so guys... what are your biggest insecurities?

[Liam1]

Just curious to hear from guys... what are some of your insecurities that you have recognized experiencing in your past and or current relationships and where do you think they come from?

 

Nurturing insecurities is a waste of time. A man's energy will be better spent focusing on people who like him the way he is rather than on real or imagined deficits

 

Also staying in good physical condition and having a successful career can take the focus off of any past insecurities because their focus will be elsewhere. No matter what anyone tells you.

 

Snakes. Definitely snakes.

 

That's not an insecurity.....it's a phobia.

 

Snakes are cute and not slimy.

[GorillaTheater]

That's not an insecurity.....it's a phobia.

 

Snakes are cute and not slimy.

 

 

I'm pretty scared of pedantry, too. <brrrr>

[tinkerbell16]

Never say never....

 

I dropped in here expecting to be educated but just found a list of the same old alpha male bs that gets recycled in nearly every thread on LS. I need $$, hot women, sex & power to feel like a successful man. Jesus I must admit to being totally blown away by the sad state of the male psyche as expressed here...

 

Not sure what I was expecting but the odd post admitting to a fear of kittens or bunnies would have been a nice surprise.

 

Amen... depressing to hear the majority of these responses.

[tinkerbell16]

I said…

 

 

 

Lets say you have this fat dude in a marriage and think he is not getting enough sex, he thinks he is missing something and need to be told he is still a stud. Every other dude on the planet is getting all this sex and he is not. His “perception” is he is not getting laid enough.

 

This is why dudes end up screwing women who are usually uglier or below the woman they are with they just want to know they have the ability to get a piece of @$$ regardless of the quality.

 

But let me clarify… women are doing this more and more now as well for same reasons.

 

Add this to the list of why this quality girl is single by choice.

[tinkerbell16]

Amen... depressing to hear the majority of these responses.

 

I consider myself pro active. Ordering my cats now.

[GorillaTheater]

I consider myself pro active. Ordering my cats now.

 

https://gunroswell.files.wordpress.com/2016/04/starter-kit-2.jpg?w=590&h=478

[Liam1]

I'm pretty scared of pedantry, too. <brrrr>

 

Well boo.

[tinkerbell16]

My biggest insecurity is not having faith that most people have the life skills to enter into and sustain a meaningful, live-giving, loving long-term, relationship. I am quite evolved and insightful for a man in his early thirties, and I typically find that my generation by large lacks the life skills required for a relationship...even though they truly desire a relationship. That's the sad part.

 

I believe this has come from a variety of origins - a combination of my upbringing/family betrayals, trying to exist at odds with our hyperactive and reflective adverse culture, and a lot of dating/relationship experiences that went sour. I have met some wonderful women who I'll always remember, and it is the memories of them that keep me trying. Unfortunately, I've accumulated a lot of negative experiences and have become more bitter than I would have imagined. I'm insecure about this part of myself and am constantly trying to work on it.

 

Refreshing. We think alike. This is very similar to how I feel an nice to hear coming from a man.

[coolheadal]

To much going on today so many women not telling the truth about how they really feel about you. Worst things I can say that's the what I feel. I am positive man but I run into a lot of negative women.

 

1. Brutal Abusive

These women put themselves in a relationship with (ex-boyfriend or ex-husband) These men treated them so low and did all sort of worst you can think of too them. I won't put down what I was told but just something I would'nt say here. But again these women allowed this behavior to keep going until they had to have it stopped.

 

2. Unhealthy Behavior

These women have a lot of issues can range from (being secretive, mood swings, angry, possessive, and unable to say "I am Sorry).

 

I see more of 2. than 1. though. I am not like these type of women and they still want the mean over the nice guy. Though they don't know how affectation should be like.

 

All I want is someone to understand me not seeing that today.. So to answer your question understanding who and what I am all about. These 1 and 2 issues I've ran into.

Edited May 27, 2016 by coolheadal

[tinkerbell16]

I consider myself pro active. Ordering my cats now.

 

Muhahaha haha

Some funny s#÷!

 

Adding adult diapers to the order... almost lost it there.

[Jabron1]

Man, I don't have any insecurities that I carry around with me permanently.

 

Insecurities pop up randomly, for me at least.

 

Understand them for what they are: complete bullsh*t weasels.

 

not a good question :

but as a guy , I can tell you that

 

1- Guys will never EVER admit their insecurities even with anonymity of the internet .

2- I have never met a guy who did not claim that he is well- hung

3- I have rarely met a guy who admits to have problems getting girls , ( all of us do , some get demoralized by it but some just keep on approaching )

4- ALL guys claim that they made their women cum ... that claim is usually exaggerated and usually they add a 100 on 10 ( he made her come once and then claims that it happened 30 times )

5- guys usually try to appear well-off more than they actually are .

6- guys cry over women , they weep .... but guess what ... no one admits that.

 

1. I just did.

 

2. I am fairly average (probably lol). I would like another inch. Oh well . It's a good looking d*ck though lmao.

 

3. I have loads of problems getting girls. They are called 'searching costs' lmao!

 

4. Go and watch a series called "2 women teach sex". You can download it easily enough. I learned a few things

 

What's the point in watching hundreds of hours of porn, if you aren't going to learn something? I've never understood that.

 

5. I am the complete opposite. I am not a provider. If any girl is looking for that, she can jog on.

 

6. Last woman that I cried over was my grandmother when she died about 6 years ago. I don't cry very much, and never over women. I don't give a sh*t who 'believes that'.

[tinkerbell16]

To much going on today so many women not telling the truth about how they really feel about you. Worst things I can say that's the what I feel. I am positive man but I run into a lot of negative women.

 

1. Brutal Abusive

These women put themselves in a relationship with (ex-boyfriend or ex-husband) These men treated them so low and did all sort of worst you can think of too them. I won't put down what I was told but just something I would'nt say here. But again these women allowed this behavior to keep going until they had to have it stopped.

 

2. Unhealthy Behavior

These women have a lot of issues can range from (being secretive, mood swings, angry, possessive, and unable to say "I am Sorry).

 

I see more of 2. than 1. though. I am not like these type of women and they still want the mean over the nice guy. Though they don't know how affectation should be like.

 

All I want is someone to understand me not seeing that today.. So to answer your question understanding who and what I am all about. These 1 and 2 issues I've ran into.

 

I realized years back how it was hard for me to say I was sorry, I make a conscious effort now to apologize when I am wrong, once or twice a year. Lol

[dichotomy]

I had some major insecurities for a long time, some completely understandable ones, but age (and therapy) have taken them down from a 10 to 4 on the scale of issues. Age has a way of leveling the field.

 

What I am mostly left with is not really insecurity but more of a "is this all there is or will be in my life". but thats a whole other can of worms.

 

 

 

Edit - PS.

 

I supposed insecurity that my wife settled on sexual capability or passion with me - to get all the other things I offer. But even that is not quite insecurity anymore but feels more like disappointment now.

Edited May 27, 2016 by dichotomy