Recovering from deep-rooted low self esteem

[Alamo657]

Hello,

 

Lately i have been talking alot with a physchiatrist.

We narrowed down the root of my problems to low self-esteem.

 

I always knew i had low self-esteem, that i felt my life was so-so, that i felt not good not this not that.

Overall it materialized as being socially awkward, unmotivated in all things, and made me a depressed person with a consistant mood (no episodes, no panic, no highs... just a constant negative outlook on life and myself).

 

Until now i never thought that low self esteem could basically **** up my own life all by itself, that i still could pull it off being average, that people would accept me "as i am". But all of it was bull.

 

Without achievements of my own, without control over my body, my mind and my future, i'm no one, and people are not attracted to me (for friendship, or for love).

 

In my 20 achievements didn't matter because i seemed to have potential. I could still find love.

In my 30 now, without achievements, people look at me like i'm doing nothing with my life, and they are damn right.

 

But this is not the end for me i think. I have a plan. A plan to be a better person, with more to offer than i have today. This plan is simple : learn to do things, new things, things i don't know how to do. Try, work, and succeed.

 

This is the only way.

 

Just laying down my thoughts.

[NTV]

Hello,

 

Lately i have been talking alot with a physchiatrist.

We narrowed down the root of my problems to low self-esteem.

 

I always knew i had low self-esteem, that i felt my life was so-so, that i felt not good not this not that.

Overall it materialized as being socially awkward, unmotivated in all things, and made me a depressed person with a consistant mood (no episodes, no panic, no highs... just a constant negative outlook on life and myself).

 

Until now i never thought that low self esteem could basically **** up my own life all by itself, that i still could pull it off being average, that people would accept me "as i am". But all of it was bull.

 

Without achievements of my own, without control over my body, my mind and my future, i'm no one, and people are not attracted to me (for friendship, or for love).

 

In my 20 achievements didn't matter because i seemed to have potential. I could still find love.

In my 30 now, without achievements, people look at me like i'm doing nothing with my life, and they are damn right.

 

But this is not the end for me i think. I have a plan. A plan to be a better person, with more to offer than i have today. This plan is simple : learn to do things, new things, things i don't know how to do. Try, work, and succeed.

 

This is the only way.

 

Just laying down my thoughts.

 

 

 

sounds like a plan is good! you got more details to it than that?

[ZA Dater]

I'd like to wish you all the best on your journey. I hope you overcome that challenge.

[Satu]

All the best with your new approach to life.

 

I wish you much happiness.

[basil67]

Good for you. What have you shortlisted on your plan of stuff to learn?

 

Are you prepared for setbacks as you learn? I've got hobbies that are seriously 'three steps forward, two steps back". And then there's that thing how the more you learn, the more you realise you don't know.

 

I don't want to put you off. Just know that when you're learning, setbacks are totally normal. You learn from the mistakes and try again.

[Alamo657]

Good for you. What have you shortlisted on your plan of stuff to learn?

 

Are you prepared for setbacks as you learn? I've got hobbies that are seriously 'three steps forward, two steps back". And then there's that thing how the more you learn, the more you realise you don't know.

 

I don't want to put you off. Just know that when you're learning, setbacks are totally normal. You learn from the mistakes and try again.

 

To make it short : 3 hobbies that i've postponed for too long, and being formed for a new job (with a lesser pay).

 

I figured that this incarnation of me has run its course, it's not desirable anymore, to me or to others. It's financially ok, but that's not enough to want to go on like this.

 

Also, i think i must stop justifying my passivity with being available and earning good money so that i can date women.

 

Because let's face the facts : no women will want to date me anymore as i am. Maybe none ever will again, but at least i won't be doing a job that enhance my passivity.

Edited June 5, 2016 by Alamo657

[Offspring]

Good on you, your plan of "try, work, succeed" sounds good. It's good to see a positive thread here

 

As one person suggested, be prepared for possible setbacks, but tackle them with the try, work, succeed philosophy.

 

People are very attracted to positive philosophy, so GOOD ON YOU!