stillafool Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 How do you know? Didn't the polygraph test prove this to you? What do you believe is true? I see that you are 31 and he is 21, that is the problem. He still has to live his youth. He is acting the way any 21 year old would. He's too young to be married with kids and will more than likely do this again and again. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chloeiris Posted June 21, 2016 Author Share Posted June 21, 2016 A lot has changed since I posted this. I am going through a lot of therapy and working on myself. I still have a lot of fears. His family is extremely wealthy, and he is a trust fund baby. I think he has around a million in his trust fund. I fear he will use that money to take our son. He has left me with no money to just move out and get a new house. He would never let me work. I have no family to go to either. So I am stuck, currently, and have no clue what to do next. But I do know that I am ready to have him 100% out of my life. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 A lot has changed since I posted this. I am going through a lot of therapy and working on myself. I still have a lot of fears. His family is extremely wealthy, and he is a trust fund baby. I think he has around a million in his trust fund. I fear he will use that money to take our son. He has left me with no money to just move out and get a new house. He would never let me work. I have no family to go to either. So I am stuck, currently, and have no clue what to do next. But I do know that I am ready to have him 100% out of my life. Period. File with the courts for support money - for you and your son. Find work ASAP so you have a steady income and can get moved and settled. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chloeiris Posted June 21, 2016 Author Share Posted June 21, 2016 File with the courts for support money - for you and your son. Find work ASAP so you have a steady income and can get moved and settled. I am dying to go back to work, but there are O daycares that are reliable in our area. We have 2 and one is ran out of a person's home. My son is only 6 months. I wish I could make my husband move. Our home is 100% paid for, no mortgage, but it is in his mother's name as she bought it. Then I could go back to working from home. I craft and use to make quite a bit of money! Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Hamilton Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 The chances of getting him out of the house if it's in his mother's name is pretty low, especially without you buying out his share (paying him or his mother). Contact a lawyer for help getting child support filed, or contact the court for a liaison to help you file. Contact the state for resources on registered day cares in the area (he should be required to help you pay but it may reduce the amount of child support he's required to pay). Home daycares are not necessarily bad, especially if it is registered by the state. If you file for food stamps, they may actually set you up with a daycare so you can go work. And unless your crafting brings in at least 1-2k reliably each month, and you can prove that over several months, finding a job outside of the home that provides reliable income should be your primary focus. In most states, the less you work and earn, the less child support you are entitled to. Income generated at home is a generally tough sell when it comes to litigating custody and support issues. At the very least, you know you can work when he has custody/visitation time and takes the baby. Does he work? If not, the trust can't be touched by you in a divorce... If that's his income, that will make things tricky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chloeiris Posted June 22, 2016 Author Share Posted June 22, 2016 So, is it illegal to out the AP on youtube? Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 I don't know if it's illegal, but it sounds like a horrible idea. Your husband cheated on you, why do you want to publicly shame the woman he perused? If you want to publicly shame anyone, shame the man you choose to marry. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Your husband is an AP too......you want him plastered all over you tube? What is fair for one is fair for another. and it always goes both ways. You cannot have an affair by yourself....there has to be a partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chloeiris Posted June 22, 2016 Author Share Posted June 22, 2016 I don't know if it's illegal, but it sounds like a horrible idea. Your husband cheated on you, why do you want to publicly shame the woman he perused? If you want to publicly shame anyone, shame the man you choose to marry. Because she sought him out, knowing he is married and wealthy. She had just got married herself. He will be outed too, but this girl is a piece of work! She told me about affair in a very nasty, "ha ha" way. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Because she sought him out, knowing he is married and wealthy. She had just got married herself. He will be outed too, but this girl is a piece of work! She told me about affair in a very nasty, "ha ha" way. She sought him out....and he said yes He is as guilty as she is if not more I would concentrate on your husband...and forget the ow Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Well if you love petty drama ans chaos in your life go for it. Is this woman number 2 or 3 that your husband has now cheated on you with ? I suppose he was an innocent victim, lured by this seductress huh? Your problem isn't this woman, your problem is the young boy you married. Why don't you divorce him and move on? This sort of drama wont bring any good, not for you, not for anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Hon, here's what you do. You're in no imminent danger. You have an infant. You need training to have a career. So use him and his money to GET that training in the next two years, put away money, and make your getaway plan. There are plenty of careers you can get that pay excellent money with two years of training. My DD25's friend just graduated from a junior college's two-year plan for dental hygienist. She'll be making in the 40's to 50s, and that's just to start. Already has a job lined up. Anyway, now's the time to take care of yourself. Fake it if you have to, but just get along for now. His family's probably watching you to see if you're going to try to bolt. Let them see you staying, and back off. Save that money, take that training, raise your child, look into local resources, and make your plan. By the time you're ready to leave, he will be unable to prove he should take your child away, as you'll have been raising him for two years. You'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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