Has your spouse ever fallen asleep on you during foreplay.... Or do I just suck?

[soccorsilly]

Maybe the problem is that you don't suck?

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Wait.......Horse started the thread and soccer replied and it said 0 replies Weird....I fell asleep while getting eaten......but he woke me up at 5 am and just started munchin....I was kinda tired.

[NTB]

[laRubiaBonita]

i have fallen asleep before , afew times actually .

 

it is Not that it was not good, or that it was boring.......I was just super tired~!

 

I felt a little guilty once, but.....oh well!

 

my bf likes to have sex in the morning......he wakes up at 5:30....i usually drag outta bed at 9.

 

i am usually half asleep while being poked

[soccorsilly]

There was no initial message. There was just the title, so I replied.

 

Get the party started

[Horse]

I tried to post this whole message, but my connection at messed up, so I thought nothing went through.

 

So here it is:

 

I used to think that I was a good lover. I have had women seek me out because ex-girlfriends talk too much. I have even received thank you cards for a particularly good night of sex. I used to think that I know what I am doing and that I make sex fun, but now I am not so sure. My wife has fallen asleep on me during foreplay three times this year. Yes it was after her normal bed time, but...

 

The first time I was only a little upset, it was kind of funny in a humiliating sort of way. My ego was hurt a little, but I could understand how it happened. I was just running my fingers along her back and thighs and and she fell asleep. I wanted her to be relaxed, but not that relaxed.

 

This last time. I asked her if she was sure she wanted to fool around since it was sort of late (like 11pm). She said yes, it will be fun. Then she fell asleep while I was going down on her. I must have really hit the wrong spot.

 

She says I'm sexy, but right now I feel about as sexy as a calculus textbook.

 

I'll get over it, but it does take some of the fun out of sex (almost to the point where I prefer masturbation). My hand still wants me.

 

I'll get over it. I just wanted to see if anyone else has had their ego crushed in this particular way.

[Horse]

Originally posted by soccorsilly

Maybe the problem is that you don't suck?

 

I left myself wide open for that one.

 

Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

Wait.......Horse started the thread and soccer replied and it said 0 replies Weird....I fell asleep while getting eaten......but he woke me up at 5 am and just started munchin....I was kinda tired.

 

 

I just let her sleep.

[UltimateZen]

Originally posted by Horse

 

I'll get over it, but it does take some of the fun out of sex (almost to the point where I prefer masturbation). My hand still wants me.

 

Ahhhh. Good ol' Rosie Palm. She never lets us down!

 

I'll get over it. I just wanted to see if anyone else has had their ego crushed in this particular way.

 

It has happened, although before we even got started. Sleep is pretty powerful, when the body wants to shut down, the body shuts down. Try the shower before bedtime. Guaranteed neither of you will fall asleep while in the shower

[RecordProducer]

Falling asleep has nothing to do with being bored. The last time boredom made me fall asleep was when I was studying for my exams long time ago. Bad sex would rather piss me off than anything else.

It has happened to me. The last time I remember myself moaning and sleeping (waking up from time to time) while making love, I was very tired and had had some wine that evening. Altogether it felt good regardless.

[Horse]

If she was moaning in her sleep that might not have been so bad... but I had to check her pulse.

 

If I hadn't asked if she was too tired before I got started, I would be less butt-hurt.

 

If this hasn't happened three times this year, I would blow it off.

 

If she didn't talk about how she wants us to decorate the room that we are having sex in, during sex, my ego would be fine.

 

 

I guess I'm just venting and curious to see if other people have had this happen and how they dealt with the kick in the ego balls.

 

 

The part about "Bad sex would rather piss me off than anything else." is most likely true for my wife too.

 

I don't think I suck, I just think I don't excite her much.

[RecordProducer]

Originally posted by Horse

If she didn't talk about how she wants us to decorate the room that we are having sex in, during sex, my ego would be fine.

 

 

I don't think I suck, I just think I don't excite her much.

 

Well it could've been worse; she could've talked about decorating the room during making love to you!

She didn't did she?

 

I still don't think that her falling asleep 3 times this year means anything. You guys are incredible, never believe us when we say it's good. I guess it's because so many women lie about it or fake their orgasms which again happens because you guys are so sensitive in that filed.

 

In any case, I can advise you how to excite a woman. Forget the candles and hot baths and flowers. Be passionate, be all over her whenever you can, tell her how sexy and cute she is and how much she excites you, kiss her neck, play with her body for hours, ask her about her sexual fantasies, imagine sexy scenarios like "what if...", remind her of your happiest days, buy sexy underwear for her, drink wine together (alcohol is a great aphrodisiac)... well you get the picture!

[Horse]

Originally posted by RecordProducer

 

 

Well it could've been worse; she could've talked about decorating the room during making love to you!

She didn't did she?

 

 

Yes, she did. But at least she didn't fall asleep while talking about decorating the room.

 

 

Originally posted by RecordProducer

 

I still don't think that her falling asleep 3 times this year means anything. You guys are incredible, never believe us when we say it's good. I guess it's because so many women lie about it or fake their orgasms which again happens because you guys are so sensitive in that filed.

 

I used to believe it. I still do sometimes. It isn't hard to tell if a woman is really into it or just going through the motions.

 

I'm not naturally sensitive about this kind of thing. I know that most women have to be in the right frame of mind to have an orgasm and I don't take it personally when it doesn't happen. My usual thought is as long as we had fun, or as long as it helped her relax, then all is well. My wife doesn't fake anything and I appreciate that.

 

 

Originally posted by RecordProducer

In any case, I can advise you how to excite a woman. Forget the candles and hot baths and flowers. Be passionate, be all over her whenever you can, tell her how sexy and cute she is and how much she excites you, kiss her neck, play with her body for hours, ask her about her sexual fantasies, imagine sexy scenarios like "what if...", remind her of your happiest days, buy sexy underwear for her, drink wine together (alcohol is a great aphrodisiac)... well you get the picture!

 

I do all of that and the flowers and more.

 

The "what if" stuff is fun. It opens doors to doing new things.

 

She says she doesn't have any sexual fantasies.

 

Wine makes her sleepy. I'm going to avoid that one for a while.

 

Expressing passion is one of the things I like most about sex.

 

Hmmm... If I think about it, I know I don't suck, and I know I'm am a passionate person. So I guess my ego is just fine.

 

I think it's probably because she gets tired easily and I'm always available. Me being willing to have sex with her isn't exactly a special occasion to get excited over.

 

She's out of town in until the end of the month. I think it will be better for a while when she gets back. Well at least until she reads all of this and gets embarrassed and mad.

 

 

Can I play "what if" with you?

 

What would you do if your man fell asleep on you?

 

My best friend and former room-mate did that with a girl while she was riding him. She ran out of the house angry and never came back. I thought it was hysterical at the time.

[RecordProducer]

Originally posted by Horse

Can I play "what if" with you?

What would you do if your man fell asleep on you?

 

I tried to do that a few times and was careful not to wake my BF up, but he woke up right away. I love to play with him in his sleep. It excites me.

If he would fall asleep in the middle of it, I would think he is very tired. I don't relate falling asleep to the quality of the sex.

I guess you can't have wild sex with the same person forever, eh? But maybe if you experiment, do something forbidden or just try to relax, things might be kept fresh. I'd try something new with your wife, something you've never tried before.

Why does she read your posts? My BF doesn't know about LS. He could read everything I have written here, he knows everything I have posted, but I wouldn't feel free to post my thoughts if I knew he was visiting LS.

[Horse]

Originally posted by RecordProducer

Why does she read your posts? My BF doesn't know about LS. He could read everything I have written here, he knows everything I have posted, but I wouldn't feel free to post my thoughts if I knew he was visiting LS.

 

 

I don't know if she still does, but she has. We have two computers in the same room. Sometimes she looks over my shoulder out of curiosity. She asked, so I told her.

 

I was a little inhibited at first, but now I don't mind her reading it. It keeps me honest and I want her to know what is going on in my head.

 

 

What if... He was only a little tired and he was talking about a basketball game during sex when he fell asleep? Then it happened again. Then again?

 

You wouldn't feel even a little less desirable?

 

I know that is almost an impossible situation to imagine, given your circumstances, but try.

 

 

 

Thanks for the replies RP. I think I'm over it. It happens. I get it. I guess I just got lucky that it never happened before (we have beeen together 8 years). but I'm still curious about other peoples experiences or opinions.