wouldn't I?

 

That doesn't mean that I miss them or want them in my life. Just that something triggered a memory or a thought ... and I thought of them. I hope all of them are doing well.

 

I pray for my ex-wife all the time. She's the mother of my child. Of course, I want what's best for her. She just buried her mother yesterday. She's been on my mind a lot.

 

That's life.

[basil67]

I rarely think of my exes...and none of them were 'the one who got away'

[smudge21]

I would imagine every one does this - whether that person just went away, or we pushed them away, or simply didn't read the signals and the boat sailed without us onboard. There is nothing worse than regret but also we have to remember that at the time, for whatever the reason, we just didn't feel it at that moment. I recently missed out on a "fun" evening simply because I didn't want to rush in there as I have in the past... now that's faded away and I do wish I was more of the player attitude, but at the time, I was true to myself. I did what I wanted to do, regrets be damned!

 

The past is the past. You can't change it (DeLoreans could never reach 88mph) so all you can do is learn from it.

[basil67]

There is nothing worse than regret but also we have to remember that at the time, for whatever the reason, we just didn't feel it at that moment.

 

This ...^^^

[hasaquestion]

I rarely think of my exes...and none of them were 'the one who got away'

 

I think about exes now and then, even the high school ones. But I don't get the whole one who got away thing. They're exes for a reason.

[understand50]

Never have.....

 

There have been women that I have wondered what may have been, if I had not married early, but never to the point I regretted getting married early to the one I love.

 

My two cents

[Liam1]

Have you had a "one that got away"? Either it didn't get off the ground (never met in person, didn't have the balls to express true feelings) or one that ended abruptly or over a misunderstanding that you weren't able to correct? Do men get over that easily, as there was no (or little) sex involved? Let's say you even thought about marriage, she was your soulmate, etc.

 

Never..... in the sense that they got away and I am pining over them.

 

I may think of them fleetingly, but not with a sense of loss.

 

To my mind there is no point in looking to the past with regret.

 

Look to the future and try to shape it into what you want your life to be.

 

Looking back, IMO, just stagnates your energy.

[2.50 a gallon]

I was lucky in that I had a great sex life, partners in the triple digits, but now that I am retired I some times remember the ones that got away.

My first love was when I was a senior in high school with a sophomore. She lived a couple of streets over, and sometimes I would walk home with her and her friends. We talked of possibly dating when she turned 16.

But her parents were into some serious religion. They wanted her to only date guys who went to her church. No card playing. No drinking. They frowned on dancing. Very restrictive.

Her year older brother had the hots for another junior, and whined until the parents agreed to let him go to a school dance. She jumped in and said if he can go so can I.

We danced a couple to times, and with the last one she wrapped her arms around my head and pulled me down for our first kiss. The first for her.

Her brother got shot down and seeing the kiss ratted her out. No more dances and she was forbidden to be with me.

But thru mutual friends we did get to see each other a couple of times and she did get to ride with me. She thought I drove like crazy.

I graduate and move on the college and never see her again. Thinking she probably married some boring guy from her church.

Twenty years later, I get off a plane in Denver and walking back to the terminal I notice some hot stews walking with their roll ways. And one of them the hottest of all sort of looks like her. I almost called out her name, but her in high heels, no way.

Thirty years later we hook up on FB, yes she had retired as a flight attendant, and that was probably her, she quite often had lay overs in Denver.

And she too regretted that I had not called out her name, as lay overs in Denver were boring and as she said she had always wanted to find out how I was in bed.

Edited May 14, 2016 by 2.50 a gallon

[brothers343]

There's only one......and that's the one I have now. Everyone else, is but a distant memory.