loveislost Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 Hi... Does anyone believe in signs? I feel like they're are hitting me everywhere. Here's my story... I'm recently separated (my decision - mariage on the rocks - long story) but I met a guy while on a girls-only vacation just before I got separated. We hit it off instantly - the vibe and connection was intoxicating - then it was time for me to leave. We didn't really make any plans to stay in touch because I was married at the time. But I did send him an email after I got home to say that I had a great time - I was separated at this time. Since then, we've emailed each other a couple of times - and on his last 2 he said that I should really come back to visit him - plus, he signed both with a "much love". Now here's what I thinking: (1) I'm tempted to go and visit him for 2 weeks but I'm worried that it's too soon for me and he may end up as a rebound - and that's not what I want from him. I'm not really ready to date anyone - except for him. If anything, he could be my next long term relationship. (2) Wait a couple of months for some me time and casual dating to get it out of my system and then visit him. But I'm worried that if he is the next real thing and I wait too long to visit him, he'd move on. (3) LDR not really an option unless there's a plan in place. (4) Don't go. It just seems that I have so many signs pointing to him. The signs seem to indicate that I should at least check him out so to speak - and if we really feel that we could have a relationship, then I could move down there since I no longer have any ties to bind me at home. But how well can you really know someone after 2 weeks? So here are the signs... (1) The second night I got back from vacation, I was out for dinner and I heard someone at the table behind me that they're from Michigan. (The other guy is from Detroit, MI) (2) When watching movies, they happen to be based in Detroit. (3) My husband talked about scary places to exit from highways such as Detroit and Chicago (The other guy was born in Chicago) (4) I received an email from the other guy (after not hearing from him after a couple of weeks - so I thought that was it) 2 hours before my husband asked me to leave. (5) I lost my job and got in a car accident in the same week. (lost job = almost like cutting ties that bind; accident = if I died, can I say that I had lived a full and happy life? No.) (6) The other guy has signed his emails off with a "much love". (I want to too but haven't because although I feel giddy and it could be love but my rational head says it can't be love after only knowing him for a week) So... What do you think? Are these just high probability coincidences? And for the guys... What does "much love" mean? Do you ever use that phrase lightly? Do you think that it's his way of saying that he actually loves me and wants me to move down there - rather than just a mere visit? I haven't said it back since I don't use that phrase lightly - would that hurt his ego? How can I not hurt his ego? Thanks for you feedback! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 Wow are you ever in dreamland! These aren't 'signs' at all, just coincidences. Because you are infatuated, you scan the environment for positive 'signs' which would have been there all along anyway, but because you weren't then infatuated with someone, you didn't pay attention to. because although I feel giddy and it could be love but my rational head says it can't be love after only knowing him for a week Of course it isn't. For all you know, he could be a charming axe-murderer and you certainly are not 'in love'. This is a full-blown infatuation. Go visit if you like but don't plan to move until you've spent time with him. Get to know him on the phone and by email for a while and if he continues to seem wonderful, visit him again. Millions of people have started off in exactly the same dizzy joy as you're experiencing only to have it fade and vanish when they got to know the objects of their affection real well. Link to post Share on other sites
lvgrl Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think you should believe and go with what your heart tells you. Link to post Share on other sites
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