Cell phone question [updated]

[Lobe]

YST, how goes the battle?

[NotASkunk]

It may just be porn but something he may be embarrassed to let you know about. Gay porn or midget sex. Sex is weird and sometimes people don't want their fantasies known.

[NotASkunk]

. If he's looking at gay porn but tells his wife he's straight, that's a problem.

 

Exactly, Curly!

[yepsurething]

YST, how goes the battle?

 

well currently trying to battle for placement of my grandkids, the state wants to put them up for open adoption to strangers. We've been fighting them (the state) for 2 years and they just ended my daughters parental rights a couple days ago. we're devastated.

 

and I'm trying really hard to just stop 'snooping' on my husband. ended the key stroke and stuff on his computer...it was costing money and I have to start somewhere. I stopped putting the recorder in his car or bag for the most part...that ones been tough, got hooked on the safe feeling of hearing his day.

 

and I stopped the program that got all of his texts etc from his phone. kind of cold turkey on all of it. been very hard I will say and Im feeling nervous, untrusting, but don't know what else to do.

 

all this family stress too is a lot to take.

 

anyone else have a tough time breaking away from spying and just getting back to trusting?

[yepsurething]

It may just be porn but something he may be embarrassed to let you know about. Gay porn or midget sex. Sex is weird and sometimes people don't want their fantasies known.

 

well, he is embarrassed of some of his porn, but we've talked quite a bit about it, he showed me what he looks at, what he likes etc.

 

so, I don't doubt he looks at porn secretly...not much I can do about that, but I thing he was hiding texts that were crude and inappropriate etc.

 

now, doesn't seem like he's hiding anything.. but it's soooo easy to hide stuff. who knows.

[road]

You couldn't possibly trust after what he's done.

 

You may not want to spy anymore...but I think it's mainly because you don't intend to change a thing no matter what you find. He knows you're spying - that's why he's behaving.

 

 

My best guess is he has a burner phone - that's why he offers you his phone you know about.

 

He figures you won't go looking for his hidden phone. It's probably kept at his office.

 

This is why the BS never ever reveals how they found out. This is why a VAR hidden in the house and WH car is a must. A long with a key logger on the PC and a real time GPS on his car.

 

 

Trust what you see but verify the rest.

[cc_zero]

This is why the BS never ever reveals how they found out. This is why a VAR hidden in the house and WH car is a must. A long with a key logger on the PC and a real time GPS on his car.

 

 

Trust what you see but verify the rest.

 

Yea, you almost have to verify in order to regain trust or else you are always questioning.

 

I gave up checking the phone, email, etc. I'm only doing 2 things to help myself regain trust and verify. GPS in the car and I got trail cams watching the driveway to the house. Basically.. I just want to verify she's never driving to the AP's house or the AP coming over when I'm at work.

 

I'll do that for a year past Dday and if I don't catch anything for a year, I will assume that's enough verification and stop it all.