mixeypixey Posted May 21, 2016 Share Posted May 21, 2016 yeah so i broke up w someone like 3-4 months back. it was stressful, tramautizing and just really silly. ever since then my confidence with women has just dropped tremendously, and whats worse is that ive kinda been forcing myself to just go for girls and KEEP ON F*CKING UP. since breaking up ive been wanting to take a break but im only human, you have urges and desires. but holy crap this is the most frustrating run ive ever had. back to back failures. ive done ok w girls in the past, and now i feel super super small like its gone completely, my charm or confidence with women. its a real dilemma sometimes, girls will give a glance and your like ok hmm theres a chance, i cant be fked but if i dont try its just as depressing. so i try but i fk up over and over again. its just wow. anyways this is just my means of venting. i dont know if anyones ever been through the same, but yeah it is what it is. some ppl say its just a numbers game, try to desensitize yourself from failure. but this hurts too much, anyways hope you all find better luck.. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2016 Share Posted May 21, 2016 Give yourself a break. Everybody makes mistakes. But give yourself some time off for introspection. Now make some lists. Write down the names of the women you dated. Write about how / where you met them; what you did together; dates you went on and most importantly why you broke up. Do this for each woman. Now put the list away for at least 24 hours. Bring it back out & re-read it. What patterns do you see? there in lies your problem. Next time do something different. Change where / how you meet women. Change what you do on dates or what you talk about. Change how soon you kiss them or have sex with them. Whatever it is, break your old patterns. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 21, 2016 Share Posted May 21, 2016 Great idea, DOnnivain! I had kept a journal for years and years and when I finally read it when I was about 50, I could see so many patterns. Simple things, mostly. Like not to have a love talk while very drunk because you emote too much and scare the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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