Grg1 Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 Do you girls actually get approached that often when you try to get guys to notice you and don't even talk to them? Personally, I'm not going to ask someone out when I know nothing about them. Maybe it's just my age but I don't like wasting my time. I'm not looking for a hook up. When I do interact and talk to girls there's times I'm subconscious about asking someone out who's at least 12 years younger than me. It's not unusual for people to think I am only 25. I'm 37. How much should I worry about it, Do you think it should be addressed before were on the date -- oh btw I'm almost 40? Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 How are you going to find out if they are worth getting to know if you don't say hello? You can get your age into conversation somehow. Oh its my mate so and so's birthday soon. Can't believe he is going to be 40 just as well I am three years behind so I can rib him about it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grg1 Posted June 30, 2016 Author Share Posted June 30, 2016 This happens to me all the time - I check someone out and the next thing I know they want me to ask them out. The problem is I'm not always interested and I don't know how to convey that since they never talk to me and some get PO'd if I ignore them. I certainly don't want them to get all dressed up for my sake. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 How do you know they want you if they are not talking to you? Link to post Share on other sites
ChocolateRain Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 This happens to me all the time - I check someone out and the next thing I know they want me to ask them out. The problem is I'm not always interested and I don't know how to convey that since they never talk to me and some get PO'd if I ignore them. I certainly don't want them to get all dressed up for my sake. What ??????? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 It's a tough life you lead... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 This happens to me all the time - I check someone out and the next thing I know they want me to ask them out. The problem is I'm not always interested and I don't know how to convey that since they never talk to me and some get PO'd if I ignore them. I certainly don't want them to get all dressed up for my sake. Are you sure you're not imagining all this? Not tryina be mean but if you never talk to these girls how do you know that they want you to ask them out? And furthermore, how do you know that they are pissed at you for not asking them out - maybe you just annoy them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 If they get up set for not having your attention or dress to impress you who cares? It's not your problem. tip: no matter what always be a gentleman. Be kind, and acknowledge people accordingly because it's good manners. If you act like a pompous d*^% you will attract negative behavior. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 It might be possible for them to mistake you for younger on looks alone, though I very much doubt it because style of the moment will definitely give you away, but once they talk to you for any length of time, they will know you are not of their generation. And yes, you need to be honest about your real age. And no, most young women will not be interested in you for long because of the big age gap. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron007 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 (edited) This happens to me all the time - I check someone out and the next thing I know they want me to ask them out. The problem is I'm not always interested and I don't know how to convey that since they never talk to me and some get PO'd if I ignore them. I certainly don't want them to get all dressed up for my sake. I'm hoping that you perceive non-verbal cues from these women like strong uninterrupted eye contact, blushing, focusing on you and laughing at your jokes, if so, then good for you, otherwise your statement above sounds pretty delusional, something a 16-yo high school jock would say, rather than a 37-yo grown-up. In any case, by not asking them out, you are signaling your non-interest, so you should leave it at that. As far as age convos go, I mention that I lived in XYZ for 5 years, then in country ABC for 4 years, which signals I have traveled the world (positive) AND conveys the age difference message... Also, despite your comments, I get the feeling you have not actually gone out with any of these women you speak about, if you had, the age differences would become obvious quite naturally in the flow of conversation, especially when talking about life experiences. Edited June 30, 2016 by redbaron007 Link to post Share on other sites
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