Shy guy

[Angel29]

I met a guy 3 years ago through meetup.com groups. When he was first introduced to me he was very shy but we were able to have a chat and spoke on a few other occasions. As time went on he struggled to look me in the eye or would leave after not long arriving which we would not have chance to speak.

 

I am in my 30s now and he is 38, it is quite clear he lacks confidence which some mutual friends have confided this to me. Recently this guy has used a cryptic clue on his dating profile using a song lyric as a tagline. When I looked up the meaning of this song it is about a guy who adores a woman but lacks confidence to even speak to her so admires her from afar as he feels he is not good enough. I am not saying this tagline is aimed at me but why would he put a negative tagline if he wants to appear confident to other women on the dating site?

 

He seems to be a regular visitor to my social media page. All this time I thought he wasn't interested but his behaviour makes sense. I do like this guy and feel we could have something good but he lives 40 miles away so I don't see him often and that he lacks confidence make me wonder. Is it worth dating someone who lacks confidence or move on? I am shocked someone is so shy at that age. I don't criticise him for being shy but feel sad it can hold him back.

[kidm]

Is this the same guy you've posted about since 2013? If he hasn't made a move, he is not interested. I don't think it has anything to do with him being "shy." Didn't you already tell him you liked him? Yah nothing is going to happen with this one.

[Dark Horse]

Try initiating conversation with him and being open to conversation. For us shy guys, it's far easier to get comfortable around a girl if she's super nice and friendly to us first.

 

So basically play the role of pursuing.

[mortensorchid]

Some shy guys are just that, shy with women. But are they in other aspects of their lives as well? I have been with many who lack confidence about themselves, only now I see it as hindsight is 20/20. They have all disappointed me and other women they were with after me. One was a classic example of a loser who I dated in college. He and I dated for a flash, then he left me because he was failing and I wasn't. We worked together at our college radio station, he had a job as music director which was a tremendous job to receive and rate all music. And he quit that job and left all of us hanging to find a new music director. His reason? He was being paid more at a job in the computer lab. Bull****. He didn't want to do the work for it and sitting on his can in the lab didn't require any effort.

 

Do you want to be with a man who isn't going to put forth any effort? Because he won't in any aspect of his life.

[Audacious]

There is something about being man that always makes asking a girl out a "thing " , meaning it is not easy but it is not hard as well ,I guess it has to do with asking someone who worth the trouble .

 

when a guy asks a girl out ,it's a zero some game , he is either gonna get a yes which would surely makes him happy or a no which would sting no matter how experienced of a guy he might be .

 

just signal him that you're interested and see how it goes , if he is too timid of asking a girl who is interested out then you don't need a guy like that in your life .