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She rang the police trying to get me thrown out the house, they listened to her, then spoke to me and realised that it was actually her with the issues and told her to pack some stuff and they would take her to her friends

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I feel the same Andrew...sometimes I feel ok that my husband broke up with me but the other part of me feels so weak. I still love him very much even he is so much older than me. Life must go on. It is what it is...I am focusing my son yes. I played volleyball with my cousins. But in bed beside my son and watching him sleeping, I can't help my tears not to fall, thinking our son did not know about our separation he is just 4 years old. Yesterday, he told me "I dream Papa we are playing the sand", I can't help myself, tears falling and my son asked me why I cry, I answered because I am happy I have You.

 

We just have to accept the fact that we cannot change the things we cannot change. Pray to God, ask his mercy that we can move forward no matter what...I wish You and Your son will be ok very soon...

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She rang the police trying to get me thrown out the house, they listened to her, then spoke to me and realised that it was actually her with the issues and told her to pack some stuff and they would take her to her friends

 

Doesn't mean she can't return...the Police don't have the powers to do that. Only getting an occupation order will stop her from returning. I take it the Police did advise you of that?

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Doesn't mean she can't return...the Police don't have the powers to do that. Only getting an occupation order will stop her from returning. I take it the Police did advise you of that?

 

Yes I've emailed the solicitor to ring me ASAP Monday morning

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How are you doing Andrew?

 

Sounds like she is still being... can't think of a polite word for it right now but I am sure you get the general gist!

 

Just popped back to say keep going. Just keep going. It may feel like quicksand and that you are sinking and you may feel like there is no end to all this. But there is... just keep going.

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She rang the police trying to get me thrown out the house, they listened to her, then spoke to me and realised that it was actually her with the issues and told her to pack some stuff and they would take her to her friends

 

I guess the police advised her to do that for her own safety (woman in house with upset, angry, betrayed husband), and not because you were legally more "right".

The court will decide that, if you do apply for an occupation order.

You have now essentially forced her to go twice, they may not like that.

 

I thought you were leaving to go to your rented accommodation anyway?

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I've said no to the rented accommodation, I have an avenue of paying her off to get her off the mortgage which I'm exploring.

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I've said no to the rented accommodation, I have an avenue of paying her off to get her off the mortgage which I'm exploring.

 

OK, but as you are still "exploring" that possibility, would it not have been sensible to keep the rental option open?

Is your lender amenable to that? Do you have cash to pay her out or will that involve further lending, can you afford all that?

You will need to get your wife to agree to a value for the property too, which may be difficult if there are other people interested in buying too, she may wish to go for market value as opposed to a side deal with you.

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The offer made to her is based on market value, she was refusing to even talk about it last week, hopefully her solicitor will advise her to think seriously about the offer, at the end of the day if she did force a sale she would end up with less as fees would be deducted

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My mortgage company have been rubbish to be honest, no compassion at all, they won't even look at me taking the mortgage in my name so I'm going down the route of remortgage

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Andrew you are doing really well to keep at it and to work all this out.

 

Call the police to have her removed again.

 

She is trouble reincarnate and you can't let her walk all over you.

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Call the police to have her removed again.

BUT she is perfectly within her rights legally to stay there, as she owns half the property.

Just because hes holds the moral high ground doesn't give him the right to throw her out.

He can only do that through a court order.

All this throwing out, arguing and getting the police involved is doing his case no good whatsoever, as she is just going to dig her heels in even deeper.

If he wants to buy her out, then he will need her co-operation.

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BUT she is perfectly within her rights legally to stay there, as she owns half the property.

Just because hes holds the moral high ground doesn't give him the right to throw her out.

He can only do that through a court order.

All this throwing out, arguing and getting the police involved is doing his case no good whatsoever, as she is just going to dig her heels in even deeper.

If he wants to buy her out, then he will need her co-operation.

 

True Elaine however if she is causing a disturbance then she can be removed.

 

She has proven time and time again that she is not reasonable so I am afraid the only thing I think OP can do is protect himself and his son from this behavior.

 

In the UK she does not have to live there to have a claim. She can just be on the mortgage/ title. Or she just has to prove that she made payments towards the house by means of bank statements etc. Trust me on this. I know people who do not live in properties over here who have a claim and who have gone to court and won back their money despite not being on the title, mortgage or deeds.

 

Being in that property serves her no purpose what so ever other than to cause trouble. I know it is different in the US but in the UK you do not have to be there to have a claim.

 

What sort of effect is this having on the child? OP you can get a restriction order if her presence is causing your child distress.

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In the UK she does not have to live there to have a claim. She can just be on the mortgage/ title..

 

She is on the mortgage/title so she has every right to live there too.

He can only exclude her legally if he gets an occupation order, otherwise she can come and go as she pleases, it is not his property any more than it is solely hers..

I know it isn't "fair", but he either takes steps to legally exclude her, if that is indeed possible, or he has to concede that he cannot call the shots here.

I guess she is coming home to be able to see her son.

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I've called the police to report an incident as I don't want any allegations making against me.

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Far from coming home to see her son, the lad is here as it's the school holidays and where's his mother???? Nowhere to be seen, shes told him she's only sleeping here

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Far from coming home to see her son, the lad is here as it's the school holidays and where's his mother???? Nowhere to be seen, shes told him she's only sleeping here

 

Mine left his daughter and me and went MIA for months... too busy with AP

sucking up ego kibbles takes time and energy

 

when it was over he started back around... trying to buy back his daughters trust, etc

 

friggin train wreck

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I was arrested last night for an alleged offence, spent the last 20 hours in police custody.

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I was arrested last night for an alleged offence, spent the last 20 hours in police custody.

 

What was the alleged offence?

 

Your wife now has good grounds to get a occupation order excluding you from the house.

 

I would see if it is still possible to get the rental property.

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