[advice] on tinder profile? Single girl here

[Kics]

I am 25 years old and haven't dated much after college. A few months ago I tried okcupid but all the guys wanted to hookup and were very immature. My sister and a friend both met their boyfriends in Tinder and I figure I would try it. I hate playing games and I would like to find a guy that is interested in a serious relationship. Any ideas on setting up a profile?

[TimmyC]

Yes, DELETE IT! Never had a good experience with tinder, the concept is stupid. It encourages you to like someone based off of their looks. Sure you can view their mini profile but the first thing you see is their picture and it's a yay or nay. They nicknamed it the perfect "hookup/onenighter" app.

 

I personally recommend match.com or eharmony. I've had 4 friends get married from using match, not sure about eharmony... However if you join a site that you have to pay for, people tend to be more serious about finding a partner. It's something I'm considering myself.

[Beren]

Although I'm not a huge tinder fan (or OLD in general). I don't think tinder is bad as it is made out. Yes it is based on looks initially. But isn't that what it's like in real life anyway? You see someone you find attractive or interesting and you want to know more about them. That's how it works for me anyway.

 

I also know a couple of people who have met their partner on Tinder so it's not all one night stands. Tinder is more casual than sites match or eharmony though. You'd definitely find more people after a serious relationship there. But even though I'm not a huge OLD fan, I'd still use tinder over these other sites, and I'm not after one night stands, but I feel tinder is more relaxed and feels less forced.

 

Profile tips?

 

Have a couple of pictures. Mention a couple of interests. I wouldn't put "after a serious relationship in there", but if you'd like to weed out some people something like "not after one night stands" can work. Match with some people. Talk to them and see where it takes you!

[hasaquestion]

I am 25 years old and haven't dated much after college. A few months ago I tried okcupid but all the guys wanted to hookup and were very immature. My sister and a friend both met their boyfriends in Tinder and I figure I would try it. I hate playing games and I would like to find a guy that is interested in a serious relationship. Any ideas on setting up a profile?

 

A few things.

 

1. I love Tinder. Don't listen to the people screaming about how Tinder is a hookup app and you should go to a "dating site". All of these electronic are means for people to contact people they are attracted to. Tinder is blunt about it and that bothers some people. Own it.

 

2. No matter what medium you use, real or electronic, guys are going to want to hook up. That's an occupational hazard of meeting men. If you don't want to hook up with people then don't hook up with people.

 

If you want to have a "classy" Tinder profile then I think the following guidelines would help:

(1) No cleavage pictures, sounds obvious but a lot of people do it.

(2) No mirror selfies.

(3) No cleavage mirror selfies. If a picture is worth 1,000 words then this is the 1,000 word phrase for "daddy issues".

(4) Selfies in general should be avoided, one is fine but trust me. It makes you look like you don't have a social life, and are thus more screwable than dateable.

(5) Make sure one of your pictures has your whole body in the frame. If you put a bunch of pictures of your face only, we'll figure you're hiding something.

(6) Don't link your Instagram to your Tinder. It makes you look basic as hell. You don't want to look basic as hell.

(7) Put something in the description. It doesn't matter what it is, just something. Funny or irreverent is ideal. Guys will hit you up either way but trust me, no tagline at all is the "I watch 5 hours of Netflix a day and have no soul" look.

(8) On the other end from not having trashy pictures - don't be one of those girls who says "If you're lookin for a hookup keep lookin mmmm hmmm sista!" If you don't want a hook up then don't hook up. There's class in subtlety.

[Kics]

Thanks for the advice! I will try it and see but going in with zero expectations