BarackObama Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 I'm almost 30 and everyone around my age are married or have a gf. I never had a gf/relationship with a women. Why is that no women wants me? Am I covered in thorn? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 From the scant information you've given, it's pretty impossible for posters on an internet forum to determine if you're covered in thorns or not. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 To get a gf, you need to have enough personality and courage to talk to women, and you need to talk to women who are at your attractiveness level or below, or you have to have something special going for you like money or fame. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 You waited til yo are almost 30 to get help with this??? I think your question would be best answered by a close female in your life. Go ask her for her honest opinion and then improve on whatever it is that she tells you is your stumbling block. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 (edited) Love and relationships are about giving the best of yourself to other people. Have you found the best of yourself? How good, and real, is the best of you? Edited June 7, 2016 by Satu 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 I'm almost 30 and everyone around my age are married or have a gf. I never had a gf/relationship with a women. Why is that no women wants me? Am I covered in thorn? I guess women might pass you up because there's a "better" choice available. Some people aren't meant to have relationships. I must ask...have you tried asking anyone out? Can you approach women at all? Some men on LS can't even do that much. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BarackObama Posted June 8, 2016 Author Share Posted June 8, 2016 To get a gf, you need to have enough personality and courage to talk to women, and you need to talk to women who are at your attractiveness level or below, or you have to have something special going for you like money or fame. I lose here. Also, How do you determine attractiveness level? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BarackObama Posted June 8, 2016 Author Share Posted June 8, 2016 I guess women might pass you up because there's a "better" choice available. Some people aren't meant to have relationships. I must ask...have you tried asking anyone out? Can you approach women at all? Some men on LS can't even do that much. I can't. In my workplace there are not any women at all. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 I lose here. Also, How do you determine attractiveness level? Well, you don't need money or fame. But they get a mention because they are the only way to keep from needing the other two things, personality and attractiveness. I think someone on here said there was some website where you could upload a photo and let people rate your looks. Of course, it's probably kind of hard to listen to since a certain amount of internet people enjoy tearing others down. Generally, you can tell your attractiveness level by the whole of your closest friends' attractiveness and can tell which women are within reach by paying attention not to the one prettiest one in the room but the ones who will come stand by you or smile or talk to you in a place where they don't have to. In other words, the rules don't apply at work, where people all have to be friendly to you as part of their job. You can't make anything of it. Do you have a circle of friends? If yes, chances are you are social enough to also attract a woman. If not, you have social skills to work on. Ask a female not related to you for an honest 1 to 10 rating of just your looks. Because unfortunately, online, that's about all anyone sees at first. If you don't have someone to do it, ask a friend who you think will be honest, but I will caution that men value different things in looks than women do and usually place too much weight on muscles or underestimate how important a nice face and hair are. But look online and google it and I think you'll find someplace where people can give you an idea. Make yourself more interesting by keeping up with the news and popular culture and so you'll have something to talk about, plus read different types of books. Take up as many new activities as you can think of because they more you are out circulating, the more people you'll meet. Even making new friends is a way to meet women. Having a larger network is always good, so be social. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 Am I covered in thorns Lame Duck... Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron007 Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 Okay, let's get you started with some reading: The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida Models: How to attract women through honesty - Mark Manson Open Her.... : Karen Brody If you're feeling low/mood swings, here's another one: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy - David Burns MD Then let's get you social....switch off that TV/XBox, go out and talk to everybody: not just pretty women, but baristas and bellboys, grandpas and kids, everyone of any gender and age....in other words, be more sociable, Join local dance classes: swing is great! ..as you find yourself more sociable, start flirting with women you find attractive with no outcome in mind (takes some practice!) Rest is what the doctor advises: exercise, eat healthy, sleep well! That's all to it really...good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 [/b] I can't. In my workplace there are not any women at all. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear, but I mean are you capable of approaching women at all? To strike up a conversation with one and if there seems to be more conversation than time permits, ask her if she would like to go for coffee or lunch to continue said conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 In my workplace there are not any women at all. No doubt Hillary would have been available every few nights as of 4+ years ago. Which begs the question: "What in the world is the big creep going to do when he's all alone, with no job, and no wife around each day?" (Idle hands are the devil's workshop) Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 [/b] I can't. In my workplace there are not any women at all. ...so what? Why can't you approach women outside of your workplace? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BarackObama Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 ...so what? Why can't you approach women outside of your workplace? Well, how do you approach complete strangers? Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Well, how do you approach complete strangers? Go to a bar..alcohol makes people less inhibited. Make a funny observation to someone standing near you (I.e in line at the bank - this is how I met the boyfriend before my current boyfriend). Ask to borrow a pen. Give the person a compliment. Walk up to her and say 'excuse me but I just wanted to tell you how beautiful you are'. There are many ways.. Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Barack, I luv ya. Your gurl's got your back! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Well, how do you approach complete strangers? Strike up a conversation with a girl. If the conversation is so good that both of you are well engaged, ask if she would like to continue it elsewhere -- namely over coffee or lunch. Decide on a neutral place to meet and be punctual, don't look like a slob, wash up, brush your teeth, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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