Just a Guy Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Hi kx, I wanted to clarify a few things. Firstly, how did youmeet up with this girl considering you both live in different countries? Secondly, how long have you two known each other? Thirdly, did you have any concrete plans for the future or were things still in a nebulous state? Also how long has your GF known this other guy? Did she have any kind of a relationship with him before she got friendly with you? Answers to these questions may help shed some light on what is going on. However, as most people have said, she does not seem very serious about you and you would be better off without her. No point losing sleep over her. Cheers! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kxb1 Posted May 26, 2016 Author Share Posted May 26, 2016 Hi kx, I wanted to clarify a few things. Firstly, how did youmeet up with this girl considering you both live in different countries? Secondly, how long have you two known each other? Thirdly, did you have any concrete plans for the future or were things still in a nebulous state? Also how long has your GF known this other guy? Did she have any kind of a relationship with him before she got friendly with you? Answers to these questions may help shed some light on what is going on. However, as most people have said, she does not seem very serious about you and you would be better off without her. No point losing sleep over her. Cheers! hi, I met her on badoo (kind of like tinder/pof) I only wanted to make foreign friends but ended up liking each other, she is/was serious about our relationship but obviously not as much as me as I tend to move in too fast I know this from experience. We talked about our future jobs/places we wanna live etc. She's a nice girl, not slutty or anything, just could be flirty at times, but her last bf she was with him for 4 years, never had sex (thai culture), and this guy I haven't asked her how long they've known each other, I'm guessing 3 years tops. He is also very flirty on his fb with plenty of other girls but was at one point interested in my gf back in january this year they went on a date, they never kissed according to my gf, just a few dates, things didnt click, so they remained friends, they live about 2 hours away. I know I'd be naive to believe everything she says but I believe she told me the truth, maybe she was planning to tell me if they made plans on going but I doubt she would have. Idk, I'll just let it go for now and see if she still goes, it's very easy to see because this guy posts everything on facebook, in public, almost every couple hours. At this point I'd be very disappointed to lose this girl but like you guys said, better now than later. I'm waiting to seee what happens... Right now shes planning on applying for a visa to come visit me in a few months so we talk almost everyday, I try not to bring this topic up though. If she goes and doesn't tell me I'm bailing. If she tells me, then I'd probably talk to her about her future 1 on 1 dates with guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 Hi kx, thanks for your update. Things seem a bit clearer now that you mentioned how you met this girl and the fact that she is possibly Thai(?). The point is that people from that region are very keen to be able to get to the US and for her, you could be the ideal ticket for a ride into the country. If you really talking about Thailand then I would say that there is a sizeable section of girls there who are keen to be able to get out especially to a country like the US. Also for the men and women of that culture sex is more or less a given especially what you might term as promiscuous sex. So to protect yourself do take what she says about her sexual proclivities with a pinch of salt. I do not want to discourage you from pursuing a relationship with this girl. In fact she may be the exception to the rule. However there is no harm done in keeping your eyes and ears open and do not take everything at face value. The fact is that you are so far away and it would be so easy for somebody to throw dust in your eyes. There is no way that you can physically check out what she is saying is true and she may conspire with this BF of hers to to keep feeding you a wrong picture if FB is your only source of keeping tabs on her. How would you know for sure if she did go out with this guy if she says she did not or projected a picture on FB that she was sitting demurely in her room when actually she could be in a dalliance with him anywhere? As I said just protect yourself. Warm wishes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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