OGPriddyGurl Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 I read Sue's post and began perusing the responses and decided to post my response based upon Sue's first post. Sue - I can relate to what you are going through. I too crave the kind of fire and desire that I experienced in some of my previous relationships BUT I don't want all the other drama that were part of their packages. My husband and I have a 10 year age gap and he does not have a strong appetite for sex in fact over the past year we have averaged about 4 times a month which does not tap the surface of satisfaction. Furthermore, I believe my husband suffers from erectile dysfunction in that he climaxes almost at penetration. Afterwards, he's satisfied and happy and I'm forced to masturbate in order to reach orgasm. I'm the type of person who can have sex 10 times a day, especially with the man that I love and respect. 4 times a month is awful - I feel unwanted, unsexy, unsatisfied and angry. The other day my exboyfriend contacted me and I was tempted to release some tension with someone who I knew could satisfy my sexual appetite, but I believe in the vows that I said to my husband before God and my family. I love my husband, but I'm very dissatisfied, unfulfilled and lonely in the first month of my new marriage. I don't know what can be done, since he has agreed to go to counseling BUT is unwilling to actually make an appointment and go get counseling. I'm worried because the longer this persists tension continues to build and the unhappier I become that I can not honestly say that I will not succumb. What do you do in situations like this, especially when you truly love your partner and want more than anything to satisfy and be satisfied? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by OGPriddyGurl .....I believe my husband suffers from erectile dysfunction in that he climaxes almost at penetration. What do you do in situations like this, especially when you truly love your partner and want more than anything to satisfy and be satisfied? Have him speak to his medical doctor about this. A mild seratonin-uptake-inhibitor in a low dose could probably solve his premature ejaculation problems. And of course, if the problem is ED....there's several medications on the market for that as well. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by New_Wife Because it seems cruel to me - what he is doing to her. Yes it is. Thus proving the old proverb "it takes 2 to tango". Originally posted by OGPriddyGurl What do you do in situations like this, especially when you truly love your partner and want more than anything to satisfy and be satisfied? Like everything else in a relationship, you compromise. There are lots of things he could do for you. Maybe you should try asking directly? Women aren't always comfortable asking for these needs to be met, but men usually don't mind. And it would be much more fun than giving you a back massage Link to post Share on other sites
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