kandi13 Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 ok well I am so mad right now. I was going out with this guy, and I absolutely fell in love with him... So much in love, I guess it turned into an obsession I was controlling and I called him like 40 times a day and I always wanted to know who he was with and things like that He broke up with me....about 2 weeks ago....and I have been thinking. I want to change. I dont want to be so clingy. I told him this and he doesnt believe me. the past 2 days I havent been calling him as much...maybe 2 times a day....im mad becuase I want to prove to him I changed and I want him to give me a second chance. Hes been askin me what I want in life...and everytime I told him my answer he thinks im just sayin it to win him back...I am so lost and I have no idea whatsoever I could say to get him back. help....what can I say Link to post Share on other sites
miss-gonewest Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Good luck is all I am going to say. Before you even think about getting this guy back, you may want to address your own issues first. Start by going back and reading your post. Its all about "me" and "I" and about how mad YOU are... YOU were the one that drove yourself to a relationship breakup - you were the one that called 40 times a day and you are mad at him? Its going to take a lot longer than 2 weeks to get rid of that kind of insecurity and neediness. I've never been that bad, but I am still working on my neediness after having been in and out of relationships for over 10 years! I'd suggest taking some time out to review why you behave the way you do - you yourself said you were obsessive, and thats a really dangerous trait to posses. Do some reading. Talk to someone. If you can afford therapy, get it now, before you do something you will regret. And for goodness sake - leave your ex alone. Two phone calls every day is bordering on being a stalker - people have been reported to the police for far less. If you really mean well, then you will invest the time and effort into improving yourself before you go back to him. If you are just angry because your pride is hurt, then you are on a path to destruction and heartache. Sorry to be harsh.... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 40 times a day? To think I just ran out of Advil. Did you put out as much as you called? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kandi13 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Share Posted June 22, 2005 haha funny no i never had sex with him..... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 He'd stick around if you did... then you could call him all you like. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Originally posted by kandi13 ok well I am so mad right now. I was going out with this guy, and I absolutely fell in love with him... So much in love, I guess it turned into an obsession I was controlling and I called him like 40 times a day and I always wanted to know who he was with and things like that He broke up with me....about 2 weeks ago....and I have been thinking. I want to change. I dont want to be so clingy. I told him this and he doesnt believe me. the past 2 days I havent been calling him as much...maybe 2 times a day....im mad becuase I want to prove to him I changed and I want him to give me a second chance. Hes been askin me what I want in life...and everytime I told him my answer he thinks im just sayin it to win him back...I am so lost and I have no idea whatsoever I could say to get him back. help....what can I say Nothing you can SAY will win him back. You know where your problem lies, a lack of self-esteem and confidence. You need to work on that. Stay away and don't contact him. Focus on building your self-esteem and confidence (I suggest a Counselor who will work with you on it.) When he sees that you are no longer calling him and you don't need him to survive, he MIGHT want to talk to you again. But if you don't make an honest change for yourself, you will find this happening in other relationships. So focus on improving your self-image and even if he never calls you again, you'll be better prepared for the one Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 He'd stick around if you did... then you could call him all you like. this guy is funny lol ahahaha.. hey this is serious ok lol.. naw look yea you need to chill damn 40 times a day gwad the boy probably sufacated lol.. im sorry but u chased him away.. trust me i did that once with this guy i used to like and ugh i got tired of him lying and saying that he wasnt home psh yea right he was i just chased him away lol o felt bad for myself.. lol but neways hmm have you really changed?.. mayb you sould disappear for a while like dont call him at all and then hell be like why isnt she calling me or stuff like that and then hell realise that you have changed give time for yourself too you need to think of stuff you did to run him off like that.. why were you so obssesed for him? were you afraid of him to leave you or something? Link to post Share on other sites
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