Text messaging and emojis

[Art_Critic]

I only use the "lol" or the smiley one one unless I'm sexting the wife.. then the eggplant gets used with a few others

 

It's funny though the emojis people use become part of their personality.. for example, when I email with my step daughter she uses tons of them and always finishes with the heart one next to her name so when I got an email or reply from her without any I know it was her mother (exW) that sent the email and not her

 

hahaha, years ago though.. now she is on FB

[Emilia]

Meh, to me it doesn't look so "infantile" coming from a woman. Sweet/flirty if anything... (and she doesn't send long strings of emojis. Just maybe a single kissy face or whatever at the end.. And not every single message.. I'm attracted to very sweet feminine ladies).

 

"She includes lots of smileys, and also some hearts and lots of kissy faces."

 

So which one is it? Lots of emojis or the occasional one? I'm confused

 

If you don't mind, why start a thread?

[Emilia]

Two words: Gender Polarity. She is a woman you are a man. She is the one who shows receptivity by emoting, you show initiative by initiating communication and planning dates.

 

An occassional smile or wink or thumbs up emoticon is fine, but the other emoticons (and "OMG" and the use of a lot of exclamation points, especially consecutively) should stay exclusively in her domain.

 

Lest these rules sound silly, keep in mind that someone is reading your texts in your voice thinking this is how you talk. If you don't talk in a way that's unmasculine then why write that way?

 

And spell out the word "you"! (instead of using "u")

Yes. People are becoming increasingly infantile well into middle age it seems. I find this incredibly bizarre - but to me it looks equally bad both from men and women.

 

I think the prevalent use of messaging apps and social media is to blame, people just become too lazy to express themselves properly. Mind you, much of the communication probably isn't worth the effort.

[Emilia]

Also, they can be a good benchmark to sense interest from the other person.

I actually think the opposite. Expressing interest in words is much harder than sending a bunch of :love::love::love::bunny::bunny:

[RedPurpleOrange]

I actually think the opposite. Expressing interest in words is much harder than sending a bunch of :love::love::love::bunny::bunny:

 

 

It's a broad spectrum. I only know what I know.

 

 

Luckily, I'm good at both.

[Middle]

"She includes lots of smileys, and also some hearts and lots of kissy faces."

 

So which one is it? Lots of emojis or the occasional one? I'm confused

 

If you don't mind, why start a thread?

 

I said lots of emojis as in, she includes one with most of her messages (and many other women do the same). I never said a string of emojis, but still, it wouldn't bother me.... I said in my op that I don't mind, I kind of like it.

 

My curiosity and reason to start a thread is because I only know how *I* interact with women, especially in things like texts. So this was more about gauging what women think is normal, attractive, flirty - what other men do, etc... Not a huge deal either way, just something I was curious about as I try to present my best, most attractive self in the dating world.

[Saltycat]

I will be entering my 60's shortly and just wanted to say that I found emoji's infantile at first but have now come to rely on them to transmit emotion in shorthand, to add nuance and be that quick "peck on the cheek" or shoulder rub...a quick textual gesture to connote affection. Not ashamed, not apologizing!

[RedPurpleOrange]

^See? The pro-emoji tribe grows exponentially.

[Middle]

It's mostly the kissing faces... I don't reciprocate those ever. Not sure if it comes across as aloof and unreceptive of affection. Oh well.

[RedPurpleOrange]

I add tongues.

[Emilia]

Please don't do kissing faces. Just.. no.

[Middle]

Please don't do kissing faces. Just.. no.

 

Trust me, I'm right there with you on that...

[Middle]

Because of all this talk about emojis, and to break free of gender norms, I decided to carefully craft an all emoji message... It was a thinking face followed by a face with its tongue sticking out followed by a finger pointed to the right followed by a hand in an ok sign followed by a smirk... She responded with a picture that said "I want you", so I think she took it kindly.

[Mariposa83]

I say stop let's stop judging and overthinking and go for it if you feel like it! It can be fun. As far as how women respond, I'm around your age and love it when I see a kissy face, kiss, heart, heart eyes, flowers, etc. I'd say most of my friends would say the same. There's of course the exception, just like with anything.

 

Send me 10 kissy faces and I'm all smiles. Infantile? Maybe. But isn't that one of the many exciting parts of relationships, to make you feel not your age in a good way?? Be silly together!

 

If you just can't, how about just responding with a flower kind of emoji? A thumbs up Is a bit blah after all those emoticons. Only if you're into her, of course

 

Oh, and about making you seem less manly. Only a few things can do that, and I don't think sending emojis is one of them. I don't think of a man being less manly bc he sends me flowers and kissed as emojis on a regular basis. Not even if he send me a unicorn followed by a rainbow and carousel. But that's just me.

Edited May 30, 2016 by Mariposa83

[Mariposa83]

you turned down a date because of emojis? Wow!

 

This made me:laugh: