I've always put women and relationships on hold and now I think I've made a mistake.

[Laprus9]

I've always put women and relationships on hold because I was too busy focusing on studies and too busy focusing on various career choices. When I was 15 all of my friends had girlfriends and some even proclaimed they were sexually active, but none of that interested me, I was busy focusing on my grades. I left school at 18 and wanted to join the army, but I couldn't because I had a history of asthma and needed to be four years clear of receiving any pumps (pumps are a mandatory requirement for schools), well for four years, I worked my butt off at the gym, I worked late nights to pay for the gym, pay rent and have some beer money. Well waffle aside I didn't make it into this regiment and I was left feeling blue, so for two years I was a bum, I worked part-time, lazed around the rest of time, drinking beer, playing video games.

 

My friend became concerned for me, so he suggested that I study for a degree. I was reluctant at first because I am not really an academic person, I am not very intelligent, but I thought why not give it a shot. It's a part time course that takes six years and I am half way through it as of now. I work part-time, and study part-time, so I am pretty busy.

 

I am doing well on my course, but I feel as though I have made a mistake by not placing a greater desire to have relationships. I'm 27 and I haven't dated since I was 19, I'm so inexperienced for someone my age and I feel embarrassed about it. I always just assumed it would happen for me and it hasn't. My passive behavior has led to me being abnormal and because I feel pressure, I feel awkward and I am becoming more and more socially awkward. I don't socialize much at the moment because studying takes up my time along with work.

 

I don't know what to do.

[ZA Dater]

I've always put women and relationships on hold because I was too busy focusing on studies and too busy focusing on various career choices. When I was 15 all of my friends had girlfriends and some even proclaimed they were sexually active, but none of that interested me, I was busy focusing on my grades. I left school at 18 and wanted to join the army, but I couldn't because I had a history of asthma and needed to be four years clear of receiving any pumps (pumps are a mandatory requirement for schools), well for four years, I worked my butt off at the gym, I worked late nights to pay for the gym, pay rent and have some beer money. Well waffle aside I didn't make it into this regiment and I was left feeling blue, so for two years I was a bum, I worked part-time, lazed around the rest of time, drinking beer, playing video games.

 

My friend became concerned for me, so he suggested that I study for a degree. I was reluctant at first because I am not really an academic person, I am not very intelligent, but I thought why not give it a shot. It's a part time course that takes six years and I am half way through it as of now. I work part-time, and study part-time, so I am pretty busy.

 

I am doing well on my course, but I feel as though I have made a mistake by not placing a greater desire to have relationships. I'm 27 and I haven't dated since I was 19, I'm so inexperienced for someone my age and I feel embarrassed about it. I always just assumed it would happen for me and it hasn't. My passive behavior has led to me being abnormal and because I feel pressure, I feel awkward and I am becoming more and more socially awkward. I don't socialize much at the moment because studying takes up my time along with work.

 

I don't know what to do.

 

I can relate particularly to the bold parts. In terms of what to do, I am don't know the answer, I am 32 and haven't had much luck at dating

 

 

What I can suggest is to keep yourself busy, find something you are passionate about, pursue that, find happiness with yourself. While I give that advice I know the inexperience thing will in all probability play on your mind often.

 

 

Not much I can offer I am afraid apart from the fact I sympathise with you.

[RedPurpleOrange]

Nike said it quite simply.

 

 

"Just Do It".

[Kics]

Don't feel bad it happens. I just turn 25 and I haven't even had any serious relationships. I have put dating on the back burner because I hate it. At least you are not a girl and have a biological clock ticking lol. You can try online dating or meetup for singles? There are plenty of people that are waiting to date or get married later in life.