Are people that obsessed with working?

[LookAtThisPOst]

I saw a rather well thought out profile, then I saw her say she works "2 jobs, which is better than none."

 

She said she needs to keep herself working to keep "sane".

 

I've seen a few single people like this, but why the obsession with work, why not replace the 2nd job with fun activities, socializing with friends, and other fun weekend hobbies?

 

I recall a woman having to dump a guy because he got too obsessed with his work and he only set up at flea markets and an Ebay store. lol

[ZA Dater]

I saw a rather well thought out profile, then I saw her say she works "2 jobs, which is better than none."

 

She said she needs to keep herself working to keep "sane".

 

I've seen a few single people like this, but why the obsession with work, why not replace the 2nd job with fun activities, socializing with friends, and other fun weekend hobbies?

 

I recall a woman having to dump a guy because he got too obsessed with his work and he only set up at flea markets and an Ebay store. lol

 

I work pretty much 13 hours a day at various things, office work for a good 9 hours of it and the balance being administrative work/writing.

 

Why do single people do this well mostly in my case because when I am not working I am forced to see I am lonely, never had a gf, have virtually no friends.

 

Work helps to make you blind to those things, the reason I don't do other things, simply because most other things one needs friends to do, meetup was one of the more awful awkward things I have ever been to.

[SwordofFlame]

I work a lot too, but make time to go out on dates and dating in general. I've met some really career oriented women and it's never worked out. They just don't believe in making much time for dating. :shrug: Attempting to schedule dates with them was like an exercise in futility.

[SolG]

I love work! To me it is fun. I personally don't believe in the work/life balance philosophy. To me work is a part of life, not an adjunct to it. I don't plan to ever retire if I can help it.

 

And I've always been the same regardless of relationship status.

 

I do understand that not everyone thinks the same way, and I do make time for other things I'm passionate about. And I'm drawn to others who are also passionate about what they do.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I love work! To me it is fun. I personally don't believe in the work/life balance philosophy. To me work is a part of life, not an adjunct to it. I don't plan to ever retire if I can help it.

 

And I've always been the same regardless of relationship status.

 

I do understand that not everyone thinks the same way, and I do make time for other things I'm passionate about. And I'm drawn to others who are also passionate about what they do.

 

So you're not one of those TGIF types that say, "Thank heavens the weekend is HERE...now I can go boating/jetskiing! Yippie!"

 

Has this been deal breaker for some of the guys that want you to spend time with them on the weekends?

[GemmaUK]

Maybe she has two part time jobs?

 

Part time at one job is fine if that brings in enough income to support living expenses and costs related to fun activities.

Seeing friends is also fine if they also work part time but if they work full time then they're not going to be as available.

 

I know several people who work a full time job plus a part time one to bump up their income to allow for the costs of the fun things they want to do.

 

I work full time and extra hours when needed.

My job pays my living expenses which is important to me but I also love my job as it challenges me mentally. Not only because it's pretty technical but also I have a lot of contact daily with colleagues so it also teaches me a lot in terms of interactions, body language and finding ways to interact with people who work differently to me so that we can overcome issues and get the job done.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Maybe she has two part time jobs?

 

Part time at one job is fine if that brings in enough income to support living expenses and costs related to fun activities.

Seeing friends is also fine if they also work part time but if they work full time then they're not going to be as available.

 

I know several people who work a full time job plus a part time one to bump up their income to allow for the costs of the fun things they want to do.

 

I work full time and extra hours when needed.

My job pays my living expenses which is important to me but I also love my job as it challenges me mentally. Not only because it's pretty technical but also I have a lot of contact daily with colleagues so it also teaches me a lot in terms of interactions, body language and finding ways to interact with people who work differently to me so that we can overcome issues and get the job done.

 

2-part time jobs (equals ~ 40 hrs), I can understand, but I know people that are preferring to work 60 to 80 hr weeks.

 

I'm thinking it's to pay off debts that they are deep into, but that's an entirely different subject altogether....that's understandable, too. But to do it, just to do it? I don't see the appeal.

 

I know several people who work a full time job plus a part time one to bump up their income to allow for the costs of the fun things they want to do.

 

Hm, guess I know how to budget better, as I have enough to do what I like to do even at 40 hrs. Now, if they work some 10 to 12 dollar/hr job at full time, I could understand why they would need beyond 40 hrs.

Edited May 29, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst

[coolheadal]

Don't forget these women who work so much may never get married or have kids. So many of these type of women also. Doesn't have kids and doesn't want them. Type those work so hard on promoting their career goals they forgot about a family lifestyle.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Don't forget these women who work so much may never get married or have kids. So many of these type of women also. Doesn't have kids and doesn't want them. Type those work so hard on promoting their career goals they forgot about a family lifestyle.

 

Players or commitment-phobic men like these kinds of women though, typically for flings or booty calls. Or the in-between women before they settle down in a real relationship/marriage.

[GemmaUK]

2-part time jobs (equals ~ 40 hrs), I can understand, but I know people that are preferring to work 60 to 80 hr weeks.

 

I'm thinking it's to pay off debts that they are deep into, but that's an entirely different subject altogether....that's understandable, too. But to do it, just to do it? I don't see the appeal.

 

Hm, guess I know how to budget better, as I have enough to do what I like to do even at 40 hrs. Now, if they work some 10 to 12 dollar/hr job at full time, I could understand why they would need beyond 40 hrs.

 

You're speculating and making a lot of assumptions here which seems to be a habit of yours when it comes to reading a profile on OLD.

 

I can't help but wonder if when mailing you then ask direct questions about their situations before meeting - which would put people off if you come over as assumptive or judgemental as you do on LS.

 

Open up your thoughts a bit LATP and be aware that someone might be doing something they love for the love of it rather than it being in your words 'shady' for some reason. This particular lady sounds like she loves her work. It doesn't mean she is paying off huge debts.

 

If a profile content (such as this and all the others you have posted about) bother you though, just do as we all do and move on to the next profile.

[preraph]

If you love your work, then it becomes the center of your life and you meet great people with common interests because of it. Most people are just working a lot because they have to, though. I've worked two jobs for a long time, out of necessity. I'm not obsessed with this work, but I don't have much time for socializing and a leisurely lunch is about all I can manage because I'm tired at the end of the day, which for me is about 9 at night.

[Philosopher]

Some people view work mainly as means to support themselves and their family. There main aim from work, is to earn sufficient money to have a comfortable life. Their passions will probably be none work related. Other people view their work as their life's passion and it is very much what defines them as an individual.

 

In terms of dating I think it is very much a compatibility thing, if you view work mainly as means to support yourself, which it sounds like you do, then you are probably best off dating whom shares that viewpoint.

[PrettyEmily77]

Don't forget these women who work so much may never get married or have kids. So many of these type of women also. Doesn't have kids and doesn't want them. Type those work so hard on promoting their career goals they forgot about a family lifestyle.

 

They don't forget, they just have other priorities; as in, it's a choice.

 

In the case of the lady in your OP, LATP, this may be a financial thing - working two jobs to make ends meet rather than not working at all.

 

Because not everything you read on those profiles has to be an issue...

[acrosstheuniverse]

Don't forget these women who work so much may never get married or have kids. So many of these type of women also. Doesn't have kids and doesn't want them. Type those work so hard on promoting their career goals they forgot about a family lifestyle.

 

I sincerely doubt there are many women who reach their forties and wake up one day thinking 'whoops, I forgot to have kids!'. Usually it's either because they actively don't want them, or their circumstances have never been right (right guy, right living situation, right job, enough cash). To imply that people forget to have a baby because they're working too hard is nonsense.