Women-What is your level of attractiveness? How often do you get approached by men?

[yuckie]

Women only (I am conducting a poll). What is your level of attractiveness (try to be as objective as possible)? How often do you get approached by men?

[Buddhist]

Women only (I am conducting a poll). What is your level of attractiveness (try to be as objective as possible)? How often do you get approached by men?

 

If I judge my attractiveness by how often I get approached then I realistically have to rate myself a 0-2..... I'm not the approachable sort.

[Emilia]

It depends on which part of London I am in. Some cultures are more comfortable with approaching than others, often depends on whether someone views women as a piece of meat or intimidating. I'm not really sure attractiveness has much to do with it. I've seen some slow-motion car crashes play out in cold approaches

 

I'll see a guy stare at me often at my regular place, then when I'm near him in the queue he stares down at his shoe and looks at me when he thinks I can't see him. I don't even think he knows how he should start a conversation.

[Taramere]

I'm past the stage of getting catcalled/subjected to pick-up approaches now, but when I was younger, it didn't seem to depend on me so much as the location I was in. Where I live is not a place that's exactly famed for its population of beautiful women. You would expect that as a consequence, beautiful women would find themselves mobbed. Doesn't happen.

 

Years back I worked for a short spell with a girl who had been involved international beauty contests. Without all the beauty contestant slap on her face, she was a really stunning looking girl. But she would walk down the street and not attract a single double take. Almost like a determined "let's ignore the beautiful girl" sort of thing. I found it strange, and really quite sad that a girl like that - at the height of her beauty - was wasting it on a city where beauty was so unappreciated.

 

I'm sure in a warmer country she'd have attracted plenty of admiring looks. Women being looked at and hit on has more to do with the environment than with the woman herself. In my younger days I could go to warm places that were famed for being full of beautiful women (Rio, anybody?) and find myself getting no shortage of male attention - despite feeling like a Shetland pony in a field full of thoroughbreds.

 

Being young and wearing summer-appropriate clothing in an environment where there are a lot of men on the pull is going to get a woman hit on constantly. It's not a very reliable indicator of how attractive a woman is in her own right as opposed to the kind of clothes she's wearing and the environment she's in.

[Buddhist]

Being young and wearing summer-appropriate clothing in an environment where there are a lot of men on the pull is going to get a woman hit on constantly. It's not a very reliable indicator of how attractive a woman is in her own right as opposed to the kind of clothes she's wearing and the environment she's in.

 

Great post Taramere. I think you are right that environment is everything. There is this myth that anything with breasts and straight teeth will get hit on by hordes of horny men, anywhere, anytime. As if the world is filled with free-ranging testosterone that has nothing else to do except hit on women. It's just not true. Even when I was young and clubbing, I would rarely if ever get hit on. Being an introvert with resting bitch face will do that....

[Emilia]

I'm sure in a warmer country she'd have attracted plenty of admiring looks. Women being looked at and hit on has more to do with the environment than with the woman herself. In my younger days I could go to warm places that were famed for being full of beautiful women (Rio, anybody?) and find myself getting no shortage of male attention - despite feeling like a Shetland pony in a field full of thoroughbreds.

 

Being young and wearing summer-appropriate clothing in an environment where there are a lot of men on the pull is going to get a woman hit on constantly. It's not a very reliable indicator of how attractive a woman is in her own right as opposed to the kind of clothes she's wearing and the environment she's in.

Exactly. There are parts of London where if you sit down for a coffee, you will get mobbed because the men are from more outgoing areas of the world. In other places you can sit there for ages and might get stares from afar but no-one will approach you.

[PrettyEmily77]

Women only (I am conducting a poll). What is your level of attractiveness (try to be as objective as possible)? How often do you get approached by men?

 

So you're conducting a poll on attractiveness on an anonymous forum, and asking women to rate themselves as objectively as possible - interesting...

 

What are you planning on doing with the results of this poll, out of interest?

 

To answer both questions in the OP: it depends. A lot. Also, it's not important (to me)

Edited June 3, 2016 by PrettyEmily77

[todreaminblue]

I get approached a fair bit...because i am approachable.....its more a vibe i give off i think than my attractiveness.....its my smile ...i smile at everyone...and my smile is a nine because i feel interest from others when i smile........my smile is nearly always returned..... ...because its genuine most likely ....but...by looks...i am probably considered below average......i guess it depends who is looking......deb

[Jabron1]

I'm not sure that you can judge a woman's attractiveness based on how often she is approached, because a lot of guys don't have the bottle to approach the best looking women.

 

Exactly. There are parts of London where if you sit down for a coffee, you will get mobbed because the men are from more outgoing areas of the world. In other places you can sit there for ages and might get stares from afar but no-one will approach you.

 

The main area for approaches in London is Oxford Street, by far.

 

This is because every player knows that the shops bring out the women.

 

Seriously, Oxford Street is notorious.

[Emilia]

The main area for approaches in London is Oxford Street, by far.

 

This is because every player knows that the shops bring out the women.

 

Seriously, Oxford Street is notorious.

Sure, lots of young people too, it's really busy though.

 

Parts of South London like Brixton or around Elephant and Castle, etc are very well known for the 'hassle factor' (the reality behind approach from a woman's point of view), E&C has a large South American male population for example.

[Jabron1]

Sure, lots of young people too, it's really busy though.

 

Parts of South London like Brixton or around Elephant and Castle, etc are very well known for the 'hassle factor' (the reality behind approach from a woman's point of view), E&C has a large South American male population for example.

 

I think it's interesting how you find a difference between the cultures in terms of approaching women (or not).

 

So you find that Latino men are more likely to hit on you than an Englishman would, for example?

[Emilia]

So you find that Latino men are more likely to hit on you than an Englishman would, for example?

Yes, except Friday night when they are drunk.