40daysforthen253 Posted May 14, 2016 Share Posted May 14, 2016 Just moved to San Francisco. Want to meet people (Friends etc.), find things to do and get a dating lifestyle. Found a couple weekly mixers. Doing meetup.com. Seeking volunteer opportunities. Tried tinder a little. Things went well. A few girls broached going out but went silent when I proposed a day? One agreed to the day and we kept texting but flaked. Any other tips? San Francisco specific? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 14, 2016 Share Posted May 14, 2016 Yes.Make sure you're in an earthquake-proof building. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted May 14, 2016 Share Posted May 14, 2016 Nirvana. SF is nirvana. Anyway, here's an idea: Film Night in the Park ? San Francisco Neighborhood Theater Foundation Link to post Share on other sites
loverboy69 Posted May 14, 2016 Share Posted May 14, 2016 Always keep a spare sweatshirt or hoodie handy. Early to mid summer can offer some pretty chilly days/nights (by California standards) particularly on the west side. It could be a relatively nice sunny day and then all of a sudden this cold and damp airmass will descend on the city out of nowhere. The warmest part of the city with the least amount of fog is the east side. You don't really need a car if you live in the city. You can either walk or Uber/Lyft/Cabby a ride anytime of the day or night. Avoid spending time alone in the Tenderloin after hours. Also watch out for some of the homeless who ride bikes. They can sometimes be purse or wallet snatchers. Grab and go. Get used to homeless begging for money all day every day. The cities homeless problem is out of control. SF just surpassed New York City as the most expensive rental city in America. I'm sure you've already figured this out. If you are a fan of drugs they are everywhere. You'll see a lot of people walking the streets who act like zombies. They are probably just high. You'll even see old ladies in their 70's trying to sell you Crystal at the corner. I've never seen so many trans hookers. They usually hide out in the back streets. They are aggressive and sometimes don't take NO for an answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted May 15, 2016 Author Share Posted May 15, 2016 Nirvana. SF is nirvana. Anyway, here's an idea: Film Night in the Park ? San Francisco Neighborhood Theater Foundation awesome! thanks Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Saturday morning at the Ferry Plaza is a great place to meet fellow foodies. When I had a doughnut blog, I bought two dozen Pepples Donuts and just started sharing them with people to get their impression. Shocked at how many wanted to stay in touch with me after that. Tomorrow is Bay To Breakers. Head to the Ferry Plaza at 7:30 a.m., take your clothes off, and jog to the Cliff House. You will meet THOUSANDS of crazy people en route... There are also so many hipster wine bars and speakeasies that you could easily get involved with the cocktail culture by joining a whisky club or whatnot. When I was single and living near Japantown (I now live down the coast, near Half Moon Bay), would go to a lot of lectures at City Lights Books, The Commonwealth Club, Long Now Foundation, and the Jewish Community Center. It was great to meet like-minded individuals. I also attend the Opera and Symphony, but it was harder to meet people at those events. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author 40daysforthen253 Posted May 16, 2016 Author Share Posted May 16, 2016 Saturday morning at the Ferry Plaza is a great place to meet fellow foodies. When I had a doughnut blog, I bought two dozen Pepples Donuts and just started sharing them with people to get their impression. Shocked at how many wanted to stay in touch with me after that. Tomorrow is Bay To Breakers. Head to the Ferry Plaza at 7:30 a.m., take your clothes off, and jog to the Cliff House. You will meet THOUSANDS of crazy people en route... There are also so many hipster wine bars and speakeasies that you could easily get involved with the cocktail culture by joining a whisky club or whatnot. When I was single and living near Japantown (I now live down the coast, near Half Moon Bay), would go to a lot of lectures at City Lights Books, The Commonwealth Club, Long Now Foundation, and the Jewish Community Center. It was great to meet like-minded individuals. I also attend the Opera and Symphony, but it was harder to meet people at those events. Good luck! Very good. Thank you very much! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 (I'd still keep an ear out for earthquakes, though. Why people gravitate towards a known, proven and historically frequent site of danger, is beyond me.... that goes for living at the foothills of active volcanoes, too...!) Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted May 17, 2016 Share Posted May 17, 2016 How old are you? If you're under 30 or want to meet women under 30, join a co-ed team. Kickball or softball, or there's one called Sunday Recess. There's a more chill bocce league for the 30something crowd. Out of all the cities I've lived in, SF is definitely the easiest to make friends. Whether or not you'll like your new friends is a whole other issue! What neighborhood do you live in? What was always so strange to me is how cliquey people can be about neighborhoods. After living in LA which is so much larger, it was weird how people in SF act like traveling from one side of the city to another is such a huge ordeal. And where do you work? If you work in the financial district, just start going to happy hour. You will meet tons of people that way. As far as dating goes, you'll need to stay up to date with the newer apps. You live where people are creating those apps, so SF tends to jump on to the newer ones first. Tinder is definitely not that cool anymore, neither is OKCupid. Bumble is a good one. http://www.bustle.com/articles/139838-10-best-dating-apps-for-singles-in-san-francisco Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted May 17, 2016 Share Posted May 17, 2016 In the back of my mind I keep thinking if I should try to move there. I love nerds and geeky techy guys. I've heard conflicting info on the percentage of male vs female single heterosexual population. Is it favorable to women or not? Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted May 17, 2016 Share Posted May 17, 2016 What you're really asking is are there more gay men than straight? There's plenty of straight men in SF to go around. The real issue is the Peter Pan problem. And my personal experience is that women in SF are prone to not want to settle down or glom onto traditional committed relationships as well. Just like the stereotypes, it's a city full of very free-spirited, individualistic people. Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted May 17, 2016 Share Posted May 17, 2016 Not really. I know there are plenty gay men. My question was about the straight men... if they are dateable or like you said have Peter Pan complex or are commitment phobes and whatnot. Well, sounds just like NY. I thought there were so many geek males that there were less women to choose from. What you're really asking is are there more gay men than straight? There's plenty of straight men in SF to go around. The real issue is the Peter Pan problem. And my personal experience is that women in SF are prone to not want to settle down or glom onto traditional committed relationships as well. Just like the stereotypes, it's a city full of very free-spirited, individualistic people. Link to post Share on other sites
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