thecharade Posted May 23, 2016 Share Posted May 23, 2016 It is difficult to navigate relationships and see them clearly when you are feeling needy and vulnerable, but I think this would be better explored with an individual counselor. I have always had difficulty with male friends--really needing them as friends and realizing they were looking for something else. But I have had to accept some fairly unpleasant things about people, and while I am definitely not naive, it crushed a lot of my optimism and trust. I know you feel hurt, but if you do a search on "men and women cannot be friends," you will find a compelling study that shows that women do indeed feel only friendship while men rarely do. And to make it worse, the men believe we feel as they do--romance--while we assume they feel as we do--platonic. It makes me sad that I need to stand back from many of my close friends because they are male, but I do. Good luck. Let him pout. He probably really thought you felt something, so let him nurse his wounds. Link to post Share on other sites
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