bf never follows thru with what he says.. getting fed up :(

[vc87]

I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months now.. Over the past year, there have been countless times where he said he would do things and he never followed thru into making them happen.. I know this might sound petty, people say thing all the time that don't wind up happening.. But I'm just to the point that I'm fed up.

 

Take this as my most recent example.. Last week, we were saying all week that we would go to the mall to go shopping because he desperately needs some new clothes.. we were planning on going a Saturday. All week, he said he was looking forward to going and the night before, we hung out and I asked him if it still wanted to go.. Said yes and that we would figure out a time to go the following day.

 

Fast forward to Saturday. He texts me in the morning and we talk normal.. He mentions nothing of going so I bring up going shopping later in the afternoon to see what the deal.. He texts me back saying that he doesn't want to go because he doesn't want to blow money and we'll go another day. I say it's no biggie, but it honestly upset me.

 

I know this might sound petty.. Obviously it's not a big deal.. I've been to the mall thousands of times.. Not going doesn't bother me and I could understand him not wanting to spend money.. but I'm just more upset that he strung me along all week saying they would go and then he punked out last minute.

 

After this, I'm just to the point where I genuinely don't believe anything he says anymore when it comes to us doing things.. He's been talking about us doing something this weekend and in the upcoming weeks, but I'm just kind of rolling my eyes at the thought because I'm highly doubting it's actually going to happen..

 

Any thoughts about what I should do would be greatly appreciated..

 

Thanks!

[Gaeta]

Hon, where is this relationship going? If I remember well your last thread was about him constantly borrowing money. Now on top of that we learn he's unreliable, disorganized and has to respect for your time.

 

Personally I would tell him I don't want to hear him make plans anymore for anything. If he wants to go somewhere with me to just ask at the time he's ready to leave. If I am free I will go, if not then he'll go on his own. I would get really really fed up fast having my weekends cancelled constantly.

 

I think it's time to re-assess this relationship.

[vc87]

Another thing I forgot to mention, which also kind of bugs me.. later that night he said we would still like do something besides the mall, and asked if I was hungry.. I said yes so he suggested going out to eat so I said that's fine.. So later on, I head to his house after finding some last minutes things to do with my afternoon/early evening.

 

I just want to say that I normally have no problem paying for us to go out to eat.. He usually always picks up the bill even though I always offer to split or give him money. So I get to his house, and within a few minutes of me getting there he comes out and asked me if I have a problem paying for dinner because he's short on money.. So I say no.. But part of me feels like why suggest going out if he knows he had no money in the first place?

 

Both of these combined just pushed me over the edge..