Tayla Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 This is a forum, open to discussion and sometimes wise advisal. Journaling can be done elsewhere. Most here understand that you carry poor social skills and wish to remain caught in the negativity of your choices. Nothing changes... Even if going back years... Repeat and rinse, repeat and rinse. 10 Link to post Share on other sites
noelle303 Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 I post because I'm venting and expressing my feelings. Years from now I can look back and read it and go "oh yeah I remember that". It's my diary, as I've said many times before. Others seem that they can't wait to read my posts and tell me how horrible I am. No matter what I say, I'm horrible. If I said the the sky is blue I KNOW someone would say "How can you make that assumption? Why can't you give it a break and let it decide what color it is!" If you don't like what I say then don't bother reading it. I don't know why some people waste their time with my posts!!! A classic act of not taking responsibility for your actions and words is the old martyr ''everyone's ganging up on me''. None of us have just decided to hate you and pounce on you for no reason. In fact, we are more objective than anyone else in your life can be because we don't actually know you. We know the things you express here and they are truly hateful things. It sounds less like a diary and more like a hit list. You despise a child who does nothing in this world but exist and act different than you. Do you never self-reflect on yourself and think about your behaviour and words? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mapper71 Posted June 23, 2016 Author Share Posted June 23, 2016 A classic act of not taking responsibility for your actions and words is the old martyr ''everyone's ganging up on me''. None of us have just decided to hate you and pounce on you for no reason. In fact, we are more objective than anyone else in your life can be because we don't actually know you. We know the things you express here and they are truly hateful things. It sounds less like a diary and more like a hit list. You despise a child who does nothing in this world but exist and act different than you. Do you never self-reflect on yourself and think about your behaviour and words? Oh I'm sure I am a horrible person for the way I talk about her. I know it's not nice, but it's the way I feel about her. Plain and simple. Yet most people on here don't know her and they seem to think she is an angel who is just trying to get on in the world. You have never met her, just like you have never met me, yet you say I am a horrible human being and she is the sweetest thing. What if the tables were turned and she was the one writing horrible things about me without my knowledge? Would you tell her what an awful person she is and what an angel I must be for having to deal with her??? Or would you say "Oh you poor thing to have to put up with such a horrible stepmother?" Link to post Share on other sites
MuddyFootprints Posted June 24, 2016 Share Posted June 24, 2016 I get it, you are angry at the world. No one could possibly measure up to your standards. Are you willing to explore the reasons for that? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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ChickiePops Posted June 24, 2016 Share Posted June 24, 2016 Oh I'm sure I am a horrible person for the way I talk about her. I know it's not nice, but it's the way I feel about her. Plain and simple. Yet most people on here don't know her and they seem to think she is an angel who is just trying to get on in the world. You have never met her, just like you have never met me, yet you say I am a horrible human being and she is the sweetest thing. What if the tables were turned and she was the one writing horrible things about me without my knowledge? Would you tell her what an awful person she is and what an angel I must be for having to deal with her??? Or would you say "Oh you poor thing to have to put up with such a horrible stepmother?" Nobody said she's an angel. Most people say that she is a typical teenager. You admit freely that you wanted no part of being a step parent. So stop step parenting and leave this poor girl alone. She is allowed to love her father. Quit trying to come between them! If you don't want to BE an evil stepmother then stop playing the role of evil stepmother and just get out of her life! Let her father handle her the way he sees fit. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 24, 2016 Share Posted June 24, 2016 I hope she knows how to make a good Oprah cinnamon chai (hot with organic soy) because anyone who can make a good one of those is A-okay with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mapper71 Posted June 24, 2016 Author Share Posted June 24, 2016 Nobody said she's an angel. Most people say that she is a typical teenager. You admit freely that you wanted no part of being a step parent. So stop step parenting and leave this poor girl alone. She is allowed to love her father. Quit trying to come between them! If you don't want to BE an evil stepmother then stop playing the role of evil stepmother and just get out of her life! Let her father handle her the way he sees fit. Would you say the same thing to her if she was writing horrible things about me and I didn't have a voice?? Would you tell her to stop being an evil stepdaughter and leave her poor stepmother alone as she is just trying to love her husband?? Or would you tell her "Wow, I can't believe your stepmother! She sounds like a horrible person!"? Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted June 24, 2016 Share Posted June 24, 2016 Would you say the same thing to her if she was writing horrible things about me and I didn't have a voice?? Would you tell her to stop being an evil stepdaughter and leave her poor stepmother alone as she is just trying to love her husband?? Or would you tell her "Wow, I can't believe your stepmother! She sounds like a horrible person!"? Depends on what she was saying. But the dynamic is different. She's a teenager..you are a grown woman and you're supposed to be more mature. But she's NOT the one posting terrible things, you are. She's the one who's acting her age. The problem is that you, a grown woman, are also acting like a teenager, and a bratty one at that. And the things you're posting are not even having the desired effect, as you appear to be eliciting more sympathy for the kid than for yourself. As I said, the very best thing you can do is be polite and leave her alone as much as possible. You don't want to be a stepmother so don't. Let her father and mother do whatever they feel is right, let her spend time with her father if she wants to, and stay out of it. Go hang out with your friends when she's around, get a hobby, watch tv. Just leave them alone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mapper71 Posted June 24, 2016 Author Share Posted June 24, 2016 Depends on what she was saying. But the dynamic is different. She's a teenager..you are a grown woman and you're supposed to be more mature. But she's NOT the one posting terrible things, you are. She's the one who's acting her age. The problem is that you, a grown woman, are also acting like a teenager, and a bratty one at that. And the things you're posting are not even having the desired effect, as you appear to be eliciting more sympathy for the kid than for yourself. As I said, the very best thing you can do is be polite and leave her alone as much as possible. You don't want to be a stepmother so don't. Let her father and mother do whatever they feel is right, let her spend time with her father if she wants to, and stay out of it. Go hang out with your friends when she's around, get a hobby, watch tv. Just leave them alone. Duly noted Link to post Share on other sites
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