Second chance or playing games

[Jasong80]

Me and my ex recently broke up. We both played our part in it and I was willing to own up to my part in it and eventually she did the same. We were keeping in contact here and there and then she had some rude stuff to say.

 

I finally hit my breaking point and responded back with some not nice stuff but let her know how I felt and was brutally honest. A few hours later she called me and said listen I dont want to fight with you. Now mind you before this she wouldnt answer my calls or even call me it was strictly texting. She said lets give this a month and talk here and there and see how it goes. She said I was thinking of trying us again in a month or so I just need sometime to get over everything.

 

So now in the meantime, i text her and say hello and keep in touch because I really do love her. I text her this morning and said good morning, how are you and she says im fine, going on a walk. She never bothers to ask how im doing or even bothers to text me, its always me texting her.

 

Why did she call me that day I blew up on her, just to make sure she could keep me on the back burner in case she decides to give me a second chance or is it just to play games? Should I just move on and forget about it? I feel like one minute she is like give it a month but on the other hand she doesnt even seem like she is trying its all me.

[Simon Phoenix]

Because she didn't want to be the bad guy. She didn't like you "going off on her" so she said that to calm you down and not make you think less of her. Except for that she's not very communicative with you. What you need to do is stop checking in. Take the month and leave her be. If she's serious about the month, she'll contact you. If not, then you need to keep moving forward.

 

But stop texting her. It's not attractive.

[LostOnes05]

She was probably surprised by how you responded. You weren't begging and pleading with her and it probably increased her attraction slightly. I've come to realize that a lot of women like and will create drama...even when things are going well. I wouldn't talk to her anymore until she makes the effort. Otherwise you are chasing her and she hasn't done anything to deserve the amount of effort you're putting in yet.