Biggest feeling my baby's father is cheating on me. Help!

[chelsey22]

OK. I don't really know where to start but here it goes.

I just got the biggest feeling my baby father is cheating on me I have had few time where I have fault that when he was out wherever he was he was doing something and yes I would ask and bring it up yuno but it is always the same I don't don't do anything but go do what I need todo which I understand I'm not a pushing woman I don't keep him from his business but I feel like maybe there is paying more attention from other woman that he likes or isit another woman or how many

 

We was fine up until maybe a year ago it fully got me and I know deep in my soul I can feel it but he never leaves any proves and when he talks it always come down to why would I. The only time he can make time to stay in with me and 2kids is when he hoping for sex at the end of night but turely most resently I don't want sex with him I think in my mind why don't you just go to whoever else Is keeping you up all the other nights

What I don't get is if he is why not just tell me

I'm not a pushing woman

I'm not ugly not big headed but I know I get looks when I'm nd people try talk to me I'm a size 8 size 10 lower body 5foot4 keep myself nice yuno hair nails never bother him when he has his mates round don't bother him why he is out I would up until recently give him sex whenever I loved it......

 

 

What can I do now

 

 

Feedback please

[Space Ritual]

I read some of your other posts. Basically you have a boyfriend that is bound and determined to get anal from someone if not you and seems to like to watch porn featuring fat assed women. Seems like you have had the same nagging questions for a few months. More than likely if he is willing to have a couple of kids with you he is more than happy to have kids with someone else.

 

So the question is what are you willing to put up with? From your other posts you seem to be willing to put up with quite a lot from a guy that seems to be nothing short of a bum.

 

But that's on you. Make better choices since you have kids to think about, as you obviously can't rely on this idiot you are involved with.

[SoleMate]

Yes, it seems highly likely he is cheating on you. Sorry.

[TaraMaiden2]

chelsey22, How much longer are you going to wonder about this guy, and how many more threads are you going to submit before you release this clinging desperation to hear someone say "he's totally devoted to you, loves you to the ends of the earth, puts you on a pedestal, would take a bullet for you and will be with you until the end of your life!"....?

 

Because that's what you want to hear, and ideally, that's what you want from him.

 

Either way, sadly, it's not going to happen.

 

The question is not so much whether he's cheating on you (clearly, he seems to be doing just that) but how much longer it's going to take you to realise that he won't change, so therefore, you must?

 

Keep asking these questions and it's evident you're not prepared to take the blinkers off just yet....

[smackie9]

It doesn't matter if you are a fine piece of tail or not....he is the type (narcissist) that plays by his own rules. He doesn't have any moral values, doesn't value you, or your relationship, doesn't care about anyone (tho he may fill your head with BS that he does), he only cares about his own selfish needs. You can cry, you can beg, but he has no empathy. This type of person can't be changed, it's the way he is programmed to be.

 

You want change? Have some dignity, regain your self worth and walk. You can rebuild your life with someone who is more worthy. The first step is to acknowledge that you deserve better than this.

[chelsey22]

Thankyou. Everyone for your replies.

All the other messages I wrote well to be honest I didn't know how to use my phone at the time and I had so much to say my fingers where typing away everything I was thinking but clearly missed out alot of details which left people not understanding clearly.

 

 

I have been with my babyfather 4 years a good happy 2years loved up cuddled up make time for each other. Had our own personal space at the time yuno everything was perfect.

He is everything I love but he also someone I feel he will never be able to be comfortable to be able to tell me the whole truth about his day to day life.

 

The big situation came in a little while after having our frist child. I found video on his phone just watching woman dancing but moving there bums all over the place. I'm not uncomfortable with this but I wish he just said to me I don't wanna see you only bouncing on my d##k when having sex but just dance for me now and again (honestly) (I am very shy when it goes to getting my body out and just bouncing up and down yuno I'm not a porn star nor a stripper he still makes me shy now)

 

His ex wife when she comes around it seems that we are at lodge ahead and he is fine with her all of a sudden then after that blows over and she is isn't coming around again for a long time we are good. I personally felt that maybe all the porn watching and thinking of old times with his ex stripper wife maybe he would want to go back to her or would he be interested.

 

And now I just clearly feel like I'm just the standby till the next woman comes....

One minute he looks so deep in love with me then you see him lost somewhere like there's somewhere he needs to be

[TaraMaiden2]

My advice still stands.

You're desperately looking for anything that would make whatever you're going through worthwhile, better, ideal and perfect for you two.

 

But you can't do it without his cooperation, approval or consent.

And he is absent.

 

Part of him is not with you and you're desperate for all his attention on you.

 

It's not going to happen.

 

You need to face reality, dearest.

'Stand-by' might be the truest word you've said.

 

You've had his baby. Now he will always be a part of your life.

But not in the way you want.

And in time, he will find another pretty young thing to grab his attention.

Sad, but true.