raj_aryan Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 I dunno what to say abt my mom. My dad works outta station. And she is bedding 5 guys in his absence. One is her childhood friend. One is dad's cousin. One is my elder cousin. One is a new guy who she has made her bf. And one is a guy in a military. Not just this but she even wears revealing kinda clothes in fronta my friend and the whole situation is very embarassing for me. Pls advice on what kinda lady is she and how to deal with this mess? Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 Unfortunately, none of us can choose our parents. And unfortunately, those who are not well equipped for the job end up becoming parents anyway. Sad that we can not always choose what life hands us…but we CAN choose what we do with the lessons we learn. You know what I did Raj?...I watched carefully and observed the mistakes my parents made. And the things I didn't like…those things that bothered me the most…I turned them into what I call "backward lessons." I used what I saw to make a solemn promise to myself that I would not become what I resented the most. That I didn't have to follow in my parent's footsteps…that I could walk beyond them and try to do better for myself. Use what you observe to learn the lessons you need to become a stronger person for yourself. Use it as a "scared straight" tactic to avoid repeating the same dysfunctional behaviors exhibited by your parental role models. If you can somehow find the courage to rise above your mother's issues and learn to separate yourself from them, you will survive her and become a stronger person in spite of it. I Promise! One day you will look back on your parents through the eyes of an adult with pity instead of resentment. While you may lose a great deal of respect for her along the way, something miraculous happens as we get older and our parents come down off of those imaginary pedestals we place them on as children. Once you meet them eye to eye as "equals" … warts, flaws and all … you'll somehow find it within you to love them anyway. Meanwhile, stay strong and work hard on doing whatever you can to become financially independant so you can remove yourself from the situation as soon as possible. And if your mother's behavior is embarrassing to you, then try not to bring your friends around. Go somewhere else where no one has to see it. You'll feel a lot better if you put some healthy distance between you. Link to post Share on other sites
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