KellyAnn1 Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 I'm new to this forum and need advice on dating. I'm over 27, should women put themselves out there or sit back and wait for men to do the pursuing? Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Everyone regardless of gender should approach dating in the manner that makes most sense for them. Conventional wisdom will tout that getting out there, meeting new people, trying online avenues etc is the 'way to approach dating'. However I've not once ever met a partner by doing any of those things. My experience is that when you are ready for a partner they invariably turn up in your life no matter where you are, or what you are doing. I've met every single one by minding my own business. Of course I am also completely happy to be single for long stretches of time and I frequently am single for long stretches of time. I have never gone looking for a partner because I'm of the mind that when you do, all that happens is you meet people who are totally unsuitable for you anyway. This theory of mine (note I've never tried to date so have never put it to the test) seems to be proven by the experience of the many hundreds of people posting on forums like these. Getting out there doesn't seem to be matching them up with great people. When I do meet these mysterious individuals that seem to bump into me from time to time I just go for the jugular. They don't happen often so no time to waste really. You don't know if you'll ever see them again so offer your number and ask them out. That is how I approach it. There is no 'way to approach' according to gender. If there is, then I have never known about it and it's never seemed to matter to the outcome. There is no way to be that guarantees you'll find a partner. Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 "Fortune favors the bold." Taking action doesn't guarantee success. Doesn't mean some don't get lucky. It just increases our odds. Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Sit back where, and wait for what exactly? Giddy up, Kelly Ann. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 "Grab him! Take him! Like that!" Just ask a guy out. He might miss out on any subtle courtship signals, but he won't miss if you are honest and forward with him. Link to post Share on other sites
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