My girlfriend is pregnant with her ex. I don't know what I should do.

[Survivor12]

Based on what you have said, you haven't "saved" her from prostituting herself--you have just become both her pimp and her full time john. Once she has had the baby & is back to being "marketable", it is very likely that she will follow through with her initial plan & you will be taking care of the other man's child on your own.

 

Think about it. You are paying her (although you call it "supporting her") and her baby to stay with you even though she has told you that she would not be with you if she weren't pregnant.

 

If you think she's a burden now, just wait until she hooks you into adopting her child & you are obligated to supporting him/her for the next 18+ years and she is back with her other ex or the next sucker that comes along.

[Daxter325]

This is going to haunt you for a very, very long time.

 

Trust me I KNOW what I am telling you bro.

 

Walk away and you'll be scott free

[fixing]

I'm no psychologist, merely an adult with an opinion but OP, you seem to be in a very fragile and delusional state of mind. Given the fact that you attempted suicide in the past, my advice would be to go and talk to a therapist as soon as possible.

 

This is not meant as some kind of put down or insult, but merely my observations reading your OP and then your replies.

 

Failing that, I can only echo what ALL the other posters have said, and that is to run a mile from this woman. She is a scammer

Also, that 'beznes' link is alarming.

Edited June 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[sooshi]

I read the opening post on your first thread. This whole thing is really quite alarming.

 

Your reaction to the breakup last year suggests you weren't in a place to be in a healthy relationship (spamming her with texts, then doing so with her best friend, etc.). You chased after her and then she and her friend beat you up. Are you okay with being beaten up? I know I'm not. And it really saddens me because you must have so little self-compassion that you allow for these things to happen (get beat up, have her take THOUSANDS upon thousands of dollars from you, allow her to do whatever she wants without any consequences, basically.)

 

I'm not so sure that it's her you care so much about. She is the only girlfriend you've ever had, and it seems like you'll do whatever you can to make it last for the rest of your life, no matter what she does, and no matter how she treats you. You have put her on a pedestal, as if she were a goddess.

 

What she actually is, is someone who doesn't care for you like the way you care for her. Not even close. There is actually no evidence at all that she does even care for you, let alone love you.

 

Please, for your sake, really try to think this rationally. Do you want to be with someone who beats you up? Who takes thousands of dollars for you and doesn't look for work herself? Who goes against her word? Who hurts you over and over again?

 

Would you want someone to do all of that to you?

 

If not, why do you continue to keep doing it all to yourself?

 

It's time to stop. Can you feel the truth in that, even if just a little tiny bit? I hope so.

[trolloperative]

I'm aware of this too. We stayed together for 3 months and every time when we fought, she told me that if she wasn't pregnant, she would never give me a chance to **** her mind. It means she wouldn't put up with my bull**** and stay with me.

 

My only motivation for doing this is to protect her and save her. I don't want her to go back to her old life. I don't care if she loves me or not and I'm not doing this for her to be thought of a savior or to get her to love me. In fact, I even told my close friends that if she can go back to her ex, I'd be so happy because financially, she is such a burden to me and every time she asks me for money, I feel so stressed, especially with my current situation. I wish she can just go back to her ex. Read my post above this. If she really wanted to find someone who can give her more money and stability, why did she not go back to her ex? Why is she still with me?

 

I'm pretty sure if I raise her baby or should I say our baby, he would take after my surname and even though I'm not his biological father, he would still be my son and I'm his father. I have all rights to the child because I'm the one who raised him up, not her ex even though he's the real father.

 

Are you planning on being at the birth? If so, do NOT put your name on the birth certificate!

 

Wow. Just wow.

 

Her ex probably doesn't want her.

 

The biological person will always be the dad.

[Deidre]

No one is worth taking your life over. NO ONE. That alone should tell you to stay far away from this toxic person. Please do not continue with this girl, your life will be endless misery if you do. Heed the writing on the wall that is plain to see. That's my advice.

[Tahirthegreat]

Do not sign yourself up to take care of another mans child for the next 18+ years of your life. That is the responsibility of her and whoever bio dad is. Have more respect for yourself and find a woman that isnt looking to take advantage of you.

[longjohn]

I read through the OP's thread and please someone correct me if I'm wrong but what I've got here is his gf is/was a hooker and is currently knocked up by her ex. The same lady attempted to leave a few times to return back to her trade and the OP wants her to stay with him while working on the side as a "webcam model" aka webcam porn/model?

 

Is this for real or the script for the next "Hangover" movie? Because all we're missing is a smoking monkey and a tiger in the bathroom to complete the set.

 

That lady is critically damaged good's, don't walk away from it run like it's on fire away from it. Those types of ladies are good for one thing.. draining your bank account and probably soul dry. She'll use you up, spit you out and move along to the next one. Seriously get out and do it now. Find yourself a good doctor and talk about it. You'll save yourself a lot of pain. No one is worth taking your own life over. There's a lot of mostly normal nice ladies out there to meet.

[Heracles]

Do you want advice or do you want to be encouraged to do what you already intended to do?

 

“They ask how it is best to act under such-and-such circumstances. He tells them, and they seem to agree that he is right. But then they go away and do something different, for they find his advice too difficult or have a strong desire to do the opposite”

 

The world also needs cucks to raise other men's children all the while feeling noble about it.

 

Do whatever you want to do. You will be fine.

[Armageddon]

I wish I had listened to all of you back then. She dumped me again and this time, it hurts even more because she just completely disappeared i.e ghosted from me. I also just discovered 2 days ago that she went back to her ex-boyfriend, the guy who actually made a lot of problems for her, and I came back to help her two years ago! I'm devastated and helpless now.

[keiji]

I wish I had listened to all of you back then. She dumped me again and this time, it hurts even more because she just completely disappeared i.e ghosted from me. I also just discovered 2 days ago that she went back to her ex-boyfriend, the guy who actually made a lot of problems for her, and I came back to help her two years ago! I'm devastated and helpless now.

 

The thing is, will you listen now? I was just reading your original post and I couldn't believe how sordid the whole thing was. An ex-prostitute that suddenly has qualms about stripping in front of a webcam? Jesus, you were her personal banker at a 0% interest rate and no return obligation. Why would someone consciously get in a situation like that? To say that she's made some awful decisions in her life is an understatement, but you? What leads you to become someone's punching bag, particularly when you knew all about her background? That's that what you really need to ponder, I think. Let her drown in her own s****. The fact that she ran away is a blessing, and not exactly in disguise.

[CollegeKid101]

Well you already stated you would love if she went back to her ex because it would help you financially..so that's a positive.

 

Another positive is that the baby isn't yours, you should prey every night and twice on Sundays that it isn't.

 

Another positive is that you now see her for what she is so you can block her forever.

 

That's three positives and the list can keep going...and going...and going...

 

Have some self respect, you've already wasted so much time and money on somebody who left you for their ex, lived with them, slept with them, had a baby with them, and thinks you're a doormat, which you were. Today, however, you are no longer that doormat if you choose not to be. You should feel no pain, but joy.

 

She never loved you. She loved how easy it was to control you.

 

Good luck...

[Goodguy05]

Hi everyone, for those of you who know me, I was dumped by my girlfriend in September last year and I attempted suicide and posted a thread which you can find here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/556651-if-dumpee-disappears-completely-dumper-s-life-8.html - asking if disappearing from her life can get her back.

 

I haven't been updating about my story for the past 6 months since I got back with her because so much has happened since. Basically, I flew over to Thailand to see her in December after her ex made problems for her. I'll just try to explain the story as clear as possible.

 

She left her ex in mid November last year and she lived with him for around one and a half month from October to mid November. She left him because she found out that he's crazy and she can't live with him. Whenever they have a fight or an argument, he would break everything around him. Apparantely, he's even more crazy than me. And he is actually really crazy, he has anger management issues and he has to take medication to calm down. So on one morning when he left for work, she left his house and never came back. He started calling her and tried to find her but he couldn't. Then, she told him that she is very tired of fighting with him and because of what happened in her home, (her house burnt down and her grandmother died in the fire), she is going to go back to prostitution that night. Therefore, he told her that she will not go back and he warned her to watch what what he would do to her. Thus, he went to the police station, bribed the police and made a false police report that she stole his gun and 400,000 baht ($16,000) from his house. The police were looking everywhere for her and she "surrendered" at the police station because she had to fly back to her country anyway, and she would have been stopped at the airport because she's on the watch list. The police confiscated her passport and told her to pay up 20,000 baht ($800) and a return ticket to her country if she wants her passport back, or she would be black-listed for 5 years and thrown into jail.

 

That's how I came back into her life. I flew back to Thailand in December to save her. I paid off the police and gave her a sum of money around $3,000 for her to go back to her country and some money for her family. Basically I solved all her problems she had at that time. So for 3 weeks, she stayed in her country and I went back to my country. I was supposed to visit her in her country in February this year and she texted me on Christmas eve to come in March instead. I asked her why and she said she's going to China and she told me not to ask her why. Obviously I know the reason why she wanted to go to China and I was extremely upset and devastated because I can't let her go back to her old life. I persuaded her to be a webcam model instead and I can help her to set up everything and she can start the work rightaway in Thailand, because webcam modelling, even though isn't the kind of thing I want my girlfriend to do, at least it's better than doing the real sex. She agreed to this arrangement and I arranged for her to come back to Thailand in early January and that's how we started our life together for 3 months in Thailand. Of course, I sent her a lot of money so she can leave some money with her mum and to fly her back to Thailand. I wasn't happy with how she emotionally blackmailed me into giving her money or else she would go to China for prostitution. That's how we always fight and argued when we were in Thailand.

 

We reunited in Thailand and on the first day, she refused to do the webcam modelling because she didn't know she had to strip and do all those disgusting acts and she said she would rather do the real sex than this. I couldn't understand why she would think like this and we fought over this. I accused her of lying to me and using me to come back to Thailand and because I feared she would go back to prostitution, I took up a bank loan of $14,000. I lost my job and I neglected my business because of her. That's how my business failed and I'm in debt now because, I took up a $6,000 bank loan back in December to help with her her problems and including this additional $14,000 loan in January, I owe my bank $20,000 now. After staying with her, I realized how fast she spend my money like water.

 

Anyway, I still took care of her and supported her from January to mid April because she admitted to me in January she was pregnant but her baby isn't mine, but her ex - the guy she left me for. I was devastated as I planned to have a future with her but her baby ruin my plan and the future I plan to have with her. I was filled with so much anguish because as much as I love her, I couldn’t bear the thought of raising another man’s child, especially the man she dumped me for. Her ex refused to take responsibility for the baby because he doesn’t believe the baby is his, but mine. How ironic. Every time I see her stomach/her baby, he will remind me of her ex and the hurt she put me through. We agreed to take a 2 week break from each other to think through about our future and she would not blame me if I decide to leave her as she doesn’t want to break my life.

 

During that 2 weeks, I think of her every day and I didn’t know what to do. On one hand, I decide to raise her baby as my own but on the other hand, I was so worried what if her ex comes back to her and when the baby grows up, he will acknowledge her ex as the father. After all, he is the biological father so there is nothing I can do. After careful consideration, I decided to raise her baby as my own and be the father of the baby. What truly makes a father is how you raised up the child and be there for him through every single step of his journey, and not who contribute the sperm.

 

Now, I'm doing better and things are starting to fall in place for me. I just got a new job ($7,000 a month) and my business is starting to pick up. with my new job and my side business, I can probably make more than $12,000 a month which is quite high for a 24 years old. I just got a project worth $20,000 and the client paid me $10,000 deposit so I have the money to pay off all most of my debt now but I'm still holding on as I don't want to give away one lump sum in case of an emergency like her doctor's check-up, labor, baby etc.

 

Even though I have accepted the fact that her baby isn't mine and I will father the baby, deep down inside, I still can't get over this. Everytime when I fight with her, I would just tell her to go back to her ex because financially, he is much better off than me and she should go back to him since he is the real father of her baby and they would be a proper complete family. I don't know what to do now. I love her and I would do anything for her but to raise another man's child? I just turned 25 recently and I don't think I'm ready to be a father yet. I know I have a great future ahead of me and many people tell me that I can make a name for myself in this world so why take on this burden now? I just don't know what to do.

 

To all those guys out there, would you raise another man's child as your own?

 

Man r u nutzo sorry to be so blunt but she is using u. I been wth a couple Thai woman and not sayingredients there all like that but 1sthe red flag she's a pro. U cld hav a kid wth her that's another thing but I can identify wth how u feel my current ex had 3 of her own kids wth different ex's and I'd never ever do it again too hard and complicated. Ur looking in the wrong places too d7de I dated these type of woman pros there no good man.

[Goodguy05]

She's not ur probl3m dude stop f3eling so responsible for wellbeing because ur not she made her bed leave her and disappear. An older Thai woman did this to me for mths made it so hard for me to leave till she cheated and that was my ticket out. Today I wouldn't waste so much of my time wth someone ur not suitable wth

[Alpha_Male]

Lol

Thai girl.

You kidding bro?

 

I have experienced had relationships with 3 thais girls.

 

Based on my experience, just for fun yes you can.

For serious relationship? Nope.

Unless the relationship is with local college and educated girl.

 

Other than that, $$$$ number one.

 

And the girls like playboy man rather than good man.

They will dump good man and seak for the bad boy.

Because they like fun, not serious relationship or responsibility

 

My last ex is thais too.

But local college girl, cheat me one time.

Pretend to be different than other, but u need to understand majority thais girls are poison. Beware.

 

I just leave her, dump her, and enjoy my life with other girl after all.

Sometimes not all girl like to be save

 

And stop being too good. And pusher. Keep focusing on your life more better.

Start dating new go, go to chiang mai. Girls there 100x more beautiful.

 

Once u start dating new one, that is more beautiful with good personality, u will instantly forget the past, plus u will start laughing at it

Edited March 7, 2017 by Alpha_Male

[Miss Clavel]

The thing I don't understand is why are all of you saying she just "love" me and use me for my money? Her ex wanted her back, he contacted her in April. She is aware that I was broke then because I lost my job and my business failed and my money was running out and I was $20k in debt. Yet she still chose to stick with me. Her ex contacted her and he is a very wealthy young man in his 30s. He lives in a big house, owns a fancy car and runs one of the biggest tea business in Thailand.

 

He can give her a very stable life and support her and when she was with him, he gave her money every week, much more than what I gave her. Moreover, he's the real father of her baby. Yet she still chose to stay with me. If she was really using me for my money, why did she not go back to her ex?

 

I don't understand her. Sometimes her decisions don't make sense.

 

they will if you try to wrap your head around the fact that she may have more then just the two of you in her life. she might be working other angles. maybe someone she met while "working"?

 

who's baby is it, really? and just out of curiosity, is her pussy lined with mink? wth? if it were me, i'd go and have a word with the "baby daddy".

 

why, at your age do you need to have so much chaos and turmoil in your life? what is it about you that you can't be number one to your woman? sure, you're a great earner, but you're not number one sexually to her, you're not even the first man to give her a baby. why don't you think you deserve an equal, why do you have such a "white knight" complex. if you are going to be a father, eventually you will have to stop enabling your kid and make them face the consequences of their own actions, understand?

 

stop giving her money and see what happens. she'll threaten some other humiliating, phony scenario for you to rescue her from. and if rescuing protitutes "works" for you, then spread the love, im sure there are hundreds of working girls that would love for you to "help" them. why put all your eggs in a basket that is already, uh, occupied?

 

you've gone into so much debt it frightens me, and it should scare you too. k

 

how are you going to reach your potential and your dreams with such a large stone around your neck?

 

i can't imagine bringing this woman, a prostitute and unwed mother to midnight mass with your family or even easter brunch. hell, you keep wasting your money and you'll have to sell your car and uber to christmas dinner.

 

a mate, a person you form a pair bond with is supposed to lift you up. not drag you down.

 

let her go. let her go, today. no contact period

Edited March 7, 2017 by Miss Clavel

[Armageddon]

Do not sign yourself up to take care of another mans child for the next 18+ years of your life. That is the responsibility of her and whoever bio dad is. Have more respect for yourself and find a woman that isnt looking to take advantage of you.

 

I was prepared to be the father to her baby even though I knew he isn't mine. I've been supporting her and taking care of her since she was pregnant till she gave birth, but I can't believe she left me for her ex, probably because I've stopped giving her money or rather less often as before.

 

I read through the OP's thread and please someone correct me if I'm wrong but what I've got here is his gf is/was a hooker and is currently knocked up by her ex. The same lady attempted to leave a few times to return back to her trade and the OP wants her to stay with him while working on the side as a "webcam model" aka webcam porn/model?

 

Is this for real or the script for the next "Hangover" movie? Because all we're missing is a smoking monkey and a tiger in the bathroom to complete the set.

 

That lady is critically damaged good's, don't walk away from it run like it's on fire away from it. Those types of ladies are good for one thing.. draining your bank account and probably soul dry. She'll use you up, spit you out and move along to the next one. Seriously get out and do it now. Find yourself a good doctor and talk about it. You'll save yourself a lot of pain. No one is worth taking your own life over. There's a lot of mostly normal nice ladies out there to meet.

 

Each and every word I typed out is true, I know my story sounds overly dramatic and unbelievable but it's actually true. The past 2 years of my life have been revolved around her and I felt like I wasted 2 years...so much of my time.

 

Do you want advice or do you want to be encouraged to do what you already intended to do?

 

“They ask how it is best to act under such-and-such circumstances. He tells them, and they seem to agree that he is right. But then they go away and do something different, for they find his advice too difficult or have a strong desire to do the opposite”

 

The world also needs cucks to raise other men's children all the while feeling noble about it.

 

Do whatever you want to do. You will be fine.

 

I guess you're right, I'm really a cuckoo.

 

The thing is, will you listen now? I was just reading your original post and I couldn't believe how sordid the whole thing was. An ex-prostitute that suddenly has qualms about stripping in front of a webcam? Jesus, you were her personal banker at a 0% interest rate and no return obligation. Why would someone consciously get in a situation like that? To say that she's made some awful decisions in her life is an understatement, but you? What leads you to become someone's punching bag, particularly when you knew all about her background? That's that what you really need to ponder, I think. Let her drown in her own s****. The fact that she ran away is a blessing, and not exactly in disguise.

 

I actually still love her and deep down inside, I hope she contacts me or come back to me just like two years ago. I just cannot imagine being with another woman. She really isn't as bad as how many of you made her out to be. I felt like I deserved some blame in the disappearing break-up this time which I will create another thread to explain.

 

 

Well you already stated you would love if she went back to her ex because it would help you financially..so that's a positive.

 

Another positive is that the baby isn't yours, you should prey every night and twice on Sundays that it isn't.

 

Another positive is that you now see her for what she is so you can block her forever.

 

That's three positives and the list can keep going...and going...and going...

 

Have some self respect, you've already wasted so much time and money on somebody who left you for their ex, lived with them, slept with them, had a baby with them, and thinks you're a doormat, which you were. Today, however, you are no longer that doormat if you choose not to be. You should feel no pain, but joy.

 

She never loved you. She loved how easy it was to control you.

 

Good luck...

 

Yes I did mention that and I kept telling her that when she was pregnant, and when we were staying together for the 3 - 4 months in Thailand. However, I actually never wanted her to go back to her ex. It's literally like a last resort because I know that I'm not financially strong enough to take care of her and her baby, but her ex can. I guess you can say it's a reverse psychology kind of thing. I kept pushing her to her ex, but deep down inside, I don't actually want her to go back to her ex.

 

It's interesting you pointed out this statement because I did ask her if she loved me and her response was " I love how much you love me. " - what does this even mean?

 

She's not ur probl3m dude stop f3eling so responsible for wellbeing because ur not she made her bed leave her and disappear. An older Thai woman did this to me for mths made it so hard for me to leave till she cheated and that was my ticket out. Today I wouldn't waste so much of my time wth someone ur not suitable wth

 

My ex isn't Thai. She's Uzbek Russian. Her ex who is now her boyfriend, the guy she dumped me TWICE is Thai.

 

Lol

Thai girl.

You kidding bro?

 

I have experienced had relationships with 3 thais girls.

 

Based on my experience, just for fun yes you can.

For serious relationship? Nope.

Unless the relationship is with local college and educated girl.

 

Other than that, $$$$ number one.

 

And the girls like playboy man rather than good man.

They will dump good man and seak for the bad boy.

Because they like fun, not serious relationship or responsibility

 

My last ex is thais too.

But local college girl, cheat me one time.

Pretend to be different than other, but u need to understand majority thais girls are poison. Beware.

 

I just leave her, dump her, and enjoy my life with other girl after all.

Sometimes not all girl like to be save

 

And stop being too good. And pusher. Keep focusing on your life more better.

Start dating new go, go to chiang mai. Girls there 100x more beautiful.

 

Once u start dating new one, that is more beautiful with good personality, u will instantly forget the past, plus u will start laughing at it

 

She isn't Thai. Her ex is Thai. Thanks for your advice but I can never see myself with another woman. I only love her.

 

they will if you try to wrap your head around the fact that she may have more then just the two of you in her life. she might be working other angles. maybe someone she met while "working"?

 

who's baby is it, really? and just out of curiosity, is her pussy lined with mink? wth? if it were me, i'd go and have a word with the "baby daddy".

 

why, at your age do you need to have so much chaos and turmoil in your life? what is it about you that you can't be number one to your woman? sure, you're a great earner, but you're not number one sexually to her, you're not even the first man to give her a baby. why don't you think you deserve an equal, why do you have such a "white knight" complex. if you are going to be a father, eventually you will have to stop enabling your kid and make them face the consequences of their own actions, understand?

 

stop giving her money and see what happens. she'll threaten some other humiliating, phony scenario for you to rescue her from. and if rescuing protitutes "works" for you, then spread the love, im sure there are hundreds of working girls that would love for you to "help" them. why put all your eggs in a basket that is already, uh, occupied?

 

you've gone into so much debt it frightens me, and it should scare you too. k

 

how are you going to reach your potential and your dreams with such a large stone around your neck?

 

i can't imagine bringing this woman, a prostitute and unwed mother to midnight mass with your family or even easter brunch. hell, you keep wasting your money and you'll have to sell your car and uber to christmas dinner.

 

a mate, a person you form a pair bond with is supposed to lift you up. not drag you down.

 

let her go. let her go, today. no contact period

 

The baby belongs to her boyfriend, the guy she dumped me for twice. Baby's definitely not mine because when we were together prior to our first break-up, she still had her period so she can't possibly be pregnant. And the timeline of her pregnancy due date/baby's birthday matches the time she had sex with him. I actually am in a bigger debt now. Two years ago, I was in debt of $20k and now I'm in debt of $50k and my business failed, lost my job 6 months ago so I kind of stopped giving her money for very long, albeit a few hundred every month as compared to a few thousands two years ago. Maybe this is why she left me again for that Thai guy.

 

The saddest thing now is I have no way to contact her now. She blocked me from everywhere and she even changed her number. I actually flew down to Thailand on Saturday, after I found out she went back to her ex. Deja vu 2 years ago. Her best friend who beat me up alongside with her two years ago. She told me she doesn't even know she is in Thailand but obviously she knows and she is just hiding it from me.

Edited March 7, 2017 by Armageddon

[keiji]

I actually still love her and deep down inside, I hope she contacts me or come back to me just like two years ago. I just cannot imagine being with another woman. She really isn't as bad as how many of you made her out to be. I felt like I deserved some blame in the disappearing break-up this time which I will create another thread to explain.

 

I didn't make her out anything. You did by sharing your story and giving all sorts of ugly details about her. Don't blame third parties. I think someone with a grain of self-respect left in their body would have cut that woman out of their life a long, long time ago. But no, she cut you.

 

If you want a great climax to this story, you might as well buy a plane ticket, visit her and her new guy in Thailand again and give them a fat check with your last savings, if you have any left. The thing is, as I write this, I don't find this story unlikely at all considering how you've behaved. You're taking a beating and enjoying it. This one's on you, not her.

[CupCakess]

I don't agree with this. In situations such as the OP's, I agree with you.

 

I'll say that my parents divorced before I was really making memories, so I only remember my dad as the unreliable alcoholic. My mom wound up with another man in the years following and he treated me and my brother as his own. I appreciated that so much as a kid, and as I've gotten older, that appreciation has only grown and become deeper as Ive realized what it takes for a man to do that.

 

So I respectfully disagree that a man raising someone else's kids as his own isn't a honorable feat.

 

There is a huge diference between meeting a woman who has a kid from a past relationship and your GF getting pregnant by another man while you are still involved and expecting you to financially support her. The former is normal cause everyone has a past, while the latter is stupid because she is cheating on you in the present.

[Armageddon]

There is a huge diference between meeting a woman who has a kid from a past relationship and your GF getting pregnant by another man while you are still involved and expecting you to financially support her. The former is normal cause everyone has a past, while the latter is stupid because she is cheating on you in the present.

 

To be fair to her, she got pregnant only after she broke up with me two years ago, during our first break-up and slept with that Thai dude 3 days later. I went back to Bangkok to chase her back about 1 month later that time, and that only pushed her closer to her boyfriend. So technically, she didn't cheat on me because we had broken up. She dumped her boyfriend after 1 and a half month and he couldn't deal with it, so he colluded with the police to get her back, and I had to fly back to Bangkok to help her. At that time, she doesn't know she was pregnant yet. She only found out in December 2015 after I sent her back to her country and she admitted to me in January 2016, when we reunited - thus I posted this thread. I took care of her for 3 to 4 months during January to April 2016 and throughout her pregnancy till she gave birth in July 2016. I stopped giving her as much money because I lost my job in September and my business failed. I can't believe she can leave me again for the same man TWICE, after everything I've done for her.

Edited March 7, 2017 by Armageddon

[Blanco]

There is a huge diference between meeting a woman who has a kid from a past relationship and your GF getting pregnant by another man while you are still involved and expecting you to financially support her. The former is normal cause everyone has a past, while the latter is stupid because she is cheating on you in the present.

 

Well yeah, that's why I said it wasn't honorable in situations such as the OP's.

[Alpha_Male]

To be fair to her, she got pregnant only after she broke up with me two years ago, during our first break-up and slept with that Thai dude 3 days later. I went back to Bangkok to chase her back about 1 month later that time, and that only pushed her closer to her boyfriend. So technically, she didn't cheat on me because we had broken up. She dumped her boyfriend after 1 and a half month and he couldn't deal with it, so he colluded with the police to get her back, and I had to fly back to Bangkok to help her. At that time, she doesn't know she was pregnant yet. She only found out in December 2015 after I sent her back to her country and she admitted to me in January 2016, when we reunited - thus I posted this thread. I took care of her for 3 to 4 months during January to April 2016 and throughout her pregnancy till she gave birth in July 2016. I stopped giving her as much money because I lost my job in September and my business failed. I can't believe she can leave me again for the same man TWICE, after everything I've done for her.

The question is not about 'why' she's done that to u.

 

That's her personality. Accept it, admit it. She's bad girl.

Love can make us blind, love can make our mind confuse too between right and wrong.

 

It's almost impossible for us to leave someone that we love. Its normal. Not just u, everyone in this section having that too including me (3 weeks break up with no contact). I'm suffering everyday, but I believe this suffering will gone in no time soon.

 

Even she's done many bad things to u. This is the part when your mind start playing trick by focusing more on the positive part.

 

If u want to stop all this bull**** / suffering ASAP.

Go full no contact.

Face the pain / suffering for atleast 6 months.

Even if she suddenly message u, just ignore it, be strong.

 

After that your mind and mental start to become clear again.

Edited March 12, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[CollegeKid101]

Yes I did mention that and I kept telling her that when she was pregnant, and when we were staying together for the 3 - 4 months in Thailand. However, I actually never wanted her to go back to her ex. It's literally like a last resort because I know that I'm not financially strong enough to take care of her and her baby, but her ex can. I guess you can say it's a reverse psychology kind of thing. I kept pushing her to her ex, but deep down inside, I don't actually want her to go back to her ex.

 

It's interesting you pointed out this statement because I did ask her if she loved me and her response was " I love how much you love me. " - what does this even mean?

 

Uh, uh what? You were telling somebody to leave you, yet you didn't want them to leave you? No wonder she controls you so easily. Your reverse psychology was ridiculous, this is one of the most unhealthy relationships I've ever heard of.

 

Look at the bold, if you don't know what that means..we can't help you. She loved how easy it was to control you, walk all over you, take your money, have you help her with her pregnancy of a kid that is NOT yours. In no way, shape, or form does this woman have any sort of love for you.

 

Are you unable to attract other women? I actually cannot fathom how you've put yourself in a position like this.

 

She does NOT love you, do you understand that? You are her puppet, she'll pick you up when she wants to play, and put you down when there's more convenient opportunities for her. Opportunities being other men.

[BaileyB]

Not often on these boards do we read a story as crazy as this... This is a crazy, codependent, dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship.

 

What she is doing to you, is unhealthy.

What you are doing to her, is unhealthy.

 

You need to separate from this girl and learn what it is to be with a woman who will love you and respect you - in a healthy relationship. YOU need to learn how to treat a woman with love and respect.

 

This is not love. This is not healthy.

Edited March 8, 2017 by BaileyB