So it happened. GF with Bipolar cheated and left me.

[VeveCakes]

Yes you need to block her pronto.

[NopeNah]

Why isn't she blocked ?

 

BLOCK HER

 

 

and don't reply.. if you need to go back a read some of your older posts on what she did to you and how it made you feel..

 

You will feel like CRAP if you reply to her...

This is one of the longest threads I've seen in my time here..

 

He's NEVER going to block her!

[Art_Critic]

This is one of the longest threads I've seen in my time here..

 

He's NEVER going to block her!

 

I agree, I gave that same advice months ago when they broke up the first time and he didn't block her...

 

I keep trying hoping he will actually want to help himself instead of acting on self destructive behavior.

[Blanco]

It's a compelling case study of what can happen when you put the majority of your self-esteem in the hands of someone else, namely, a person of the opposite sex.

 

Protec, numerous people told you to block her a month ago, but you had a pile of excuses not to, one being that she wasn't going to contact you again. I told you she absolutely would, which is why you should've blocked her.

 

Now, here you are, a month later, likely spending most of your day thinking about what she wants and struggling with the temptation to not read the text, if not outright respond to her. What a colossal waste of mental energy on someone you should do everything you can do never speak to again.

 

I would hope her contacting you would be evidence that you need to block her if you ever want to actually move forward. Alas, this thread is a staggering 700 posts for a reason.

[Protec]

She sent me another text. It's 23:00 here. I did not respond to her first message at all. And i have not read the 2nd one either.

 

I have made some progress during this month, it may have not sounded like it, but i felt better than few weeks ago.

 

I never thought she would actually contact me. After what i did and what she said to me, i seriously thought it was over.

 

I don't want to fall back to that hellhole. I don't even want to touch my phone atm. I don't want to see even a bit what she sent.

 

God damn devil-lady. After all she has put me through she still has the guts to send me text messages. "Get a life!! I have a new man now so we cannot keep talking anymore. Don't contact me anymore!"

 

I seriously, seriously need to stay strong now. I need to make you guys proud. I cannot fall back. I have no idea what she is even sending to me but i have a wild guess.

 

She just wants to lure me back, use me as her sex-toy etc. whatever and do the same thing all over again. Because i KNOW 100% sure that she does not care about my feelings, about my emotions.

 

I have never blocked anyone in my life. Maybe it's time.

[VeveCakes]

It will be the right thing to do and you will hold the cards in your hand. Look at your posts. Look how she has made you feel about yourself and life. Get rid of her once and for all.

 

Block delete - tomorrow is the start of a new life.

[Blanco]

No maybes about it. Stop being thick headed and block her.

 

Or contemplate it for a month while you continue to pass the blame to others for your own life.

[Protec]

It will be the right thing to do and you will hold the cards in your hand. Look at your posts. Look how she has made you feel about yourself and life. Get rid of her once and for all.

 

Block delete - tomorrow is the start of a new life.

 

To be honest, i am afraid of that person. Not physically but my mind warns about her. She is toxic...Nobody has hurt me more than she has.

 

My heart started beating faster the very moment i saw i got message from her. That is how much my body reacts to her...it's a primitive reaction. I see her as a threat.

 

I have been so proud of myself at after that struggle i finally managed to start NC. The first week was pure torment. And so was the 2nd. Then the sudden bursts into tears. Crying. Anger. Anxiety. Because of her i had to go to STD tests, FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE. Because of her i had to go to psychiatric nurse.

 

Even my sister said it. "You were much happier before you met her."

 

She ripped me apart, used me like a toy and got bored and threw me away. Now she is probably missing the old toy of hers. Maybe her new toys are not as fun, or don't wanna play with her.

 

"Now where did i put that old toy of mine...."

[Blanco]

Stop blaming her.

[ExpatInItaly]

Protec, if you finally block this woman, I think I speak for many of the posters here when I say we'd all have a toast and declare it a LS Holiday.

 

Seriously. Please do this. If anyone warrants a block, she does. Enough is enough.

[ExpatInItaly]

Stop blaming her.

 

And this, too.

 

Protect, we teach people how to treat us. You also need to take accountability here.

[LD1990]

You can open up pretty much any page in this thread and see the same general sequence of posts.

 

I'm thinking a year from now we'll be at post #3,567 with Protec saying "Ok, I'm SERIOUSLY thinking about blocking my ex now. But I've never blocked anyone before."

 

But seriously dude, block that nutcase, go get a music gig, and nail a couple groupies. Way cheaper than therapy.

[Blanco]

YOU had unprotected sex with her even though you knew she had cheated on you. YOU went back to her after she cheated on you, even though countless people here were telling you to drop this woman before that even happened. YOU continued to engage this woman even after she pulled back for the 147th time.

 

Just stop. No one here is saying this woman didn't act horribly. But you immersed yourself in this world for months after you were advised to drop her. That was your choice. She did not take you captive. She did not rape you. Just stop passing the buck and take some g****** responsibility for your own life and the decisions that you make.

 

No one should be treated the way you were, but it's completely your fault that you were subjected to this treatment for as long as you were. Until you accept that and stop pinning all of the blame on her, you will continue to live life as a shell-shocked victim.

[Simon Phoenix]

You just can't help but laugh at this point. The amount of time wasted, and will be wasted, because of Protec's ridiculous refusal to not block is almost humorous. Be prepared for another 20-25 pages, because he'll eventually crack and start the cycle again.

[ChickiePops]

She probably needs money.

[Protec]

She probably needs money.

 

No. I read the messages this morning. She still had sent me 3 more during night.

 

She told how she misses our "mental" connection we had, one of messages was picture of us together we took in february, and she told me to put up instagram/twitter page for my music so she could follow me.

 

She also said she is sorry we could not stay as friends and "i guess you got angry at me". Well no ****? I broke through her door! Yes i was angry.

 

And she said herself "Get a life! DOn't contact me anymore. I have a new man now. We cannot stay as friends."

 

I don't think she remembers what she has said to me. And it's useless to analyze why she sent messages to me. I just need to let her be. She can be happy hunting those men from all around the world.

 

Blanco, yes, i allowed her behaviour, and i am still going to the psych. nurse to understand better why i allowed it. I don't blame her fully, at least not now contacting me.

 

Somehow i was happy to hear from her, but at the same time i am not.

Edited August 26, 2016 by Protec

[Art_Critic]

Why won't you block her ?

 

What are you getting out off allowing her to contact you.. here you are all shaken up again instead of looking at your bright future..

 

Do you realize that if you didn't allow the contact that you would be further along in your healing...

 

I like the fact you are getting help through the nurse but you are really doing yourself a disservice by allowing her to contact you.

[Itspointless]

Somehow i was happy to hear from her, but at the same time i am not.

Yes, it was your shot of hormones. as with drugs it will make you feel worse afterwards.

[Protec]

I really don't know how to put this in words anymore. But i messed up. It's just best if i don't say anything about last night to you guys. Let's just say alcohol was involved, lots of fighting, arguing, and i hit my ex.

 

I caved in. I let her use me to "cheat" on her new guys. Yes. She has SEVERAL guys. No sex involved but she asked me to "What would it take for you to come over and give me a massage? I could massage you and you me. Win win And clothes stay on We could also watch the movie i bought"

 

She bragged about her new rich guys and how she has been going to several festivals for free and things lead to another and i found from her whatsapp that she had several guys on "hook" at the same time.

 

Not that she asked me to massage her but just half hour before she asked me she had flirted with some guy. Why she didn't ask him?! **** all that "mental connection" bull****.

 

Anyway. The evening was a frigging mess and i want to die.

 

I was supposed to go there, fix things and leave as a better man. Go there, watch movie without massage, and tell her this is wrong what we are doing and wish her well, hug and leave. But no. I go into berserk mode and hit her.

I feel horrible. So horrible.

[Simon Phoenix]

Inexcusable. You continue to be an idiot and now you're a woman-beater. Yet, 10 bucks says you'll still be too stupid to block her. Or you're just a really good troll who is messing with everyone in this thread. That's possible because otherwise you're just really, really dumb.

[VeveCakes]

Why have you not seen a therapist yet? You are ruining your life!!!

 

Block her!!!! Get counselling. Stop drinking, get the hell away from this woman!!

[Blanco]

You should feel horrible. You're a disaster and this isn't the first time you've struck a woman. YOU are the problem. Not her.

[Protec]

You should feel horrible. You're a disaster and this isn't the first time you've struck a woman. YOU are the problem. Not her.

 

Yes i know. I don't blame her. I have lost control. I have no excuses for what i did.

 

I will talk with my sister today, i will meet her in few hours.

 

I need help.

 

I was happy that she contacted me. all i heard from her the all night was her bragging about all the guys she has seen and laughing how eveything is free and telling how she is now a better person not cheating anymore and taking her drugs again.

 

But she did cheat. Asking you ex to give you a massage and hugging on couch, i think that is cheatin.

 

Yesterday was the 2nd most horrible day of my life. And all i can blame is staring me back from the mirror. Now it's time to seek help.

[Protec]

Inexcusable. You continue to be an idiot and now you're a woman-beater. Yet, 10 bucks says you'll still be too stupid to block her. Or you're just a really good troll who is messing with everyone in this thread. That's possible because otherwise you're just really, really dumb.

 

I feel so horrible. I am not trolling. I wish i would. And yes, i am stupid. I can only blame myself.

 

But at least i finally saw her true self. She doesn't care about anyone. Asked me to massage her instead of her new guy....sounds pretty solid relationship.

 

She does the same thing to every guy and eventually will hurt every guy like she hurt me. She will just use them and toss away when she is done. Just like she did with me.

 

And i feel horrible for what i did. Nothing gives person a reason to hurt someone. I feel terrible for my actions and i know i did something so bad it cannot be ever fixed. I ruined her life and i ruined my life.

Edited August 27, 2016 by Protec

[SoulCat]

But at least i finally saw her true self. She doesn't care about anyone. Asked me to massage her instead of her new guy....

 

Yet you decided to go over to her place when you know full well nothing good would come of it. That's on you.

 

Maybe, when you look into that mirror, you should have a really long hard look at your true self. Because the way I see it is that you are now an unemployed, mentally unstable, alcoholic wife beater.

 

 

Don't be surprised to open your door to find the police waiting for you because your ex has reported your drunk violent a$$ to the police for assaulting her.