My ex-boyfriend is a lying, cheating, porn-addicted dirtbag and I HATE him!!!

[Jeannie]

Why is it when you're apart from them you miss the hell out of them???? I don't get it - and boredom makes it all that much worse. When you're used to their constant phone calls, going out with them, doing everything together then it's suddenly GONE and you sit there in silence.........that's the hardest.....

 

I still can't get past the sitting by the phone praying he'll call saying he wants to work things out. It's pitiful - I wish there was a pill that I could take that would erase him from my memory.

 

Everything he did that bugged me - I miss.

[chaos70]

Since I seem to be in cliche mode: "Never now what you had until it's gone".

 

The whole thing makes me wretch quite honestly. It tears you right in half...part wanting them (her) back...the other reviling that you even had a relationship with them (her). I found myself buying groceries at the store that she liked, and something I really didn't care for. I'm checking out the line, and thinking to myself...why the hell is there a bag of butterscotch candies in my cart? Then it starts to set in...the "ah crap...shoot me...I miss them".

Then I see I have like 15 episodes of that damn show "Starting Over" still taping on my PVR. And stupid me didn't figure it out until I started to watch an episode...that I DIDN'T even like the show, so why was I watching it.

 

If you need some funding for that pill, keep me informed because I need a whole bottle of it.

[miss-gonewest]

Originally posted by chaos70

Since I seem to be in cliche mode: "Never now what you had until it's gone".

 

The whole thing makes me wretch quite honestly. It tears you right in half...part wanting them (her) back...the other reviling that you even had a relationship with them (her).

 

If you need some funding for that pill, keep me informed because I need a whole bottle of it.

 

I'm at the revulsion stage now...... and all the things that I thought were 'cute' now make me feel sick to my stomach.

 

I think I have officially hit angry stage ("Hi, my name is _______ and I've been having thoughts of revenge")

 

I am still waiting for a call, but I ain't sitting by that phone, because if and when he calls... he's gonna get it!

 

The lonely stage was killing me - until this morning I woke up and didn't go into a cold sweat as soon as I became conscious. That's been happening the last few weeks - the thought of having to face the day alone, rejected and lonely...

 

It will come to you too Jeannie, keep strong.

[jen_jen_heartbroken]

I was in the anger stage for a few weeks, and even though I am still angry for how horribly he ended things and the betrayal, I find myself back in the longing stage. This stinks. It's been two months and I'm mad at myself that he still has this kind of power over me.

[Sweets1919]

Hey there,

 

I broke up with my ex two months ago and I did a lot of reading in the weeks immediately following the break up. In one of the books it was talking about being in a relationship that you weren't happy in, but in which you hoped it would get better. The author posed the following questions to ask yourself:

 

1. If my partner never changed from who he/she is today, would that be enough for me to be happy in this relationship?

2. Would I want to have children who are just like (same character) my partner?

3.Would I like to become more like my partner?

 

 

Those last two especially hit home for me with a resounding NO for me with my ex. He may have had a fun personality, but he lacked a good, positive CHARACTER. I did not want to be the only one in the relationship that had the morals and values or who would raise our children in a healthy way. I knew when I read those questions that this was not just about me not liking a few things my ex did (such as cheat and lie)....I did not like the actual person he was enough to want someone like him to be my life partner (I knew I deserved more than that and that my kids deserve a dad who treats their mom with respect!!!)

[jen_jen_heartbroken]

I'm still angry. And now I'm really hurt because it's been like 12 days and he hasn't even bothered to find out if my doctor's appointment and blood test went okay. I mean, good Lord, I was pregnant with his baby...even if it turned out to be ectopic. It's like he couldn't care less if I died...and there was a good chance that I could have if my tube ruptured.

[Cat-dancing]

boy friends, friends how can I break, with this ex wife cheating guy. I want to understand, and we have spoken. I feel I just comes from selfish gluteny.

 

I feel like I'm caught in a world wind, of him getting over his last marriage, I want to understand the process, what makes it happen.

 

I have a baby to this man, and 2 children to a prior relationship, which was controlling.

 

I work, pay my own way, live on my own.

 

Insecurities, past experience lack of confidence which I feel manifest into a trouble.

 

It's been easier to move on in the past. There wasn't the communication I have now.

 

He was married for 14 years with 3 breakups, they fought every day, but their communication consisted of sex.

 

He cheated last week, his old house having dinner with his kid, got drunk with the Mother etc etc, crazy I knew it was happening.

 

We have discussed it , and I'm still analizing it. Gathering info. before I make my final decision. A great father, but selfish a**h***.

 

I do not fear meeting anyone else. My fear is losing a friend. May be my alternative is to stay friends, no shagging. He can find it elsewhere, we already know that.

 

He says he has trouble saying no, and next time he goes to dinner with his kids ( can u believe a next time!!). He will ask me.

 

I am very forgiving but please, I have a limit.

 

I suggested why don't you get back together, work it out, but they can't last longer than 5 minutes with out a fight. So why do it. Why torture yourself along with everyone else in the piece.

 

He wants to move on with his life, he was in this process before I met him, and so was I. He a least expected to shagg around a bit before thinking about a relationship. He sort me out. He wanted to meet people, been in a relationship(married) which did not allow him to even speak to the opposite sex.. I told him go out sow your wild oats. Look me up, if I available later on, well I don't know what life will present do I?

 

I just can't stomach, this kind of abuse, because that's what it is. So I lose a lover.

 

Anyone out there that can shed some light. Male and female views.

[totallyconfused]

GOOD LORD, I think we're dating the same men or they are brothers!

 

My ex boyfriend is an asian-porn addict who cheated on me behind my back for 3 months. Its so disgusting how he lied to me with voicemails of "I love yous" while cheating on me. I find myself lucky that I am not pregnant or get engaged, or spent money on house, etc in the 4 years we've been together. And btw the girl he cheated me on is an 18 y/o manic depressive, no job, no car, lives with her parents online camwhore. Remember they go after losers worst then themselves to make themselves feel better. How loserlike. yuck.

 

Girl you need to get out. I am at 7 days of NC and its hard, first I was hurt and devastated, now I'm at my angry point. You know they are f&ckers but we continue to miss the man we had once loved. But you gotta think of him as being dead, thats what I do. B/c truly that man is no longer the same man, rather has now become a pedefile little boy.

 

Flirt with the next man you see and you'll realize how easily us lovin women can get snatched up. Put yourself out there and find someone with as much love as you give!

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

My ex-boyfriend is a lying, cheating, porn-addicted dirtbag and I HATE him!!!

 

I didn't read anybody Else's post but here's what I think.......

 

That's why he's your EX BF

 

Why recollect on the past when he's out of your life?

[butterfly29]

Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken

I dunno? Was he a commitment-phobic shrink who needed a shrink more than his own patients? Did he joke around about his clients who had sexual disfunctions and name them by their full name, therby violating patient confidentiality? Did he lie and say he didn't look at porn, and then when you found out said he would quit, but only turned around and signed up for more paid porn sites? Did he dump you on the phone four days after celebrating your anniversary and giving you a card with promises of love and devotion? Did you find out afterwards that he also cheated on you with a homely fat chick from North Dakota so that he could get her money? After you broke up with him did he treat you like dirt when he found out you were pregnant with his baby and that you were sick because it was an ectopic pregnancy, and give you a hard time about paying for the medical bills? If so, then yes...we do have the same ex.

 

GEE! He's a total prick! Now I know why I don't see shrinks anymore.