kidm Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 (edited) As I said before, I believe his time in prison has something to do with what he's going through now. Something is just not adding up. I've never heard a man get bored with their sex life with their significant other and move out to get it back. Just when you think you've heard it all... OP, you focus on how torn up and emotional he is as some sort of justification for his actions. Let me tell you- do a search on this website and you'll find COUNTLESS people whose significant other cried like a baby and was overly emotional about some decision they had decided to make but still went ahead with it. No matter how torn he is, he is right where he wants to be at the moment, which is away from you. You're basically hanging around until he decides when he comes back, if ever. How can someone who loves another person put them through such turmoil and uncertainty? It's really a sad state of affairs. I don't think he's ever coming back and if he does, there will more than likely be a repeat of this down the road. There's more to this than meet the eyes. I hope he sets you free and ends things sooner than later because it doesn't seem you'll be able to do that. Edited May 30, 2016 by kidm typos Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 One other possibly important point to consider: Do you want children? At 36, you don't really have time to let some guy hem and haw about whether or not he wants to be with you. If kids are something you want in your future, don't waste your remaining child-bearing years on what is really sounding like a relationship that needs a Hail Mary to make it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Everyone is saying all the bad things but what if he decides to come back and everything g goes well and works out? Isn't worth a shot for someone you love? So you are still waiting... Has he contacted you at all since he left? Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Everyone is saying all the bad things but what if he decides to come back and everything g goes well and works out? Isn't worth a shot for someone you love? You know, what helped me was realizing that if she pushed me away one time feeling pressured by events, she could do it every time she feels pressured. Do you see yourself doing this every time he feels confused? I realized I slowly was loosing myself after a while. Even while I distanced I was waiting. I still think it is a shame it had to be like that, but I had to be realistic: I better can be alone than with someone so unpredictable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jpiccolo6 Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 I don't want kids and neither does he. No, I dont find myself alwYs doing that bc this has never happened before. We have both had issues before and we were always there for each other. He never pulled away. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 I don't want kids and neither does he. No, I dont find myself alwYs doing that bc this has never happened before. We have both had issues before and we were always there for each other. He never pulled away. He's pulling away now. And if after a year, which is a very young relationship, he's distancing, it's indicative of what's to come. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 No, I dont find myself alwYs doing that bc this has never happened before. You are familiar with hypothetical questions are you? Don't you think if he is able to do it now it won't ever happen again? Running away is a solution children often offer, it is a immature thing to do and puts you in a very reactive position. Right now he controls you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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