avenal Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 An ex who had blocked me for a while on social media unblocked me at some point. He has been checking up on my online status on IM apps, unhiding his usually hidden status for a few seconds at a time, then hiding it again. "Online" when I'm on, then quickly back off. At various times of the day and night. I'm pretty sure it's to spy on me as he's done this on a certain app that he used only with me (along with some other ones). He had been inactive on that app around the time he blocked me. Have any of you ever done this? What's the point?? It's puzzling as he's a grown man (middle aged). Stalking people's social media profiles is common but on IM?? You can't get much info from there. It makes me want to stalk him just so I can catch him doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 If you block him, you won't see what he is doing and he won't be able to see you... Just say'n. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author avenal Posted May 19, 2016 Author Share Posted May 19, 2016 If you block him, you won't see what he is doing and he won't be able to see you... Just say'n. That didn't answer my question. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 That didn't answer my question. Okay, then why do YOU feel the need to "catch" him? It all sounds so juvenile.... It is only social media, after all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 No, I've never done that. But I have avoiding dating women to wanna tell me stuff like that. Your connection to your ex will hold you back from future relationships. But may lead back to that one. Which do you want? Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 An ex who had blocked me for a while on social media unblocked me at some point. He has been checking up on my online status on IM apps, unhiding his usually hidden status for a few seconds at a time, then hiding it again. "Online" when I'm on, then quickly back off. At various times of the day and night. I'm pretty sure it's to spy on me as he's done this on a certain app that he used only with me (along with some other ones). He had been inactive on that app around the time he blocked me. Have any of you ever done this? What's the point?? It's puzzling as he's a grown man (middle aged). Stalking people's social media profiles is common but on IM?? You can't get much info from there. It makes me want to stalk him just so I can catch him doing it. From reading this I would say you already are. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted May 19, 2016 Share Posted May 19, 2016 It's puzzling as he's a grown man (middle aged). It makes me want to stalk him just so I can catch him doing it. See the madness? Instead of trying to analyse, best to step away from it because you'll never have your answer. If you are reading into it because you're hopeful for whatever your reasons, I'm sure he'll show you in significant ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author avenal Posted May 20, 2016 Author Share Posted May 20, 2016 I don't intend to re-initiate contact as it's been over a year and though he is a lovely person - and I have fond memories of him now after the NC period - is a bit of a hot mess. I simply asked about any insight as to his motivation, if anyone has done the same. NOT asking for a solution as there is no problem per se. Link to post Share on other sites
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