joemarriage Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 My ex and I broke up just over a month ago after 6 years. After the breakup we still texted everyday but no phone calls. This past week she has been contacting me like crazy. She has even come to my house 3 of the last 4 days. 2 of those on her lunch break to have sex. I work from home so usually home. Today she is on the road for work and has called me and talked between every stop she's had. We have had a rough time the last year. She worked for me out of my house and she recently got an opportunity for a huge career in the insurance field. Very stressful. We drifted apart and had some arguments about our kids and behavior. That's what ultimately did us in. She still text me every night and every morning to see how I am doing and see what I have been up to. I still deliver her breakfast a couple times and I make her meals for the week and today I am picking her son up from school for her while she's on the road, he's 9 and I had always treated him as my son. After 2 weeks of trying to get her back, you know the usual, begging and pleading my case, I stopped with that and just went with the flow of what she wanted. I plan on still going with the flow and letting things work out. She agreed today that we needed to have some time to let our kids have a break of each other. Should I continue with the path I'm on? I think it is too soon to push for anything more. Wish life was easier that's for sure. lol Thank to u for by input. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 The situation makes no sense. You say you are broken up but you have sex, make her breakfast & provide child care to her son who is not your bio child. This is not healthy. Break up or get back together but stop doing what you are doing 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 8 days ago you posted that she told you that she has no intention of getting back with you again. You received advice in your last thread as well that this situation you have with her isn't going to work. You are currently a nice fallback to have while she transitions to dating or meeting other men. Someone that provides her with benefits. That's all it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joemarriage Posted May 18, 2016 Author Share Posted May 18, 2016 That's what I mean. Just confused. Her son I've always treated as my own so picking up from school is no big deal. Just don't get why she's changing her tune about needing a break from everyone and now wanting to hang out again. Ugh. I know I don't get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 Technically, you aren't a couple. She comes over for sex. You take her breakfast. Um...this is called having your cake and eating it too. You are free to date, as is she, while filling a sexual void. Even though she's texting and having sex with you, she's still talking about breaks, space, and time apart. You are the fallback guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 That's what I mean. Just confused. Her son I've always treated as my own so picking up from school is no big deal. Just don't get why she's changing her tune about needing a break from everyone and now wanting to hang out again. Ugh. I know I don't get it. There's nothing confusing about it. You're someone she uses for benefits without a commitment. Your problem is that you want so desperately to get back with her that you're reading into every little thing hoping it's a positive sign -- looking from the outside, she's just taking advantage of the convenience you provide. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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