ajaxlemon Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 I guess I can be naive about these things when I'm involved in the situation myself, but I can't tell if this 40-something man at work is interested in me or just being friendly. I can't give out the details, but he just seems a little too friendly to me... although at the same time he seems friendly to everyone (I don't really pay that much attention to him, although on the other hand he's brought up a couple things about me that I didn't expect him to have noticed). He's also mentioned his wife a few times, and to me that's a sure indicator that he doesn't want anything to do with me beyond casual friendship. Am I being naive though? Can a 40-something man be upfront about his marriage and still expect "more"? Should I keep my distance? Also, I know I "look like a virgin" and I don't know if this makes me more or less appealing as a sexual conquest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alamo657 Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 He is neither interested nor friendly, he's a man and the sight of a good looking young woman makes him want to flirt and be noticed. As long as you maintain a professional relationship and he doesn't make a move, it's nothing more than hormones and desire at play. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 It could be one or the other but if you don't watch yourself you might find youself in an adulterous relationship. All the WS that say they never sawit coming and it just happened, a lot are telling the truth. Strong boundries are needed to avoid or your next thread may be in the Waywards Forum. I adepted this from a post about how ex's wind up cheating on there spouses.. Use it as a guide to spot red flags. Be aware in many cases an EA occurs before hand with both Waywards feeling they have a connection. Work place E/A P/A I have modified a post I read on how an EX can entered back into a spouses life. *A work place relationship cam and often is *a far more dangerous situation to a marriage. *It creates a strong bonding experience of working as a team, developing goals, implementing a plan of a plan of action, overcoming problems, and sharing a successful outcome. *These are common traits in a successful marriage. * A perfect storm is about to happen.* They talk about and basks in their shared success, They eagerly look forward to working on the next project.* They begin to discuss their children and how great they are,* Their families How you're an excellent parent* How lucky they are to have such great spouses.* How you' each of you is a wonderful suppose.* How great their jobs are.* But how the job keeps both of *you busy How the *job keeps you away How they sometimes feels a little lonely and disconnected How they sometimes feels a little overburdened because the spouse into* **pulling their weight.* How they sometimes feels a little taken for granted How they *feels that you don't ALWAYS listen to them How they *feels that you don't ALWAYS understand them.* How they feel that sometimes you're just "not there" for her How, okay... Their spouse are not ALWAYS such a wonderful person.* How they loved working together* How they wish their spouses where as easy to work together like the * **two of you.* How they feel young again How they find feel appreciated, something their spouses don't do.* How they feel attractive again How it's so nice to have someone who just LISTENS to them How it's been so, so long since their spouses *made them feel that w Then BOOM their eyes have now been opened How they *now realizes what *truly wants and needs are *each other* How they *now realizes that there spouses could NEVER give them that How insensitive their spruces *can be be some times How they *can be a real jerks sometimes How they wonders if they should say married* How they *now realizes that they never really loved their spouse* How they *now realizes that they want inna marriage what they have at * ** *Work with each other,* How they ever could have fallen for a jerk like their spouses* How their spouses the biggest a++hole she's ever known How their spouses are *standing in the way of her true happiness How their spouses ruined their *life How they *made a big mistake marrying their *spouses* How they are made an even bigger mistake letting not being with each* **each other* How now they see that the two of you are really meant to be together How they desperately need *to get away from their *spouse* How they definitely going to leave their spouse* They are now comparing notes from *talking to divorce lawyers How they're going to live happily ever after... I hope this helps you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 Why do you give a rat's ass? Gonna let you in on a little secret. The world is FULL of married men just looking for an opportunity. I've been hit on by more married men in my lifetime than I can count. It's not flattering. Some guy looking to cheat on his wife and hoping you'll say 'yes' is hardly a testament to your good lucks or attractiveness. It's about opportunity. Don't lower yourself. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 It could be one or the other but if you don't watch yourself you might find youself in an adulterous relationship. All the WS that say they never sawit coming and it just happened, a lot are telling the truth. Strong boundries are needed to avoid or your next thread may be in the Waywards Forum. I adepted this from a post about how ex's wind up cheating on there spouses.. Use it as a guide to spot red flags. Be aware in many cases an EA occurs before hand with both Waywards feeling they have a connection. Work place E/A P/A I have modified a post I read on how an EX can entered back into a spouses life. *A work place relationship cam and often is *a far more dangerous situation to a marriage. *It creates a strong bonding experience of working as a team, developing goals, implementing a plan of a plan of action, overcoming problems, and sharing a successful outcome. *These are common traits in a successful marriage. * A perfect storm is about to happen.* They talk about and basks in their shared success, They eagerly look forward to working on the next project.* They begin to discuss their children and how great they are,* Their families How you're an excellent parent* How lucky they are to have such great spouses.* How you' each of you is a wonderful suppose.* How great their jobs are.* But how the job keeps both of *you busy How the *job keeps you away How they sometimes feels a little lonely and disconnected How they sometimes feels a little overburdened because the spouse into* **pulling their weight.* How they sometimes feels a little taken for granted How they *feels that you don't ALWAYS listen to them How they *feels that you don't ALWAYS understand them.* How they feel that sometimes you're just "not there" for her How, okay... Their spouse are not ALWAYS such a wonderful person.* How they loved working together* How they wish their spouses where as easy to work together like the * **two of you.* How they feel young again How they find feel appreciated, something their spouses don't do.* How they feel attractive again How it's so nice to have someone who just LISTENS to them How it's been so, so long since their spouses *made them feel that w Then BOOM their eyes have now been opened How they *now realizes what *truly wants and needs are *each other* How they *now realizes that there spouses could NEVER give them that How insensitive their spruces *can be be some times How they *can be a real jerks sometimes How they wonders if they should say married* How they *now realizes that they never really loved their spouse* How they *now realizes that they want inna marriage what they have at * ** *Work with each other,* How they ever could have fallen for a jerk like their spouses* How their spouses the biggest a++hole she's ever known How their spouses are *standing in the way of her true happiness How their spouses ruined their *life How they *made a big mistake marrying their *spouses* How they are made an even bigger mistake letting not being with each* **each other* How now they see that the two of you are really meant to be together How they desperately need *to get away from their *spouse* How they definitely going to leave their spouse* They are now comparing notes from *talking to divorce lawyers How they're going to live happily ever after... I hope this helps you. Thanks for posting this. Very useful. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 (edited) It doesn't matter if he's interested or not, he's married so it will go no where. It also doesn't matter what you look like, if they think you will put out the sleezy ones will go for it. If he's bothering you keep your distance from him. Edited June 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~T 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 Who cares what his intentions are? You control your actions, no one else does. And, btw, what does his age have to do with anything? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 Am I being naive though? Can a 40-something man be upfront about his marriage and still expect "more"? Of course. Some men especially around 40, bored in their marriages, are always on the look out for an "opportunity" to get extra sex with someone different. If he can persuade you that his wife is abusive, she never gives him sex and that he is SOO unhappy, so much the better. He then has you hooked, as how can you walk away from a man that NEEDS you that much... Should I keep my distance? Yes, unless you want to be treated like a sex toy and thrown in the garbage bin when his wife finds out. Also, I know I "look like a virgin" and I don't know if this makes me more or less appealing as a sexual conquest. More. Link to post Share on other sites
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