ladydesigner Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Andrew how are you doing today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Share Posted July 27, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house man when I read stories like yours I wonder where the justice is. Hang in there! You will see the light at the end of this dreaded experience. You deserve so much more! I hope in the end you and your son find peace of mind and a new and happy life together! I don't know much about D (might be going down that path myself) can you reverse an injunction? or Dispute it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted July 28, 2016 Author Share Posted July 28, 2016 Looking back at the last year, the woman I loved and cared for has gone and I'm now faces with a cold cold woman Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Looking back at the last year, the woman I loved and cared for has gone and I'm now faces with a cold cold woman Yes. You however walked right into her hands. You threw a pregnant woman twice out of her own home, despite knowing you had no authority to do that. The police got involved and you spent time in police custody. I get you are angry, frustrated and upset, but you cut off your own nose to spite your face. She is now taking advantage and she will probably now be successful in getting an occupation order, whereas before all this drama, she wouldn't have been. YOU from being in a position of power, are now probably out on your ear and your son will probably want to stay at home with his mother, rather than go to a rented place with you. You need to take the heat out of the situation and start thinking rationally and sensibly, else she is going to take you to the cleaners here. Remember she is miles ahead of you, do not let her wind you up and lose focus. YOU will need all your wits about you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Yes. You however walked right into her hands. You threw a pregnant woman twice out of her own home, despite knowing you had no authority to do that. The police got involved and you spent time in police custody. I get you are angry, frustrated and upset, but you cut off your own nose to spite your face. She is now taking advantage and she will probably now be successful in getting an occupation order, whereas before all this drama, she wouldn't have been. YOU from being in a position of power, are now probably out on your ear and your son will probably want to stay at home with his mother, rather than go to a rented place with you. You need to take the heat out of the situation and start thinking rationally and sensibly, else she is going to take you to the cleaners here. Remember she is miles ahead of you, do not let her wind you up and lose focus. YOU will need all your wits about you. ^^^ Keep remembering this Andrew ^^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Andrew - I hope you are not in jail? Let us know how you are doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Lowrider93 Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 Wow Andrew I had to skip alot of posts to get to the end of this thread and it seems like everyone is giving you alot of good advice here. But it appears that in the beginning you were taking baby steps forward to starting a new life without her, but you were moving in the right direction, now you have taken two steps backwards. In an earlier post you mentioned that she blamed you for her infidelity, that is so common for cheating spouses to lay the blame on someone else, it's their justification for their dirty deeds, you drove me away, and we all know that's bull****. Hindsight being 20/20, did you really think you could have lived with this stranger and made a healthy environment for your son and yourself? Rise above it all, it will make you stronger if you don't let it destroy you, it's in your hands. It is what it is and you have to decide what you need to do to survive and get thru this to the other side. When relationships crash, first it's about the loss of love,then it becomes about money and lastly about the children. Think of it this way, You get a "Do Over" but first you have to get thru this! Lots of good advice has been coming your way but it's only good if you take it! Peace Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house People called this very early on. It's amazing how similarly these situations play out. Best of luck to you Andrew! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Share Posted August 4, 2016 Court tomorrow to contest the occupation order she's trying to obtain Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Share Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief?? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling I hope that admission to the court, downplayed though it may be, proves useful in the future. Best of luck tomorrow. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 I hope that admission to the court, downplayed though it may be, proves useful in the future. . In the UK, adultery is only "needed" to prove the marriage has irretrievably broken down, it has no bearing on division of finances or children and the court will not be biased against the adulterer either. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 In the UK, adultery is only "needed" to prove the marriage has irretrievably broken down, it has no bearing on division of finances or children and the court will not be biased against the adulterer either. I was afraid I was being overly optimistic. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief?? Pregnant by other man and still in the affair. Brief? I think not. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 Pregnant by other man and still in the affair. Brief? I think not.~ I doubt the judgement will be made on moral grounds, but the fact she is pregnant, may actually count in her favour. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief?? Did you get the opportunity to file an opposing statement? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 I'm waiting to go in court now, my solicitor has filed a statement on my behalf Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 I have put forward an option to her solicitor, but the x wife seems determined to put obstacles in the way Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 Still waiting......... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 Well I'm out, the outcome is that she has to have moved out by midnight 2nd sept, and she cannot return, until then I agreed not to go back in the house before then, after that I can return home for good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Well I'm out, the outcome is that she has to have moved out by midnight 2nd sept, and she cannot return, until then I agreed not to go back in the house before then, after that I can return home for good. Have you bought the house? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 ITs being sold to a couple who have agreed to rent it long term to me, the court has ordered that she cannot obstruct the sale 4 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 ITs being sold to a couple who have agreed to rent it long term to me, the court has ordered that she cannot obstruct the sale Good, so you have some degree of security. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew42 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 Yes I do, I've just got to get through the next 4 weeks 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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