Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Well we didn't make any plans or anything when I last talked with her, she had just got back from work and it was late, but she had said she really wanted to talk to me later. So we'll see. I know I forgot to mention this, but I've noticed recently when she hangs out with me, she wears the perfume I got her for christmas. I don't know if that means anything I'm probably just reading too deep into it for my own good. But I'm definately going to talk with her when I get the chance to see what's going on. woah woah woah she said she really needed to talk to you??? when?? when she IMed you?? hmmmmmmm..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EvilChicobo Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I never said the facts weren't true; they're just excuses, that's all, so that she can do other things. Bottom line is, she's backing away from you, and it's hurting you tremendously. What I don't understand is why you put up with it. Not yet, but she certainly doesn't want to be with you. That's how you have to look at it. What makes you so sure she doesn't want to be with me though? please point out where you are seeing this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EvilChicobo Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by Da_1_n_OnlyN3na woah woah woah she said she really needed to talk to you??? when?? when she IMed you?? hmmmmmmm..... Her exact words were "I'll definately be talking to you later" before she signed off last night Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 so shes going to talk to you tinight am i right? hmmm Originally posted by westernxer I never said the facts weren't true; they're just excuses, that's all, so that she can do other things. Bottom line is, she's backing away from you, and it's hurting you tremendously. What I don't understand is why you put up with it. Not yet, but she certainly doesn't want to be with you. That's how you have to look at it. What makes you so sure she doesn't want to be with me though? please point out where you are seeing this? well if she didnt want to be with him she wouldnt be giving him thes signs dont you think??EvilChicobo she is definetly missing you shes wanting to talk to you she took you to bed bath and beyond to help her pik something for herself and she brushes on him lol i mean hello??? shes definetly still atracted to you and has feelings for you still shes just confused...you guys say so yourself.. "who understands girls"..lol yea we can be confusing but i mean come on give us a break lol...but anyways if she wants to talk to you about something it must be somthing about you both isnt it?? hmm tell us what happens when she talks to you... Link to post Share on other sites
scared shy Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 EvilChicobo What makes you so sure she doesn't want to be with me though? please point out where you are seeing this? This is coming from a female and just MHO, if I want to be with a guy I like/love then I will. If I don't know what I want but I still have feelings for someone then I keep them around as friends while I am still deciding exactly what to do with them. Bottom line you sound like you really love this girl, so let go and if it was really meant to be she will come back, sorry to sound so cliche, but it's as simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by EvilChicobo What makes you so sure she doesn't want to be with me though? please point out where you are seeing this? Quoting your first post... Originally posted by EvilChicobo ...about 3 weeks ago she broke up with me. Her reasoning was that she wasn't sure what she wanted, she was very depressed about herself. She wanted to be on her own and experience life, and possibly date other people. No wonder, she's only 19. My bad for overlooking this information. Time to let her go... Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 originally posted by westernxer No wonder, she's only 19. My bad for overlooking this information. Time to let her go... omg not like that you love her dont you .. well when you love some one you cant let go off them that quikly this will take time and i think right now youre doing great your not really contacting her she is contacting you... just wait and see what happens if it was meant to be she will come bak... what you are doing right now is great you are not needy or helpless you are moving on with your life while loving her.. you are not doing anything wrong.. like i said only time will tell Link to post Share on other sites
Author EvilChicobo Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by Da_1_n_OnlyN3na hmm tell us what happens when she talks to you... Well, I talked with her last night. She told me that she cares a lot for me, and she really wants me in her life. It's just that right now she feels we make better friends. She said she had so much fun hanging out with me, and she feels we're both doing really well. She especially thinks I'm handling things really well. I asked her if she saw us together again in the future, she said perhaps, but she can't be certain, that we never know. Of course I was hoping to see more of her feelings for me, but I guess things can't always go how we want them to huh. I'm just going to go on with my life, I love her unconditionally I know I really do. And I'll still love her, but I'm going to focus on my life right now. I so badly wanted to be with this girl, maybe someday it will happen. Maybe not. I'm not going to be bothering her, I'm going to give her all the time and space she needs. Maybe one day she'll look back and see what we had was so amazing. I know she's young and wants to explore, but I can't help but wonder why knock a good thing. Granted there was a lot we needed to work on, with both of us. All our friends tell me we were like the cutest couple, we went so perfectly together. And even they still think that down the road she'll want to get back with me. I just wish I could stop the dreams I keep having. Every time I sleep she's in my dreams, and it's just so heart wrenching I wake up with chest pain. I know I'll get through this though. Guess it's better to have loved and lost huh? I really could spent forever with that girl. It's too bad forever had to end too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Keep your head up, man, and don't hold a torch for her, otherwise you'll miss other chicks who are just as deserving of your time. Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I really could spent forever with that girl. It's too bad forever had to end too soon. ..... sad to say but nothing is for ever ...yea i wish i had been with my ex for ever i was stupic to think i really was and we were meant to be and yea we cant always get what we want in life... at least you know she still cares for you and says that perhaps she sees you guys back together but dont wait up for her either you know what you are doing and how to handle this you seem to have figured it out.. .... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by Da_1_n_OnlyN3na [/i} at least you know she still cares for you and says that perhaps she sees you guys back together... Yeah, she'll come back when he's with someone else. It never fails. Link to post Share on other sites
lovehurts23 Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 i like ur style man!....create competition!! I've recently come out of a relationship with a girl who claimed she needed space because she needed to be single for a while. It's been so confusing the past couple of months. She says one thing, then does another. Well, she's seeing another guy now. 3 weeks after our split in may, we went out for a night out as friends, i ended up going back to her house and sleeping with her. This was only 3weeks ago when she was claiming to be seeing this guy! the day after she says she's confused and it wasnt supposed to happen but it felt so right at the time and was really nice, but she felt guilty coz she still likes this other guy!!....argh! what about me!!!...(i didnt say that). ...anyway, weeks have passed and ive seen them about and have chatted to them both. I kept very calm and made it look as if i wasnt bothered and was normal with them. when i was alone with her she was saying stuff like ' i hate you' in a cheeky way while smiling at me.....as if she still likes me but says the exact opposite to hide it. it's weird, she's been calling me up asking how i am recently, i've been polite and normal with her saying everything is fine and i've been busy, i've always ended the conversations 1st. I think it may be time to introduce some sort of competition as i've never tried this before and heard it works if u want your ex back!..... Just thought i'd say its a good idea man!! think i'm ready to try it. I mean,,, she's seeing some1 now, i shouldnt feel guilty by doing this. It could be messy though and i dont want to mess anyone about just in order to get my ex bk!, its not fair, i wish there was another way of getting her attention(even though her cracks are beginning to show now, i want more from her!). And to the guy who did the original post... sounds like ur going about things the right way now dude!, keep it cool and maybe dissapear from her life for a few weeks....she'll realise what she's missing!, but i tell u man, you'll need an iron will. It took mine 3weeks to get in touch again, but it worked!!.. good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Drivetildriven Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 I'd like to believe that, westernxer is right. My woman broke up with me after three years. I got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore," her passion for me is completely gone, she sees me as more of a friend than a BF. I could write a book on the details, but that's it in a nutshell. I'm just going to date as many hot woman as I can, she needs to be made jealous. In a few months, I'm going to war (I'm in the military). If after all that, she doesn't want me back, she never will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EvilChicobo Posted July 9, 2005 Author Share Posted July 9, 2005 Well I thought I'd go ahead and post an update on my situation. It's been about a month now since we broke up, I've been doing my thing she's been doing hers. And we'd chat every now and then. About a week or so ago I was at a party and I had gotten really drunk, I saw my friend calling people on his cel phone and well, I was drunk and thought I should do the same thing so I called my ex lol. Well I talked for her for an hour and a half. I remember what I talked about but she believes I was too drunk to remember anything. I know while we talked she had mentioned she still cared a lot for me and missed me. Well a few days went by, I talked with her and apologized for calling while I was drunk. I invited her out for lunch, which she then changed to dinner. So I meet up with her when she gets off work, and we go out to eat. I made sure she was comfortable and was having a great time. I remember during our conversations I had asked "So what sort of stuff did I say to you when I was drunk?" and she turned white as a ghost, cause I know we had talked about some very intimate issues and she thought I didn't remember. I thought it was funny, the look on her face was priceless. So she invites me back to her house, invites me inside, we talk a little. I had written her a poem that I had wrote about her and I snuck it in her purse while she went to change. After that we went for a walk, talked some more. Again I made sure she was having a good time. We get back to her house and I'm about to head on my way. This time she hugs me, and doesn't let go, she just lets me hold her. Then she starts up another conversation, as if she doesn't want me to leave. We hugged good bye two more times, her not wanting to let go either time. At one point we almost kissed, but I made sure to resist. So I went home, a few days later I felt like hanging out and talking to her again, so she invited me over. We went for another walk again. This time she asks me what's on my mind, and I tell her. I explain how I've been having so much fun going to parties, hanging out with friends, all that good stuff, but somehow even admist all the fun I still felt empty, like something was missing. I didn't get too emotional on her, but I let her know that I still cared for her, and that I'd always be there. We went and sat at a playground by a school nearby. She had told me that she still hasn't gotten over me. That lately she's been confused because some times she really misses me, but other times she enjoys being on her own. She then told me how she really misses her mom, and got into this whole conversation about how we sometimes take things for granted until they're gone. She had told me that she wanted me to know she isn't going to England to meet someone new, she's going to be an Au Pair and take care of the family there. And made it very clear that she intends to come back after she's done. So we head back cause she's getting cold, and we kind of walk with our arms around eachother. We get back to her house and talk some more lol I know! Lots of talking. We hug and it's like the last time, she doesn't want to let go. And then she pulls back a bit and just looks in my eyes, and we start to lean closer. My nose rubs against hers and our lips are barely touching. I can tell she's getting very nervous, and she tells me that we probably shouldn't, she didn't want to complicate things cause we aren't dating. So I kissed her on the nose and then on the cheek. She let me hold her and then as she's walking to her house she comes back and once again gets very close to me. But I can tell she's debating in her mind to kiss me or not. So I say to her "I'm not going to kiss you unless you're sure you want it." And she smiled. And we hugged, and then said good night. When I got hom she IMed me instantly when I got online. She told me she had been thinking about the things we said and if we should have kissed or not. She said she wished we had, but she was worried it would make things complicatied. She asked me if I thought it felt right or not. I told her if something feels right than it is. I told her that loving her felt right to me, so I just do. Eventually she found the poem I had written her lol I had to give her some hints. I figured something special like that might show her that I do love her 100% without having to say it. Anyhow, my plan is to stay close to her, and see how things go for a year, and hopefully when she gets back from England we can see if we can pick up where we left off. So I'm just curious, do you guys think that this is going in the right direction? Does it sound as if there's a chance I can have the woman I want to spend my life with back with me one day? I just need to give her the time to do what she wants and figure out things for herself is what I believe, but what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted July 9, 2005 Share Posted July 9, 2005 I think you need to add a little more sex and violence to your story. It's almost a chick-flick at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EvilChicobo Posted July 9, 2005 Author Share Posted July 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I think you need to add a little more sex and violence to your story. It's almost a chick-flick at this point. lmao that made my day Link to post Share on other sites
ciara12step Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 Man reading this story is almost an exact situation with my now ex g/f almost to a tee, she's 22, her mom passed away 2 years ago, her grandmother a few months ago, shes been abused by her last 2 ex bf's , we've been together for a year, but just broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago . . She said the same thing, about needing space, etc, we never argued at all, we are always straight fwd with eachother .. it's so hard for me not to talk to her, i do everything i can, but still finding myself calling her once every few days .. i already know what to do, i have to just let go and move on , its really hard, but thats the only thing i can do to even have a slight chance of her comin back .. Link to post Share on other sites
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