Are there certain women that aren't flirty?

[LookAtThisPOst]

There's a couple of women that I know that have admitted to not being flirty or touchy feely types, EVEN if they like a guy.

 

I found this to be odd, but's rather true when I've seen them interact with men as they appear very neutral in conversation.

 

Are there simply personalities like this?

[preraph]

There's probably more that aren't than that are. There's loads of men, as you can see on this board, that also aren't flirty. They're too fearful to flirt. They're waiting for the other to flirt. This is why the very fearful ones have trouble, because neither of them can reach out. Women mostly expect men to flirt. I've known very few flirty women in my lifetime. The one who was very flirty always had so many men that it was ridiculous.

[JustGettingBy]

They've always been there. They just don't get noticed.

[misspond]

I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it.

[TunaCat]

I cannot flirt. At all. So yes, there are women that aren't flirty.

[GemmaUK]

Course there are, just the same as there as there are men who aren't flirty too.

 

Plus flirty comes in different levels and forms.

 

People are all different OP.

[preraph]

I'd advise that if a woman puts herself in your vicinity more than once when she has the option not to, when she gives you a little smile, when she doesn't have to (like at work), or when she speaks to you at all for no reason when she doesn't have to (like at work), then you can at least give consideration to the fact that she wouldn't mind if you opened a conversation with her, for whatever reason. Could still just be friendly, though.

[carhill]

Are there certain women that aren't flirty?

 

I've run into a fair amount whom I've known long enough to observe whether or not they flirt for fun (with me) or with purpose (with others) and would opine the numbers are minor but do exist.

There's a couple of women that I know that have admitted to not being flirty or touchy feely types, EVEN if they like a guy.

 

Yes, I've had some female friends like that. IMO, it's not purposeful but rather developed that way over their lives. Flirting isn't their style.

 

I found this to be odd, but's rather true when I've seen them interact with men as they appear very neutral in conversation.

Yes, the style remains relatively constant from business to social to personal. They're engaging and friendly but not flirtatious.

 

Are there simply personalities like this?

 

Sure there are since women are all different. I was married to such a personality.

 

The one commonality I noted was none ever lacked for male attention so perhaps that had play, meaning overt flirtation wasn't necessary to garner males getting into their space. They could project an aura of 'come hither' without taking any overt action or speaking a word, or were/are simply overtly attractive enough to attract men without comment or action. Pretty fun to watch.

[hippychick3]

I'm terrible at flirting even with guys I've liked. Just can't do it.

[SwordofFlame]

I would guess that there are probably even more women that don't know how to flirt vs men that don't know how to flirt. It's not exactly a disadvantage for women in the same way that it is for men.

[Buddhist]

Are there simply personalities like this?

 

Yes. Such women don't get a lot of love from the guys, usually because they don't send out the usual vapid flirty signals. Or because when one such signal is sent their way they are oblivious to it and the guy thinks they've been rejected. It usually takes her practically getting naked before the guy in question realises he's got a chance.

 

My experience anyway. My idea of foreplay is a seductive dance of verbal jousting.

[spiderowl]

Yes, I'm one of them. I just feel I should be myself not put on any flirty behaviour. Either a guy will like me or he won't. I suppose I don't like being obvious about my feelings in a situation. I really don't know why I'm like this - I would rather know the guy likes me before I reveal much. Lack of confidence maybe.

[SammySammy]

Yes.

 

For a man, this is where being alert and able to read body language comes in handy.

 

And willing to take the initiative.

[King Me]

Of course. Not all men are flirty, are we? I'm not.

 

Don't attribute a great deal to gender. Pay attention to the individual.

[MissBee]

There's a couple of women that I know that have admitted to not being flirty or touchy feely types, EVEN if they like a guy.

 

I found this to be odd, but's rather true when I've seen them interact with men as they appear very neutral in conversation.

 

Are there simply personalities like this?

 

 

You saw it in action yourself...so you've seen it's true.

 

There are many kinds of personalities, so it makes sense that some people's personality style isn't touchy feely or flirtatious. Nothing odd about that.

[Imported]

Whether they flirt or not, most women will still give "tells" of their interest through behavior. Some of them may even appear to be hostile and you'll think she must really dislike you for no apparent reason. If this is confusing, don't think about it too hard and just go for women that are obviously flirting.

[deep_night]

yes. if youve grown up within a family that doesnt share feelings and touches then you have a hard time doing that :/

[LookAtThisPOst]

You saw it in action yourself...so you've seen it's true.

 

There are many kinds of personalities, so it makes sense that some people's personality style isn't touchy feely or flirtatious. Nothing odd about that.

 

Well, flirting is an indicator of interest usually. If no one flirts, no one will be able to pick up on interest if its there. So yes, I find it odd.

[NTV]

I know a woman who told me that she didn't flirt because she thought it was childish and she was 'grown'.

 

 

<shrug>

 

 

To each their own! The way I see it, is I like to flirt and to touch. So I want to be with someone who flirts back. I don't want a deadpan reaction to jokes, come ons, etc. If they aren't into flirting or touching then it's clear to me that this isn't a good match.

 

 

Just like some folks don't like [insert my hobby, i.e. painting, writing, exercise whatever]. They don't have to like it, that's their preference. But I don't want to date someone who thinks [my hobby] is stupid or is disinterested in it. Wouldn't want them to fake interest either, but that's a different ballgame.

 

 

Hope this helps!

[LookAtThisPOst]

I know a woman who told me that she didn't flirt because she thought it was childish and she was 'grown'.

 

 

<shrug>

 

 

To each their own! The way I see it, is I like to flirt and to touch. So I want to be with someone who flirts back. I don't want a deadpan reaction to jokes, come ons, etc. If they aren't into flirting or touching then it's clear to me that this isn't a good match.

 

 

Just like some folks don't like [insert my hobby, i.e. painting, writing, exercise whatever]. They don't have to like it, that's their preference. But I don't want to date someone who thinks [my hobby] is stupid or is disinterested in it. Wouldn't want them to fake interest either, but that's a different ballgame.

 

 

Hope this helps!

 

Thing is, though it's kind of a good comparison, I wouldn't put flirting in the same wheel house as much with the hobbies, as it's more of a more natural indicator of interest. I mean, what kind of person would be interested in the whole deadpan thing? Another deadpanner? Although, I wouldn't think even with the two of them that would work out, as there's no positive energy going on there.

 

There's just something inherently cold about it.

[losangelena]

There's a couple of women that I know that have admitted to not being flirty or touchy feely types, EVEN if they like a guy.

 

I found this to be odd, but's rather true when I've seen them interact with men as they appear very neutral in conversation.

 

Are there simply personalities like this?

 

In other news, the sky is blue.

[stillafool]

Well, flirting is an indicator of interest usually. If no one flirts, no one will be able to pick up on interest if its there. So yes, I find it odd.

 

Why do you find it odd that some women do not flirt but not odd that most men don't? Most good looking women don't have to flirt. If a guy is interested he will approach.

[Imported]

Why do you find it odd that some women do not flirt but not odd that most men don't? Most good looking women don't have to flirt. If a guy is interested he will approach.

 

This is not true at all, but it really depends what you mean by flirting. If they give no indication, chances are high that the only men that approach are men they have no interest in, even if she's really really ridiculously good looking.