blackpool-lad Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Don't think I'm bieng too daft here, but someone said to me that as well as having the essential social skills it's also important to hve the right 'look', kind of obvious in a sense I know.... They said (and they were quite experienced and older than me, but still in touch with our generation) that you should make sure everything is as right as can be, to make sure that you look 'quality' He said if you're going somewhere casual :- 1, Wear good quality jeans 2, Wear nice quality shoes / boots 3, Wear a nice watch He said that girls will check you out from head to toe and try to determine if you look succesfull or not Questions :- 1, Do you think there's any point in using loads of aftershave or deodorant, or would you say that providing you've just showered and don't smell bad then you're fine. I once read that you cover up the natural odours that women can find attracts them to men ? - do you think there's any truth in that comment 2, Is shaving so important, or is a bit o stuble considered manly, or again, does it depend on the girl ? 3, Is hairstyle important to women, or does it fall into the looks catergory where women are 'supposed' not to be so critical of those type of things ? - is a trendy spikey hair do an advantage 4, Are sideburns in, out, or indifferent ? Please post any advice regarding clothing, looks, image, etc Many thanks for the advice Paul Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Originally posted by blackpool-lad Questions :- 1, Do you think there's any point in using loads of aftershave or deodorant, or would you say that providing you've just showered and don't smell bad then you're fine. I once read that you cover up the natural odours that women can find attracts them to men ? - do you think there's any truth in that comment just wash up and use deoderant. Maybe a dab of cologne.......only someone next to you should be able to smell you. Originally posted by blackpool-lad 2, Is shaving so important, or is a bit o stuble considered manly, or again, does it depend on the girl ? i personall, like a clean shaven man.....on most guys, but there are those that look really hot with facial hair, or stubble. it is preference...But GENERALLY i would say start out shaven. Originally posted by blackpool-lad 3, Is hairstyle important to women, or does it fall into the looks catergory where women are 'supposed' not to be so critical of those type of things ? - is a trendy spikey hair do an advantage again, preference. But a kempt look is good, or an unkempt-but-worked-to-make-it-look-unkempt-look. Basically, show that you put effort into looking decent, a person can usually tell if you just rolled outta bed. Originally posted by blackpool-lad 4, Are sideburns in, out, or indifferent ? indifferent, personal preference. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Well honestly I think pretty much everything comes down to personal preference with the exception of.. Hell yeah shower! Seriously.. My BF is not a dress to impress kind of guy, he just isn't.. never has been. While his clothes are clean (and for real, that boy can do laundry so it smells soooo damn good!) they are not labels so to speak.. He wears Jeans and usually a Motocross T'shirt with Vans.. He hasn't had his hair cut since April (No lie!) while he doesn't have a mustache or beard, because his hair is black he tends to get 5 O'clock shawdow when he hasn't shaven.. he doesn't own a watch, he doesn't wear cologne.. BUT honestly put that Guy in a pair of jeans, and White Tank top just out of the shower... and IMO he's sexy As long as you're clean and reasonably kept I guess everything else is a matter of personal preference for whom you might attract Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 funny.....outfit, shoes and watch ARE what I lUSED to look at first! Weird? My ex or whatever he is now caught my eye becasue of those things. Although he makes it a point to buy a Tag Heuer watch, expensive shoes and nice clothes because he is very into letting people know he is a money maker! Now looking back I hated that about him! So, I know now that those things mean nothing as far as what a person is like on the inside. Link to post Share on other sites
Tinkerbelly Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 This one is kind of funny to me because I think some of that stuff does matter to a point...but you also don't want to look like you're trying too hard or like you're too done up. I say hair matters to an extent...but as long as it looks good on you that's good enough for me. I actually hate all the guys that are doing this shaggy looking this now, what's up with that? Clothes matter to a point but I'm not a huge clothes person so I'd say as long as you look decent that's okay for me also. Shaving? I guess it could go either way. Don't look too burly, but a little stubble can be sexy A watch I could really care less if you even have one. Smell...I say you either smell clean, or wear a nice cologne that's not too overpowering. You should only be able to smell it if you get close enough Sideburns? I guess it depends on the person and how they look on them. I don't know...I'm just not all that attracted to guys that try too hard to look good. Simple guys are what I'm all about Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 The suggestion about quality, clean jeans, shoes, and watch, all in good condition, is excellent. You will never go wrong following that tip in a casual setting. But as to specifics of hairstyle, facial hair, cologne, etc. I would say that it is time to develop your personal style and a very good sense of what looks good on you and flatters you best. "Clean" is always a good smell. Noticeable cologne is something I would avoid, unless you get LOTS of compliments when you use it. As you develop a more sophisticated style, you can wear it a bit heavier. The haircut etc. that might be perfect for your buddy may be all wrong for you. Work with a good hairstylist or a close friend with very good taste. Find a friend who dresses very well to help you choose clothes. If you have a well-built body, definitely show that off in the right clothes - not tacky, just tasteful. If you have a weak chin, wear a beard. Choose shirt colo0rs depending on your skin and hair - it can make an amazing difference. If your skin is pale, wear darker-colored shirts (not white). Here's a thought...while you're trying to pick up girls, approach a well-dressed and tastefully turned out young lady, compliment her look, and ask her for fashion/hair/etc. advice. You might make a new friend, or at worst, get some hints and tips. Hope this helps, and happy hunting! Link to post Share on other sites
katiebour Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 I love a man who dresses well, although the guy I'm currently dating won't win any fashion awards Here are my preferences: -No advertising on the shirt- it should be something you buy, not something someone gives you. -Tucked-in shirt with belt is nice. -Clean-shaven at first- if we date long enough I'll see you unshaven eventually -Nice shoes! Yes! Yes! NO tennis shoes! -Watch optional- but it is nice to see a guy who has nice guy accessories, whether it be cell phone, watch, whatever. Everything should be clean- shoes shined, etc. Iron anything that needs ironing- if I spend an hour getting ready to see you, it would be nice to see that you've taken the same care in getting ready to see me. Enough cologne that when we get close, I can catch a hint of scent- and want to get closer. Hairstyle- whatever looks good on you. I'm with Rubia here- a person can usually tell if you just rolled outta bed. I don't like sideburns- but that's just my personal preference. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 clean, trim fingernails are a mustif you've got bushy eyebrows or a uni-brow, spend a few bucks for a wax...it really helpsno haircoloring/highlighting on men...it's just wrongget regular haircuts every 3-5 weeksno tight or baggy jeans....get ones that fit your behindno cell phone or PDA holsters. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 1, Do you think there's any point in using loads of aftershave or deodorant Never ever use 'loads' of aftershave. Deodorant - YES!!!! Antiperspirant, too. Big sodden patches under the arms are not very attractive. Many deodorants are scented and sometimes that's all you need. If you do wear cologne, use just a couple of dabs or one or two shots of spray. Wear one which you like and that you feel suits you. 2, Is shaving so important, or is a bit o stuble considered manly, or again, does it depend on the girl ? Partly it depends on the girl and partly it depends on your look. I am a fan of facial hair but many women aren't - however I think stubble just looks sloppy and unkempt. Some women are hot for goatees - again, not my taste. Your best bet is to go to a good men's salon and ask the opinion of your stylist as to what, if any, facial hair suits you. 3, Is hairstyle important to women, or does it fall into the looks catergory where women are 'supposed' not to be so critical of those type of things ? - is a trendy spikey hair do an advantage Everything needs to look clean and cared-for (and not just for dating - expect to keep this up for jobs and for social events to the end of your days!). Some guys look good in the spikes and some guys look like knobs. Again, ask a good stylist to give you a style that suits you. 4, Are sideburns in, out, or indifferent ? Again, depends on your face. clean, trim fingernails are a must ABSOLUTELY! If she sees grime under your nails or ragged uneven nails she's going to think 'I don't want those hands anyplace near my body'! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Every female is different and has certain turn on's. -Smelling good. That is a high one on my list! (A freshly showered man, with some old spice Deoderant does it for me) Katie is SO right, just enough to get a sniff that makes the gal go HMMMMM... -White Tshirt and jeans. -I prefer a more casual look, than a guy in a suit. My husband wore a tux to a black tie event actually and that was HOT on him... -No gel, hairspray, real styled hair. That actually turns me off abit...I prefer el natural. -Facial hair isn't a factor in my decision. As long as isn't too stubbly and rough. -Well kept nails are a must actually, keep 'em short! If you know what I mean... -Ha, same with toenails. Yuk yuk and more yuk! Nothing grosser than seeing a guy with long toenails! Just be comfy in the clothes you try on. If you go shopping and really don't feel like yourself in them, then don't buy it. There's NOTHING worse than buying clothing, then wearing it later on and realizing you feel weird and uncomfy in them! Be confident and FEEL good about you. The more you feel good about yourself, the more positive energy you will put out there and that will definately be noticed as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackpool-lad Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 Just like to say THANKYOU for all the replies, it's great to hear different peoples views on this post, the replies are interesting and most apreciated, thanks for taking the time Paul Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 I always notice the shoes......but usually when it's too late and I'm already hooked on the guy for who he is. Then we go shopping! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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